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Old 07-07-2008, 03:04 AM
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Don't give me this "men" crap...When women get this thing, they act like its the most horrible thing a human being can experience....Please
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Think this thread'll get bumped once a month?
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Originally Posted by svtmike
Think this thread'll get bumped once a month?
Yes...but just go with the flow....
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Originally Posted by arstraub
I think you don't know a damn thing about girls. Do you know what it feels like when it seems as though someone is trying to rip out your ovaries? PROBABLY NOT. Sorry we don't always want to suck your dick when we're having out period or jack you off; if you want it that bad, do it your damn self.

If you're considering leaving her over bs like this, she never had you to begin with. Go ahead and leave her; sorry she don't put out like you're like - better luck next time.
why does this anger you so much? You have never met either of us.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
why does this anger you so much? You have never met either of us.
No sex....
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It's not that, it just so incredibly disrespectful. Most girls don't like to get their period, we feel like crap all the time, it makes us fatter for the week, and the hormones make us get mad all the time; it's not a fun thing, and then you think it's okay to get mad that we won't do you a "favor"? And the guy who said he likes to have sex because "someone's got to keep the population going" is an idiot. Do you use a condom? Is she on bc? Then I guess you're NOT trying to get her pregnant, hence you chose a dumb response. Of course I've never met you, but to know that your opinion is probably with the majority sucks; guys who get mad or expect us to "at least" give them a hj or bj is just ridiculous. Thank God my bf knows to leave me the hell alone haha
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Originally Posted by arstraub
It's not that, it just so incredibly disrespectful. Most girls don't like to get their period, we feel like crap all the time, it makes us fatter for the week, and the hormones make us get mad all the time; it's not a fun thing, and then you think it's okay to get mad that we won't do you a "favor"? And the guy who said he likes to have sex because "someone's got to keep the population going" is an idiot. Do you use a condom? Is she on bc? Then I guess you're NOT trying to get her pregnant, hence you chose a dumb response. Of course I've never met you, but to know that your opinion is probably with the majority sucks; guys who get mad or expect us to "at least" give them a hj or bj is just ridiculous. Thank God my bf knows to leave me the hell alone haha
do you consider sex a favor all the time, or only when you are on your period?
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only when on my period; otherwise im all for it
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Originally Posted by svtmike
Think this thread'll get bumped once a month?
Probably will.
Old 07-07-2008, 10:51 AM
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Originally Posted by arstraub
only when on my period; otherwise im all for it
So essentially, sex, whenever you don't feel up for it is a favor?
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
So essentially, sex, whenever you don't feel up for it is a favor?
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
So essentially, sex, whenever you don't feel up for it is a favor?
I guess I'm just an old married guy now. Because I kinda agree with what she said. Anything that I don't want to do and end up doing it is either an obligation or a favor.

Go to the store when I want to just sit on my ass, is an obligation or a favor. Work on someone's project at work when I don't want to is a favor, or obligation.

However, I'm still a guy, so I don't see sex as a favor, definitely not an obligation. But most guys will feel that way seeing as how we stop thinking about sex about 5 minutes after death.
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
I guess I'm just an old married guy now. Because I kinda agree with what she said. Anything that I don't want to do and end up doing it is either an obligation or a favor.

Go to the store when I want to just sit on my ass, is an obligation or a favor. Work on someone's project at work when I don't want to is a favor, or obligation.

However, I'm still a guy, so I don't see sex as a favor, definitely not an obligation. But most guys will feel that way seeing as how we stop thinking about sex about 5 minutes after death.
Yea, that makes sense.

My next question is then, do you feel obligated to do favors?
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
Yea, that makes sense.

My next question is then, do you feel obligated to do favors?
Sure. It doesn't make you a bad person to do things out of obligations. You're not supposed to enjoy everything you do. I do a lot of favors for family and friends out of obligations. I just don't really ever think about it. I don't think there is a single person that can say that they do not feel obligated to do favors.
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Sorry, I only read your OP. You are selfish.
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Sorry, I only read your OP. You are selfish.
read the rest
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To all who are reading this for the first time...

My post was a question. I never said my opinion was right or wrong. I made the thread to get opinions, not state something one way or another.

If you opine that I am selfish, that is fine with me, but bare in mind that I accept that and have used said opinions to reconsidered my views. There is no need to get harsh, angry or upset.
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
Sure. It doesn't make you a bad person to do things out of obligations. You're not supposed to enjoy everything you do. I do a lot of favors for family and friends out of obligations. I just don't really ever think about it. I don't think there is a single person that can say that they do not feel obligated to do favors.

I hate giving bj's, so that's a huge favor for my bf. He knows I hate it, so I don't do it often, and that's fine with him. Guys have figured out that if it's your birthday, you're pretty much going to get a bj, that's just how it is - you're welcome. I don't feel obligated to have sex when I have my period because I think that's flat out disgusting haha. I probably have given him a bj or hj when I had it just because I felt bad that I wouldn't actually have sex with him, but neither of those do I particularly love.
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^^^^

Personally, I just never really expected it. I feel if I get some relief while my partner was on her period, then great. If not, then so be it. Either way it's not the end of the world. And for me, I would rather not have any than feel like it's out of obligation. But that's just me I guess.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
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All the jokes aside, I think there are some valid points in here. I would still say some of it is somewhat selfish, but we are all entitled to be a bit selfish. I can't fault you for it.
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That is pretty selfish.

I won't tell you what I did when my wife was on the rag a couple of years ago.
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Originally Posted by gatrhumpy
That is pretty selfish.

