Selfish when on the rag?
07-02-2008 | 03:16 PM
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Originally Posted by amisconception
I need sex in a relationship to be happy. Yes, NEED. And lots of it. Uninhibited sex. Thus why I don't enter into relationships with girls that can't accommodate.
Instead of making excuses and justifying my lack of happiness I would rather do something about it.
I also take it your wife doesn't give it up as much as you'd like. That sucks dude, I'm sorry.
Instead of making excuses and justifying my lack of happiness I would rather do something about it.
I also take it your wife doesn't give it up as much as you'd like. That sucks dude, I'm sorry.
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I already said that.
Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
you were mocking me for asking this question
07-02-2008 | 03:19 PM
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Originally Posted by svtmike
I can't believe we all missed that in your original post. It's so obvious.
07-02-2008 | 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
The dumping comments go beyond the sexual aspects, I'm suprised the AZ women haven't picked up that. The dumping would more so correlate to a selfish personality. Not directly because she didn't blow me.
But perhaps I'm overreacting in that regard.
But perhaps I'm overreacting in that regard.
After reading 4 pages of threads, the only reason I can find that you have stated in the thread for your g/f being selfish is because you feel she doesn't want to please you during her time of the month.
You put it as "Internal, innate desire to please your partner, be it on a physical or mental level, which, to me is a valuable aspect to any relationship.", however, the only proof you have provided is physical and during her time of the month.
Maybe if you put more concrete examples (i.e. it's your birthday and she did not even say happy birthday, or you just graduated with your masters and she skipped your graduation w/o telling you, or during her non-time of the month she simply never wanted to please you) people on the forum might not judge you as being selfish yourself.
Just my
Originally Posted by WHISKERS
My lord, some chick doesn't want to fool around 2-3 days out of the month and you guys are bent out of shape I know it's cliche, but seriously, as you get older and more married with kids, fooling around 2-3 days out of the month is more the norm....Go see a movie or something, I hear the new Will Smith movie is good...
Originally Posted by svtmike
I can't believe we all missed that in your original post. It's so obvious.
Not that it offered any more proof.
07-02-2008 | 03:24 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
This thread is a few pages long, and I've made several posts. Did your comprehension really lead you to believe otherwise?
I quickly reviewed your posts. I don't think the problem is my comprehension.
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07-02-2008 | 03:27 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
A couple weeks is a long time to wait to give it up? I actually prefer a girl that doesn't wrap her legs around me on the first date. 
And she does like giving head, that's never been an issue.
And she does like giving head, that's never been an issue.
07-02-2008 | 03:28 PM
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Originally Posted by meaphool
After reading 4 pages of threads, the only reason I can find that you have stated in the thread for your g/f being selfish is because you feel she doesn't want to please you during her time of the month.
You put it as "Internal, innate desire to please your partner, be it on a physical or mental level, which, to me is a valuable aspect to any relationship.", however, the only proof you have provided is physical and during her time of the month.
Maybe if you put more concrete examples (i.e. it's your birthday and she did not even say happy birthday, or you just graduated with your masters and she skipped your graduation w/o telling you, or during her non-time of the month she simply never wanted to please you) people on the forum might not judge you as being selfish yourself.
Just my
Totally agree there, though I would emphasize what I did above. Being married still allows for quite some play, it's the having kids that ruins everything (ironic isn't it).
+1 Not that it offered any more proof.
You put it as "Internal, innate desire to please your partner, be it on a physical or mental level, which, to me is a valuable aspect to any relationship.", however, the only proof you have provided is physical and during her time of the month.
Maybe if you put more concrete examples (i.e. it's your birthday and she did not even say happy birthday, or you just graduated with your masters and she skipped your graduation w/o telling you, or during her non-time of the month she simply never wanted to please you) people on the forum might not judge you as being selfish yourself.
Just my
Totally agree there, though I would emphasize what I did above. Being married still allows for quite some play, it's the having kids that ruins everything (ironic isn't it).
+1
Not that it offered any more proof.Actually, my birthday is coming up next week, so I'll let you know how it goes.
In all truth, and I've been saying this for the past couple pages, I probably overreacted a bit and just got a little nervous because early in a relationship I usually too skeptical. She's a good girl and has otherwise made me happy.
Like I also said, I posted this for thoughts and opinions, not because I thought my view was the correct one, hence my thread title ending with a question mark.
07-02-2008 | 03:35 PM
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Originally Posted by svtmike
I quickly reviewed your posts. I don't think the problem is my comprehension.
It makes me feel like she doesn't care how I feel
I really look at as more than a HJ or BJ, hence the selfishness reference. It's not just an orgasm, it her willingness to please me.
The dumping comments go beyond the sexual aspects, I'm suprised the AZ women haven't picked up that. The dumping would more so correlate to a selfish personality. Not directly because she didn't blow me. But perhaps I'm overreacting in that regard.
Well, yea, and whatever one of the reasons it is would be fine with me, as long as it's not because she was being selfish.
Let me know if you need me to clear it up even more. i'm not trying to be a dick, but you're misjudging me.
