moeronn

Pretty busy thread for D&R

amisconception

Passionless relationships... That sounds exciting.

I'm sorry Whiskers but don't justify your porn collection and lack of exciting sex by explaining what the average married man's life is like as if that should be the acceptable basis for comparison.

Hot girl > Hancock

EL19

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LOL sounds like a decision between twat and masturbation LOL

gr8ness97

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Hot girl > Handncock

dom

Ask your wife.

moeronn

No one is saying that you have to fall into "the norm." Just don't be too surprised if/when you do.

amisconception

That's not acceptable for me.

Whiskers

Fair, but comparing what married life should be to the life of a single guy is far more unrealistic...And I guarantee you that the norm of most married with kids wife is not to pleasure the husband during a period..Of course there are exception.....

dom

(That would be in red if possible)

Whiskers

Batman?

SakiGT

The machismo in this thread is disgustingly thick.

Whiskers

How well are you hung?

Street Spirit

Wait! If I'm understanding this correctly, you won't please her in certain ways while on her period because you're not into that. BUT you expect it from her, and call her selfish if she doesn't want the same?! Doesn't that make you "selfish" in the same way? I mean, why not just do it -- what if she wants it while on her period?

I don't know...for me the whole ' ' of this thread was just your choice of descriptor: selfish. If anything, maybe you two have different needs or different ideas of what's most important to you...for 3-7 days during the month.

Don't forget that, like you, she may have different experiences prior to meeting you. Perhaps she's dated men who didn't like fooling around while she was on her period, so she's used to taking it easy during that time. Maybe she's been with men who enjoyed it while she was on her period. Maybe she didn't know what you preferred. Don't forget -- just like women, not all men feel the same way about things like this. So I agree that letting her know your thoughts will give you a much better idea of her comfort level. Perhaps she feels uncomfortable fooling around with you while on her period, seeing as how you two have just begun dating and sleeping together. That might change as she becomes more and more comfortable with you, and once you understand each other's needs and comfort level.

But my thoughts still stand: There's a wide variety of needs, goals, desires, compromises, and communication when it comes to a healthy relationship. If you're willing to let her go just because of a 3-7 day "lapse" (for you) each month, perhaps there aren't enough other things that make the relationship worth keeping anyway.

moeronn

:fixed:


I'm going back a bit... I believe age is completely relevant. In fact, I think it is key. Your physiology and emotional, physical and psychological needs change over time.
Haven't we already discussed the red stuff enough?

Mike 350Z

If she's not taking care of you this soon into the relationship I'd say get rid of her. If you were talking 3 years I'd say just suck it up. But it's obvious she's not that sexual of a person (at least towards you), if she waited this long to give it up in the first place.

Plus there are some girl that just don't like giving head, or maybe you never go down on her? Just trying to throw stuff out there.

dom

I think everyone is jumping the gun here. This only happened ONCE. Like SS pointed out there could be a variety of reason's. Lets give it a few more months.

Whiskers

I already marked my calendar with a recurring appointment called "GIBSON6594's girlfriends time of month"....

RaviNJCLs

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Hell yeh. I just checked in and saw 4 pages. Lots of opinions here. You know what they say about opinions.

Still feel the same after reading all this. I feel Gibson is a bit selfish. But it's not the worst thing in the world. I see the point that people feel the other party should accomodate, but I learned that some women just don't like to. Shit happens.

I guess if it's that big of an issue, then either deal with it every month for a couple days, knock her up, or move on.

dom

We'll know how selfish she is by late Sept.

amisconception

Let's assume for the sake of argument that's true. Are you implying I, or any other guy, should ignore their physical needs because a decade or two from now we might change?

gr8ness97

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LOL

amisconception

Lesbian.

moeronn

The main thing to keep in mind, especially in D&R and R&P, is that most opinions given here are often overstated and meant to be somewhat polarizing. There is more common ground between sides (this does not apply to R&P ) than most people let on.

amisconception

Very

But that's kind of a :ghey: question

moeronn

No man NEEDS sex daily, unless they have some sort of psychological sex disorder. And if you can't deal with a couple of says without sex, then I don't know what to tell you.

And there is no "might." It is inevitable.

SakiGT

Womanizing ass pirate

moeronn

I've got the best solution to Gibson's original issue - knock her up and she won't be on the rag anymore

amisconception

I need sex in a relationship to be happy. Yes, NEED. And lots of it. Uninhibited sex. Thus why I don't enter into relationships with girls that can't accommodate.

Instead of making excuses and justifying my lack of happiness I would rather do something about it.

I also take it your wife doesn't give it up as much as you'd like. That sucks dude, I'm sorry.

amisconception

RaviNJCLs

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I already said that.

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

I agree. It's nice to have, but not required.

GIBSON6594

you were mocking me for asking this question

RaviNJCLs

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Winner.

Anachostic

Man, what a thread.

I'll preface my remarks with the fact that I am married and I am well accustomed to and well disappointed by extended "dry spells". However, sex is not the reason that I got married. Sex shouldn't define any relationship. I am hearing a lot of statements that sound like "If I can't fuck you when I want to, I have no use for you." Wait, that's misphrased. "If you don't get me off in some way when I want to, I have no use for you. Seriously. I don't care if you have to use your hand, your mouth, your ass or your feet, just do it. No, not that bleeding hole, that's sick."

Your girlfriend is just another friend. One with different "capabilities." Do you treat all your other male friends the same way? "Man, I'm thirsty. Dude, drive me down to the bar. You got a car, you can drive me to the bar. I got thisty while we both watched TV, you got a car, I demand you drive me to the bar." "Hey, you got a gun. Let me shoot it. I want to shoot the gun. I demand you let me shoot it." "You're pretty good at basketball. Dunk this ball. I need to see someone dunk a ball right now. Do it."

I'm actually not in complete disagreement that if you don't find yourself sexually compatible as far as libido you should break up, but I am ... that you would discount everything else for sex. It's as if nothing else matters. "I am an animal."

GIBSON6594

Your logic is off. Besides, it was her that said she didn't want to have sex while on her period. So that point is moot.


This I agree with

GIBSON6594

A couple weeks is a long time to wait to give it up? I actually prefer a girl that doesn't wrap her legs around me on the first date.

And she does like giving head, that's never been an issue.

GIBSON6594

Some of you seem a bit confused. I just got out of a 5 year relationship. i know what it takes to be patient and go through dry spells. This is not the issue here. I'm not upset I didn't get to have an orgasm. I'm not some 17 year old who wants his PP sucked on. I'm talking about deeper issues here. Internal, innate desire to please your partner, be it on a physcial or mental level, which, to me is a valuable aspect to any relationship.

EL19

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im sure the problem is that u just didnt ask, she probably thought u were content with what went down. Im sure next time ull get the dome action

EL19

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For alot of guys it is inevitable but my father for example is 56 years old and still has a libido of a jack rabbit. Its crazy, but as we all know women get hornier as they get older and my father says there has only been 1 or 2 dry spells since he's been with my mother. 25 years incase ur wondering. So this is not tru for all men but it is for most

svtmike

I can't believe we all missed that in your original post. It's so obvious.