That's sad. She would rather lose her kids and marriage over a place to stay.

 

That's not really fair. Obviously she's worried about the home because it's part of the natural security she's used to. It's not as if she cares about it more than the kids or our marriage.

By being around, I can keep a much closer eye on the situation. That's going to keep the kids far safer than me being out of the house. There's the possibility of me taking them but then there's the issue of separating them from their friends/school/neighborhood not to mention that I don't have a place for them to stay, unless I somehow kicked her out of the house. And then there's all the legal stuff to consider. How I'd accomplish kicking her out of the house in the first place. Oh, and I work full time (and a half...) so who would watch them? You have to consider all the variables. It's not that simple.

You could be right. In fact, I'd give it a greater than 50% chance it will happen. But I still feel I owe it to her to prove she can change, and that we can make things right again. I called her out on this and she's reacted in a way that's consistent with anyone who is truly sorry for what they've done.

If it were to happen again, I'd have no guilt on my conscience. But if I left now I'd know that I never gave her a chance to make things right.

 

Third times the charm I guess....

 

She's fucking around with a pedo.. and you think you and the kids are her priority.




I'm pretty sure her priorities are:

1. Pedo
2. How much money can I get in a divorce
3. If we get split custody, I can probably keep the house and pedo dude can move in
4. Pedo dude is innocent and a great dad.. always giving the kids special attention (not like my husband who works all the time and gets up in my business)
5. I wonder if I should get a new phone with fingerprint access
6. Kids
7. Bestie from HS
8. I need new lingerie
9. Is it going to rain tomorrow?
10. Should I flush that turd that's floating in the toilet before it gets really stinky?
11. OP

 

Might as well shoot for a threesome #notgayifballsdonttouch

 

on his kids.. cheesus crust costco

 

pedo is baiting wife, targeting kids
why do these things have to be explained

 

Well, I'll just say this - 1) I don't think you've even consulted with an attorney to see if there's a path on these issues; and 2), I'm going through a divorce of my own and know a little about the process both personally and professionally. I don't think you're trying very hard, honestly.

 

T... man.. I knew something was up.
I even chatted with J a week back that we need to reach out and give you some love (handjob).
I had a feeling, I'm really sorry you're going through this.

 

This sucks.

 

Hmmm, I rather doubt the #metoo movement has anything to do with any of this. I say this as the "other guy" (from back before I got married, which by the way, was decades before the #metoo movement started). Some folks step out of their marriages from time to time, fact of life; if/when the infidelity is discovered, then all parties concerned need to figure out what to do next. Fortunately none of my dalliances were ever discovered.

 

Read first

 

So you let her live on with the guilt of knowing you busted her and she is horrible but never let her know you did it too?

I'm talking about current events...it seems like no matter how good a guy they think they can do better.

 

what the fuck are you two quoting?

 

Apparently a post you don't remember making.

 

Typical J
Florida Man

 

What happens in SE Asia, stays in SE Asia
Except venereal disease
Shit

 

Nah, I'm not quite that old; the Vietnam draft was canceled two weeks before my eighteenth birthday.

 

I thought for sure this kid was yours..
Probably mine

 

Shhhh! Don't tell no one; Mrs. Horseshoez don't know nuthin' about dat time of my life.

 

Okay so now I've actually read through the thread. My mind is blown.
I can't really add anything that hasn't already been said.

Without going into it, I will say that I inadvertently put my child in danger by giving her mother too many chances.
I realized that I was as guilty as she was if something were to happen to the little one. and then I would have to eat a bullet. My
final words before taking (not asking for) emergency withholding go fuck yourself I dare you to try and pick her up custody
was that I couldn't let my "compassion for her problem kill our kid." I was no longer going to be her friend (and enabler)
I was now just our daughter's Father and any further action would reflect only compassion for her.

Brother, you sound down...
in a big way. Who the fuck wants to go live on they mama couch with 6 fucking ducklings asking for the playstation password and what's for dinner?
Especially when Mom used to handle all that and you were used to being able to hide at work (yeah I said it) while the hard work was done at home.
You don't have tits to suck, you don't know how you'll feed them or put them through college, or what advice to give the teens.
But you will not be able to look in the mirror and not feel like more of a piece of shit than you already probably do. You'll regain steam, you'll rise from
the ashes. You'll reinvent the next better version of yourself...you'll tackle why you chose to make 6 kids with a person like this (she didn't develop into this)
and why you don't love yourself enough to walk away from it under the guise that you're doing it for a much more noble cause.

