Blazing GT

she MIGHT not keep it.

but I'm not ready to be a dad.

Input from any young fathers

TL|GTX

ur son will love ur RL ha.

videojock

I have no experience although a few close calls. Good luck to you bro.

Blazing GT

damn man

if she keeps it. I will have to give up EVERYTHING.

modding is the first on the list.

michimonster

maybe you should invest in a bottle of bleach and wire coat hanger?

arstraub

IF you don't want it, get rid of it before it's more than cells...




*PERSONAL opinion



How the hell do you have an RL if you're freaking 19?!

michiamo

Sorry to hear of your situation but perhaps not keeping it is the best solution for all involved. It's tough enough in the world, but to have to support a child is another thing entirely. While you shoul've talked of this possibility before becoming involved, it sounds to me like you have a strong opinion on the situation. You should definitely make this known to your partner. You are 19, a kid yourself, kwim? Good luck, I hope things work out for you.

SodaLuvr

Blazing GT

Yeah man I'm 19. Not ready at all. But I don't want to impact HER decision. But I know this involves both of us. I would just feel really guilty.

But I don't wanna bring something in this world, not being able to take care of it.

I have 2 more years until I get my degree

hopefully from there the economy stabalizes and I land a good job as a 22 year old.....If that was the situation now, I wouldn't even be posting this.

Thanks for the input

The Dougler

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Abort.

HI OFECR

<<<<<<26 and not ready lol

Thank god I'm not in your shoes best of luck to you man.

michiamo

Both of you should definitely make the decision. No matter the outcome, you both will be affected by it. I've seen a couple of friends through this and it's never easy. This should be the best time of your life - before all the responsibilities of being an adult hit (trust me, mortgage payments leave little $$$ for mods).

Don't quit school, whatever you do - you will need that education, maybe you can take extra classes and finish early. Again, I wish you the best.

RMATIC09

abort

greco9885

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If you both decide to go through with it, realize you will finish school in 4 years since you won't be able to go full time any more and raise and support the child and gf.

My friend has a kid and it completely destroyed her life. She was excited for it. Untill she realized she can't afford the kid after it was born. Now her parents are supporting HER kid.

If I was you, I would talk with her about it and try to bring up abortion. But doing so without care will break the relationship. You could also express how you really fell and say how you aren't ready and you don't want to worry about how the child will be raised.

combat mediC

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wrap your tool, dont be a fool....

anyway good bye RL, HELLO 92 Civic DX.


seriously, have the baby, I was nervous/scared/etc, but my daughter is my life.

ask anyone here who has a child.

v6cord2k5

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PART OUT! someone was bound to say it.

Man up and take responsibility for your own actions... both of you.

deltaboxxx

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^ i have a kid, and it sucks.


i never wanted any and i got careless with my wife. it sucks,and ruined my life.
but that dosent change the fact that i love him or his personality!

but most the time, i hate having a kid. call me heartless..

CL-Slick

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That sucks man, hope it all works out in the end.

deltaboxxx

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and calling your gf "shorty" is rediculous.

v6cord2k5

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I'm still trying to figure this one out... but I'm guessing there wont be any of this tomorrow.

arstraub

I was just coming back to say that hahaha


And if you're going to feel like the guys on here who hate having kids, don't have them. Your kid is going to figure out that you regret having them, and when it comes time for you to have "the talk" with them, you'll end up saying, "I just don't want you to make the mistakes I made" GREAT good talk there, dad.

deltaboxxx

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^ hit me up in like 12 years and ill let u kno how it goes lol

darksom1

Delta you're a wild dude...lol...

But yeah, I agree with you, cut that shorty shit out...its that adolescent bullshit that got you hemmed up in the first place OP...by that I mean being cool and becoming a fool (dad unawares)...so now you have to go thru some give and take...pampers vs RL...not saying you wont be a man, but it sounds like you are trying to bail already, or at least offer door #2 to your girl...

I'm not going to spend a lot of time lecturing you on why this is a fucked up situation, but I do think that you should be the man you were supposed to be then, now. Let her know how you feel GENTLY...If she wants the kid, support it and her and do what you have to do...your life is gonna reflect many slogans and posters now my dude...so be smart...good luck "kid" with the kid...

invisiblewar

+1 on darksom exactly what i was thinking

combat mediC

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deltaboxxx

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haha darksom

but i agree..if she wants to keep the kid,man the fuck up,and do whats needed,like i said,i never wanted kids and i hate kids,but there was no way i was gonna make her give up her child. its TOUGH but shit happens,and u have to deal with it.

u may have wanted kids eventualy,but i NEVER wanted any,so just take it for what its worth,its going to be hard,i had my wife preg while i was in school and i graduated with a newborn. its never easy,but u learn to man up and deal with your probs in the end. i dont resent my son,and like i said,i love him to death. but i still stand by my statement...having kids suckkksss. (obviously this isnt the case for most)

arstraub

medic... u always hate on me! ahh! doesn't matter what thread, what topic, i just can't be rid of you! ahhh!!!

teranfon

I can't believe anyone hasn't already brought adoption. First off, I believe it's the woman's right to choose what she does with her body, including abortion if she feels fit. On the other hand, if either of you two are unprepared for parenthood (neither of you sound ready), then perhaps adoption is a viable solution for you. I am the uncle to a great little girl who was adopted by my sister. The adoption was put into place before she was born. The birth mother, deciding she couldn't properly care for baby, allowed my sister to finalize the adoption two days after she was born.

If this is a solution for you, then be prepared to support your girlfriend for the duration of her pregnancy and assist her after the adoption is completed.


Terry

combat mediC

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nothin but a little tough love.

arstraub

haha you are so full of it!

subinf

You don't need that crap at 19. Are you sure it is yours?

o4Komodo

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"Hey Honey want to meet me at the top of the 50th flight of stairs........?"

Gfaze

CG2PROJECT

@ OP.

Now you suffer.

Malayalee King

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^^ haha

einsatz

Certainly an option, but also be prepared for her to decide to keep the kid at the last minute. This is why this is also YOUR decision and YOU have to be there to give your opinion.

Whiskers

darksom1

Your first sentence proves that your last is a lie, or at least the first part of it.

It is NOT his decision at all. His part of the "decision making" process is over as far as birth is concerned. That "went" when he "came". That may not be what he wants to hear, but it is the absolute truth. To get him to feel otherwise is to set him up for disappointment. He can tell her how he feels, but she will ultimately decide for them both at this point. Such is life...

What he should be doing is discussing with her the pros and cons as far as them both in keeping or getting rid of this child. But he won't be able to exert any will here, so he won't be making any decisions. He can just factor into hers if she listens to him. I'm not being anti-male rights when I say this, I'm just being real...

So in laymen's terms...you fucked, you fucked up, now you may get fucked...I hope not, but if you don't start kissing ass and spinning a web in her ear real soon...you just might...the reason I hope you don't get screwed is because if you do, then you have two kids raising a kid, and that means the baby might wind up getting screwed...I hate shit like that...so man up, whatever the decision...let this be a lesson to other young-gunners reading this: THE DECISION IS YOURS ONLY UP UNTIL YOU STICK YOUR DICK IN!!!...

phil2

i suggest a paper route

mrsteve

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Way to steal my line..