RMATIC09

Tough, but true.

greco9885

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For the future:

fuzzy02CLS

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It's a responsibility. Whether you wanted it or not, Don't run & hide from it. I'll be a bit harsh & say if you have sex there's always a chance to get burned. You did, you both need to take responsibility for your actions.

michiamo

Make sure you use protection! Also, get yourself a hot tub, and wear your cell phone on your belt (both have been shown to temporarily lower your "count"). If you really disagree on this, though, you have some soul searching to do. The best time to plan for things is before they happen, you know?

JediMindTricks

it's one of the ironies in life.

i know many couples that want to and are planning to have a baby. and they have to make sure the timing's all right, play the %'s, etc and it's so difficult.

yet, you hear countless stories of couples that don't want to have a baby, and they get pregnant.

:shakehead

RMATIC09

life's funny like that I suppose.

Morrissey25

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My ex and I went through this 4 years ago. We ended up having a losing the baby after 2 months. The worst thing that I have ever gone through at that time. Turns out that she was absolutely crazy and we ended up getting a divorce. Just goes to show that there is something "bigger" out there.

Well, I figure that in doing the next right thing, the next right thing will happen... and so forth.

Good Luck to the both of you.

johnnysquire

It doesn't work that way.

gr8ness97

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WOW, talk about working on "Thread of the Year 09"



GL OP. Couple of close calls for me too, but nothing so far *knock on wood*


I dont plan on kids anytime soon, but you always have that risk when you play in the bedroom. No Play = Nothing to worry about.

JediMindTricks

there are way too many variables in play in each and every relationship.

you can't make general statements about what can and will happen.

every relationship is different.

PimpCL23

wasnt planned... but when i found out all i can say was "wow".. but i was happy at the time

dallison

i knew someone would get it

Blazing GT

Thanks for all the wise words. We will be having a discussion tonight and see where it goes from there.

I am having mixed feelings about an abortion. But we might be going to the doctor soon to see how long she has been pregnant. I think she is not even a month. She got her period last month.

And to some people in the thread. I love this girl....We been together for 3 years. SO whatever decision she makes I will accept.

But deep down inside I dont want to have a kid.

ChrisQ1980

This is why I check my g/fs BC pills.

Cocoa

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Whore houses ftw...





















Honestly, goodluck with whatever you both decide to do. As for my opinion, I would wait till I'm financially stable to have a child. But unfortunately that doesn't always go according to plan. Therefore my next decision would be based soley on whether I'm in love with her or not. I would not suck it up for a woman I did not care for to begin with. I would do everything I can to make it work if it was someone I care for. That's me being honest.

Blazing GT

The thing that sucks is that she is tooo immature to have a child. For god sake she cannot even take car of her puppy or keep her room clean.

subinf

Dude if you have been with, for some reason, the same chick since you were 16 you should have opted for an IUD or birth control pills. Then this shit would not have happened.

Blazing GT

^I have to tell this girl to do everything. I been trying to get her on BC forever.


FOREVER!

JediMindTricks

so did you not use any kind of contraceptive?

and definitely doesn't sound like this girl is mature or responsible enough to raise a baby.

at "i have to tell this girl to do everything" sorry just found that funny.

Cocoa

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In highschool, I use to buy this lube that was anti-semen. You suck it up in a tube, shove it in the vag, and push which releases the spermicide. We did that, birth control pills, and I forget what else we did to prevent pregnancy.

ladiesman217

damn blazing, sucks to be you man, at least your in school bro, good luck with whatever you choose, and i agree with the other members who say adoption is the answer in this situation. again good luck with whatever you and ure gf do man

97BlackAckCL

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She def doesn't sound mature at all, however there are 2 of you involved, and you can protect just the same as she can, and it doesn't involve you taking pills every day of your life.

Definitely does not sound like this girl can raise a child, I would look into adoption, however carrying a child for 9 months of her life may help her grow up a little. I'm certainly glad that this didn't happen with the girls I dated when I was 16-19 since I'm not with them anymore, I was a completely different person then from what I am now. Believe me you 2 will change a lot and may not even stay together or be together when you're my age. I too don't want children, but I know the risks, and have had scares. Good luck to you guys, this is a tough position to be in

I am glad you realize this, if she does keep it, it will all be on you, and you will make the most sacrifices, even if you 2 don't stay together you will still be responsible financially. Having a child requires you to become completely unselfish and put the child first. Modding is a luxury, but it's not everything. Life is more important.