Think about how a woman's mind works. This isn't side dick. This isn't a passing mistake. I love you 2 years ago? Meeting the kids? This woman plans to
have a life with this guy. And sure, people make mistakes...live and let live...maybe it wasn't his hard drive. But you know what? Maybe it was. I don't know
almost ANY women that haven't had something bad happen to them. Your 12 and 14 year olds are going through changes...this guy is sick. C'mon man...
you'll end up bending over and letting this happen until something really happens and you end up murdering the guy and then you're really of no use to the kids.

The writing is on the prison wall, man. You are a joke. But you don't have to be. Today is the first day you can be something you weren't yesterday.
Proceed with divorce, move in with your family...tell them you made a mistake and need their help. They will respect you for taking the hard road.
Call the cops on ole boy as soon as you have proof he's been around your kids again.

I also want you to clarify when you sad "the 12 and 14 year old spent the night with him" in post 21 or 22...do you mean slept over his house? With the wife?
I freaked the fuck out when I read that.

 

Don't feel too bad, he did just pick up an M5...

 

I guess it does get him a lifetime of BJs
Mostly dudes though (Kurt)

 

 

Thank you. It hasn't really been something I've advertised. I decided to say something here because the OP didn't seem to believe there was value in my advice.

Miscreants!

 

Advertise away, Tim...it feels good to vent.
Obviously nothing incriminating and stay as impartial as you can be as someone directly impacted by it.
I have a feeling I don't have to tell you that. You have a good head on your shoulders and a really hard hard on in your sweat pants, apparently.

 

I'm listening to what you all are saying. And there's a chance you're all right. But there's a chance you're not. And if you're not, the damage I'd do by going forward with a divorce would all be for naught.

Buuuuuut....it was already my plan but I'll step up my covert operations. Right now the little lady and ducklings are on a camp/vacation with her parents in Southern Utah. They get back tomorrow. I'll be planting some recorders and dropping in unexpectedly from time to time. I'm open to other ideas on how to catch her with her hand in the cookie jar.

If there's even an inkling of her fooling around, that's it. I'm on the fence as it is. But I'm not going to pull that trigger until I can prove to myself that her heart hasn't changed. Again, any suggestions are welcome.

So - maybe I'm in denial. But at this point, I'd just appreciate some constructive ideas on how to prove this is still going down so I can move forward.

 

One post by J and the whole threads turns to handies and dude's blowing each other.

 

May I be so bold to say...you aren't thinking too good right now. The trust and respect is gone. What good is it to force your kids to live with two adults who dont trust or respect each other? I will wait here.

 

Thanks. Maybe later and not in this thread.

 

Do you need to see his dick in her mouth or a dick in one of your kids to pull the trigger.
You've cooled off and settled be to toxic and manipulative.

That pedo is a predator who has violated the terms of his parole.
In the least you need to report that for the benefit of your community and family.

Regarding your relationship, it's garbage.
Planting recorders and spying on her.. pathetic.
A relationship is built on trust and respect. Your relationship has neither.

You rather make more money than devote your time to your family.
That's also pathetic. What does extra money afford you if your family goes to shit.

 

in his mind divorce is his family going to shit.

 

now you're describing the pedo's house...

 

Boom. There it is. The truth. OP, don't be a pushover pussy. Divorce the cheating Pedo-Lover.Hold onto your self respect!

 

Majofo never takes the easy road.
Ask my asshole.

 

 

He is a Mormon. Foolish religious bullshit to stay in a marriage just to say you are married.

 

Why doesn't she feel the same way though?

OP, you would be my hero if you got this tat.
Maybe she'll want to work things out!??!

 

I'm not even advocating for divorce.. I'm saying be righteous.
Don't be a little manipulative controlling asshole who thinks he's got rule over what's occurring in his life.
Be a man, do the right thing. It's that easy. Stand up for yourself, your family, your community.

Be a pillar, not a pathetic weasel. A man of respect will get respect, believe that.
It might not be from everyone you want it to, but you'll be seen.
Your kids will see you and that's most important.

 

I can tell Majofo watched a lot of Kojak as a kid.