I won't tell you what I did when my wife was on the rag a couple of years ago.
Mastubated.
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I don't want a woman having sex with me out of obligation. Never had that problem, but if she came at me like that, she would hit the fast track! Either you want to or you don't. My decision what to do after that...you not wrong for holding back, but I'm not wrong for treating you like Snaggle-Puss either...

I also don't think a person that values sex over other things in a relationship is shallow. That's just someone with a different set of values than you. DON"T DATE THEM! Problem solved. But it is not for us to judge others. That's why we date and ask questions BEFORE marriage, to find the right one remember?

This shit ain't Chinese math ladies and gentlemen...
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Originally Posted by darksom1
This shit ain't Chinese math ladies and gentlemen...
cuz numbers are different everywhere

and to the op.

you selfish asshole. you come here saying shes the most whorish of all girls and you DONT post pics?
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Originally Posted by Acuraluvr
cuz numbers are different everywhere

and to the op.

you selfish asshole. you come here saying shes the most whorish of all girls and you DONT post pics?
OK OK, you want a pic...here you go:






What do you think? What a dirty slut
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Originally Posted by Acuraluvr
cuz numbers are different everywhere

and to the op.

you selfish asshole. you come here saying shes the most whorish of all girls and you DONT post pics?
You ever hear of roman numerals and arabic numerals?






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Hmm...

Now uhh, hear ye this:

All future posters ranting about should they keep a female or not, for ANY reason, must from now on, post a picture of said female before the council, as to help us better determine which way we should assist you in this matter!

Note: Once we have made a decision...our decision is final!

Thank you in advance for your due diligence in this matter!
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
OK OK, you want a pic...here you go:






What do you think? What a dirty slut

Wow - your girlfriend was in Kansas?
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Originally Posted by amisconception
I'm a highly sexualized individual.
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I can barely stop laughing long enough to type. Being an old guy, this one caught my eye.

Originally Posted by TzarChasm
Funny how this seems to split along age lines, with the older guys saying "it's selfish", the younger guys saying "I feel the same".
I think it's because older guys have figured out that the dream we all had at 20 of being pleasured on-demand for the rest of our days was quite possibly the stupidest thought we've ever had and will be crushed about 1 year into being married, or when your first child arrives.

Also, we've figured out that women don't appreciate being treated like an on-demand sperm bank just because we get aroused.

So if you'll pardon my little rant, there's a real reply for the OP in here.

Everyone is different, everyone has a different drive and I'm not here to generalize about every couple's sexual relationship. But what I really think you should consider is your attitude towards her on this issue. If you equate a woman pleasuring you with her showing she cares for you, I hate to tell you that you're going to be very let down. That's just not the way a long-term relationship works, and it's certainly not what you want to build one on.

But look, I suspect that a lot of guys, of not most, felt like this at some point. Happens when hormones interfere with clear thinking. But before you do or say something hurtful, give this some thought, and decide if it's really that big a deal. Maybe re-evaluate what it means for her to show she cares for you.

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Personally I think the OP is selfish because he wont sassify the demands of his girl just because Aunt Flow is in town.
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aunt flow can sleep in the basement for a week.
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Originally Posted by arstraub
I hate giving bj's, so that's a huge favor for my bf. He knows I hate it, so I don't do it often, and that's fine with him. Guys have figured out that if it's your birthday, you're pretty much going to get a bj, that's just how it is - you're welcome. I don't feel obligated to have sex when I have my period because I think that's flat out disgusting haha. I probably have given him a bj or hj when I had it just because I felt bad that I wouldn't actually have sex with him, but neither of those do I particularly love.

Gibson thought he had problems, Imagine that poor guy.
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Originally Posted by SakiGT
Personally I think the OP is selfish because he wont sassify the demands of his girl just because Aunt Flow is in town.
You're logic is the same as Street Spirits, that's not the point.

The point is that if my dick stopped working for a week once a month I would try to take care of my girl as much as I could so that at least one of us were satisfied.
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Originally Posted by dom
Gibson thought he had problems, Imagine that poor guy.
I didn't want to be the one to say it
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594

The point is that if my dick stopped working for a week once a month I would try to take care of my girl as much as I could so that at least one of us were satisfied.

That's the point most people in this thread are either forgetting or ignoring. Problem is, women can go without 'it' for a week and not bat an eye. So they really can't relate to us not being able to last a week.
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Originally Posted by 1Louder
I can barely stop laughing long enough to type. Being an old guy, this one caught my eye.


I think it's because older guys have figured out that the dream we all had at 20 of being pleasured on-demand for the rest of our days was quite possibly the stupidest thought we've ever had and will be crushed about 1 year into being married, or when your first child arrives.

Also, we've figured out that women don't appreciate being treated like an on-demand sperm bank just because we get aroused.

So if you'll pardon my little rant, there's a real reply for the OP in here.

Everyone is different, everyone has a different drive and I'm not here to generalize about every couple's sexual relationship. But what I really think you should consider is your attitude towards her on this issue. If you equate a woman pleasuring you with her showing she cares for you, I hate to tell you that you're going to be very let down. That's just not the way a long-term relationship works, and it's certainly not what you want to build one on.

But look, I suspect that a lot of guys, of not most, felt like this at some point. Happens when hormones interfere with clear thinking. But before you do or say something hurtful, give this some thought, and decide if it's really that big a deal. Maybe re-evaluate what it means for her to show she cares for you.
I agree with all this. This is the type of response that is the most respected by me.
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Originally Posted by dom
Gibson thought he had problems, Imagine that poor guy.


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