DEPTLS

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I'm 24, and when i concieved my son i was 19 as well.. all i can say is you were ready for that really good feeling you got without a jacket. and you gotta be ready for the possibilities of life. Not too many people are READY to be a father right away and MOST OF ALL NOT A FATHER... mothers kinda grow and go along with it cuz they carry the children for so long. You on the other hand, it will take you some time to warm up to the baby. but dont fear because its a pretty damn cool experience. It sure makes life a lil more expensive provided your around. All i can say is what goes up Must come down and you gotta live with that brutha.

teranfon

And where do you suppose your responsibility lies? You both are definitely not ready to be parents.

Adoption.


Terry

deltaboxxx

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having a baby does not make a 19 yr old grow up. trust me,i speak first hand.

only age and experience does. my wife still does some stupid shit,but she has grown up alot since 19,when she had the baby.

dont get ur hopes up like most these guys "having the baby will mature her"

thats just a common thing, most girls that are immature when having a baby dont know what to do and pawn the baby off to everyone they can so they dont have to take resposibility.

deltaboxxx

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^especially you, which will make school work harder.

myron

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oh shit that sucks man. I was in the same situation when I was 16, and then again at 17. It was the same girl too. Both times there were complications and she lost the kid. I was so happy, you have no idea now happy I was. She was ready to keep the kid both times. Anything I said I couldn't talk her out of it, so I prepared to take the responsibility.
We have been broken up for years now and still talk sometimes and she told me that I was right for not wanting to have a kid back then, even tho she thought I was a heartless asshole for even sugesting abortion back then. She actually thanked me.

anarchy[sear]

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Hmmmmmm where do I start. To the OP I understand that you and your girlfriend both have a huge decision to make and probably don't need the extra pressure comind down from everbody. I was actually very surprised on how many people told you to abort, I thought people would be ragging on your ass like no other.

When I was 21 and my now ex-girlfriend was 20 we had to make the same decision. Both of us sat down and talked about what it would do and if we were able to financially afford it because we were both in school. Ultimately she decided not to have the baby and from that decision I respected but til this day I feel like the biggest piece of shit in the world. If I could have taken anything back in life I would I have kept the baby even though it was her decision so I had to live with it. Trust me I was no where near mature enough to even have a kid but I am sure that if I would have prioritized my life I would have been able to accomadate anything.
There are alot of financial help out there that you can apply for and help ease the financial part of everything.
Till this day I think to myself and about others that did what I did and I always wondered what if I could have been one of those babies. My opinion is to keep the baby and try to work through it not only for your and your girlfriends sake but for the sake of a life for a kid.

phil2

Chin Omlettes FTW!

ludachrisvt

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This is true but you'd get over it.

TS_eXpeed

Too bad your mother didn't abort you.

JediMindTricks

that's cold.

if that happened to me while i was 16/17, i'd probably be relieved that the baby was lost. i wouldn't be jumping joy type of happy. but i'd be happy in a relieved type of way.

ludachrisvt

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why are you fucking with losers in the first place? Women/men/people in that state of immaturity are nothing but trouble. I digress. As I said before, you'll feel guilty about an abortion if that happens but you'll survive.

TS_eXpeed

Yea, well.
I just have really strong feelings on this topic.
He says he would've wished to have it aborted, but he was "so happy" when it died. I probably would've been flippin out (in a bad way) if I had initially gotten a gf pregnant, but to be honest, I think I would be devastated if my child died. I don't care about the "well it's not even born" shit. The second that child is conceived, I would put in the position of being a father, and despite any unwelcoming circumstances with the situation, that is my child. To say you're "so happy" that your child just died really irks me.

thisaznboi88

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dont keep it if you can't. I know its kinda sad but if you can't provide what is best for it. You would better off living without it. and next time use a condom and tell her to take the pill.

Anachostic

You want forever? Get a vasectomy and don't look back. In fact, get a vas and make it retroactive. I think Whiskers knows people with flux capacitors.

Whatever you decide in your current situation, get a vas. for the future. Don't leave it up to the woman.

Moog-Type-S

There are boat loads of people out there that want a kid.

greco9885

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I couldn't agree more. When I want to have a kid(around 27ish if I have the right girl), I have to make sure everything is right, I have a job with job security and plenty of money saved up just in case.

greco9885

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tell this to her not us!!!!!

subinf

Deep down if you don't want the fucking kid tell that to your g/f. Explain to her that she is immature as shit and will not be able to deal with anything. Plus you don't want to be around for it. That should show her where you stand on it. If she for some reason still wants to deal with it, push for adoption.