07-02-2008 | 03:39 PM
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"It's not just an orgasm, it her willingness to please me" - That line just chills me. I'm glad you don't derive pleasure from suffering.
edit: I understand you are probably just not communicating yourself to us very well. This may cause problems later with your girlfriend.
edit: I understand you are probably just not communicating yourself to us very well. This may cause problems later with your girlfriend.
07-02-2008 | 03:40 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
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Let me know if you need me to clear it up even more. i'm not trying to be a dick, but you're misjudging me.
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Let me know if you need me to clear it up even more. i'm not trying to be a dick, but you're misjudging me.
07-02-2008 | 03:41 PM
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Originally Posted by moeronn
^^ I believe he was referring to you just getting out of a 5 year relationship and just starting this one.
07-02-2008 | 03:47 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
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Let me know if you need me to clear it up even more. i'm not trying to be a dick, but you're misjudging me.
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Let me know if you need me to clear it up even more. i'm not trying to be a dick, but you're misjudging me.
I don't think you presented much clarity - just a lot of hinting around that still sounded like at the core you were all pissy that she didn't blow you. Since you're not my wife, I don't need to try and figure your hints out. 
07-02-2008 | 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
Yea, but that shouldn't matter, it's not like I've been rambling on like a sex-craving teenager who just wants to get his rocks off.
07-02-2008 | 03:52 PM
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Originally Posted by svtmike
I don't think you presented much clarity - just a lot of hinting around that still sounded like at the core you were all pissy that she didn't blow you. Since you're not my wife, I don't need to try and figure your hints out. 
07-02-2008 | 04:44 PM
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Originally Posted by amisconception
Phone sex, camera phones, text messages, e-mailed nudes, etc.
Honestly, without trying to make this personal, this is starting to sound more like a compulsion.
07-02-2008 | 05:09 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
You make a fair point.
Actually, my birthday is coming up next week, so I'll let you know how it goes.
In all truth, and I've been saying this for the past couple pages, I probably overreacted a bit and just got a little nervous because early in a relationship I usually too skeptical. She's a good girl and has otherwise made me happy.
Like I also said, I posted this for thoughts and opinions, not because I thought my view was the correct one, hence my thread title ending with a question mark.
Actually, my birthday is coming up next week, so I'll let you know how it goes.
In all truth, and I've been saying this for the past couple pages, I probably overreacted a bit and just got a little nervous because early in a relationship I usually too skeptical. She's a good girl and has otherwise made me happy.
Like I also said, I posted this for thoughts and opinions, not because I thought my view was the correct one, hence my thread title ending with a question mark.
That's fair too. And to be fair, I know where you are coming from.
Just my opinion so take this with a grain of salt:
It's very hard to find a perfect girl when you are searching for her. When you aren't searching, you might just realize the one person you spend all of your time with is the person that really makes you happy. If that person can make you happy (they can make you equally unhappy because you have an emotional/physical/psychological connection with them).
In short, take the bad with the good because it's very hard to find the "good". Not to say accept the bad, but work with them on it as I'm you would appreciate if they worked with you on your own flaws.
Anyways Happy EARLY B-DAY! Hopefully you have many more BJ, HJ, actual S**and many more better things to come.
I know people will say, what's better... but that's just cause they've never had better.
07-03-2008 | 12:35 AM
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After reading this thread again, I'm answering again, and adding for some other shit I read and thought about at work.
1. I don't think it's selfish to want to be pleased. I said I was selfish in that regard, but that's what I want. When I came home one weekend during the military, the chick I was seeing was on the rag. I said, whoa, we gotta do something - so I went anal. Her face in the pillow and no problem cuz she delivered. If she hadn't, I would not have kicked her to the curb. I would have just went with backup. You don't toss a Rolls Royce because it has a dent in it, IMO. But, I understand why he wanted to, and that is alright as well. It was because that is the type of arrangement he wants, whenever, and I agree. I oversimplified it to mean what I was thinking at the time, like I accuse people here of doing. My bad Gibson. I'm cool with that now. Do you bro.
2. I have no problem smashing a woman on the rag. NONE! Now, I would need her to clean me off, because I can't look at it, but I would get up in dem guts! I know a few women who get "raging" when they are on, so Saki I "got your back" baby...literally!
1. I don't think it's selfish to want to be pleased. I said I was selfish in that regard, but that's what I want. When I came home one weekend during the military, the chick I was seeing was on the rag. I said, whoa, we gotta do something - so I went anal. Her face in the pillow and no problem cuz she delivered. If she hadn't, I would not have kicked her to the curb. I would have just went with backup. You don't toss a Rolls Royce because it has a dent in it, IMO. But, I understand why he wanted to, and that is alright as well. It was because that is the type of arrangement he wants, whenever, and I agree. I oversimplified it to mean what I was thinking at the time, like I accuse people here of doing. My bad Gibson. I'm cool with that now. Do you bro.
2. I have no problem smashing a woman on the rag. NONE! Now, I would need her to clean me off, because I can't look at it, but I would get up in dem guts! I know a few women who get "raging" when they are on, so Saki I "got your back" baby...literally!
07-03-2008 | 12:37 AM
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Darksom1, your avatar really bothers me, because it looks like your front bumper is crooked in that picture.
07-03-2008 | 02:15 AM
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Originally Posted by moeronn
Even if it's only for a couple of days? For extended lengths of time, I can see that happening, but not for a short (2-3 day) business trip or a weekend away with friends.
Honestly, without trying to make this personal, this is starting to sound more like a compulsion.
Honestly, without trying to make this personal, this is starting to sound more like a compulsion.
But if you mean that I get powerful urges to have sex, then yes it is a compulsion lol. It's not something I'm "meh" about. It's something I enjoy very much
07-03-2008 | 08:48 AM
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Originally Posted by darksom1
After reading this thread again, I'm answering again, and adding for some other shit I read and thought about at work.
1. I don't think it's selfish to want to be pleased. I said I was selfish in that regard, but that's what I want. When I came home one weekend during the military, the chick I was seeing was on the rag. I said, whoa, we gotta do something - so I went anal. Her face in the pillow and no problem cuz she delivered. If she hadn't, I would not have kicked her to the curb. I would have just went with backup. You don't toss a Rolls Royce because it has a dent in it, IMO. But, I understand why he wanted to, and that is alright as well. It was because that is the type of arrangement he wants, whenever, and I agree. I oversimplified it to mean what I was thinking at the time, like I accuse people here of doing. My bad Gibson. I'm cool with that now. Do you bro.
2. I have no problem smashing a woman on the rag. NONE! Now, I would need her to clean me off, because I can't look at it, but I would get up in dem guts! I know a few women who get "raging" when they are on, so Saki I "got your back" baby...literally!
1. I don't think it's selfish to want to be pleased. I said I was selfish in that regard, but that's what I want. When I came home one weekend during the military, the chick I was seeing was on the rag. I said, whoa, we gotta do something - so I went anal. Her face in the pillow and no problem cuz she delivered. If she hadn't, I would not have kicked her to the curb. I would have just went with backup. You don't toss a Rolls Royce because it has a dent in it, IMO. But, I understand why he wanted to, and that is alright as well. It was because that is the type of arrangement he wants, whenever, and I agree. I oversimplified it to mean what I was thinking at the time, like I accuse people here of doing. My bad Gibson. I'm cool with that now. Do you bro.
2. I have no problem smashing a woman on the rag. NONE! Now, I would need her to clean me off, because I can't look at it, but I would get up in dem guts! I know a few women who get "raging" when they are on, so Saki I "got your back" baby...literally!
07-03-2008 | 08:57 AM
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Not retarded when you think about it...
Kicking a great woman to the curb because she won't give head on her period, which is what I thought you were saying at the time, that is retarded. No way could anyone have actually meant that, so I said you must be just saying some shit like that to get people to respond because you were bored. It happens...
Kicking a great woman to the curb because she won't give head on her period, which is what I thought you were saying at the time, that is retarded. No way could anyone have actually meant that, so I said you must be just saying some shit like that to get people to respond because you were bored. It happens...
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07-04-2008 | 09:06 PM
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damn...... my wife woke me up to have sex with her on her period last night she wanted it so bad. friggin hormones. doesnt want me to even kiss her the rest of her period most of the time....
07-06-2008 | 09:08 PM
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
So I just started having sex with this girl I've started going out with. So last night she is over and we are fooling around and she lets me know that she is having her period, so no sex.
Now every other girl I've been with in my life has always at least taken care of me in some way during that time of the month. This girl does nothing, we just kiss and feel a while, then she goes home. I even directly told her I bad I wanted to do something.
Should I be worried about this? It's really bothering me, almost to the point where I'm thinking about leaving her. It makes me feel like she doesn't care how I feel and is pretty selfish because we did nothing just because she couldn't do something.
What do you guys think?
Now every other girl I've been with in my life has always at least taken care of me in some way during that time of the month. This girl does nothing, we just kiss and feel a while, then she goes home. I even directly told her I bad I wanted to do something.
Should I be worried about this? It's really bothering me, almost to the point where I'm thinking about leaving her. It makes me feel like she doesn't care how I feel and is pretty selfish because we did nothing just because she couldn't do something.
What do you guys think?
If you're considering leaving her over bs like this, she never had you to begin with. Go ahead and leave her; sorry she don't put out like you're like - better luck next time.
07-06-2008 | 09:15 PM
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Originally Posted by arstraub
I think you don't know a damn thing about girls. Do you know what it feels like when it seems as though someone is trying to rip out your ovaries? PROBABLY NOT. Sorry we don't always want to suck your dick when we're having out period or jack you off; if you want it that bad, do it your damn self.
If you're considering leaving her over bs like this, she never had you to begin with. Go ahead and leave her; sorry she DIDN'T put out like YOU'D like - better luck next time.
If you're considering leaving her over bs like this, she never had you to begin with. Go ahead and leave her; sorry she DIDN'T put out like YOU'D like - better luck next time.