came home and she left me!
01-28-2010, 05:52 PM
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01-28-2010, 06:08 PM
#44
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Go get yourself a good whore.
01-28-2010, 06:27 PM
#45
cut your losses buddy. wtf....
and you wonder why she left u like she had no feelings at all? get real my man. she didnt respect you. she likes you because you seemed secure and safe financially. now she is gone because you didnt meet her unexplained expectations.
not worth the stress. this is a blessing
and you wonder why she left u like she had no feelings at all? get real my man. she didnt respect you. she likes you because you seemed secure and safe financially. now she is gone because you didnt meet her unexplained expectations.
not worth the stress. this is a blessing
01-28-2010, 06:59 PM
#46
All of us only know part of the story. Although we can, we shouldn't bash your ex because you do still have feelings for her. You don't want to demonize her, but you do want to say she's not blameless in this situation. Our commentary is emotionless, but logical and realistic.
Bottom line (external to everything I just said) is that you are not ready to be in a relationship right now. The fact that you fell apart when she left is proof of that. You currently do not love yourself and until you do, you cannot be in another relationship. In time, you will regain your confidence and you will automatically attract a new partner.
Until that time, focus on you and you alone. Be as selfish as fuck. Do everything you were denied to do when you were together and do nothing you enjoyed together. And know that if you do get over her and she comes back to you, if you accept her back, you will both return to exactly what you two were before. Because you are what you are and she is what she is and you+her will always equal the same result.
Some say people can change and some say they can't. I believe people can only change their outermost features: looks, style, social personality. When you are in a relationship, you are connecting on a deeper level (as cliche as it sounds) and you are connecting on features that cannot be changed.
Bottom line (external to everything I just said) is that you are not ready to be in a relationship right now. The fact that you fell apart when she left is proof of that. You currently do not love yourself and until you do, you cannot be in another relationship. In time, you will regain your confidence and you will automatically attract a new partner.
Until that time, focus on you and you alone. Be as selfish as fuck. Do everything you were denied to do when you were together and do nothing you enjoyed together. And know that if you do get over her and she comes back to you, if you accept her back, you will both return to exactly what you two were before. Because you are what you are and she is what she is and you+her will always equal the same result.
Some say people can change and some say they can't. I believe people can only change their outermost features: looks, style, social personality. When you are in a relationship, you are connecting on a deeper level (as cliche as it sounds) and you are connecting on features that cannot be changed.
01-28-2010, 07:27 PM
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i'm not demoralizing her.. i'm not perfect! i'm stating facts that happened in our relationship. i lost her in the summer and i blamed my disease because of it.. when i started feeling better, i went back to her thinking i was the guy i was when she was in love with me and chasing me..
01-28-2010, 07:38 PM
#48
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Wow, she is hard gay....
01-28-2010, 07:55 PM
#49
I understand the emotions you have considering i just ended a 8 year fling with a girl 2 months ago.... Even though tons of things remind me of her, go out and find 1 girl to take your time away and you don't think anything about her... I go out all the time and go to the gym and that seriously helps out. I did break up with her cause i was tired of the stress, arguing, bitching, moaning, whatever else you wanna call it. Most of it was my fault cause i always had girls on the side but shit everyone makes mistakes. I told her i couldn't do it any longer just for the simple fact we had such a horrible past.
OP.... DON'T sit at home GO OUT and HAVE FUN!!!!
OP.... DON'T sit at home GO OUT and HAVE FUN!!!!
01-28-2010, 08:05 PM
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I understand the emotions you have considering i just ended a 8 year fling with a girl 2 months ago.... Even though tons of things remind me of her, go out and find 1 girl to take your time away and you don't think anything about her... I go out all the time and go to the gym and that seriously helps out. I did break up with her cause i was tired of the stress, arguing, bitching, moaning, whatever else you wanna call it. Most of it was my fault cause i always had girls on the side but shit everyone makes mistakes. I told her i couldn't do it any longer just for the simple fact we had such a horrible past.
OP.... DON'T sit at home GO OUT and HAVE FUN!!!!
OP.... DON'T sit at home GO OUT and HAVE FUN!!!!
01-28-2010, 08:08 PM
#52
look i understand everything your saying... im not looking to date either but YOU GOT to get this shit off your mind. Other girls are good at doing this or very good friends. As soon as i broke it off with my ex i knew it was gonna be a sad moment but at the same time i saw light at the end and said hell there are others out there that will give more respect than the last one. I hate to see what you are going through but you gotta go out and get your mind off it or you WILL become DEPRESSED!
01-28-2010, 08:15 PM
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look i understand everything your saying... im not looking to date either but YOU GOT to get this shit off your mind. Other girls are good at doing this or very good friends. As soon as i broke it off with my ex i knew it was gonna be a sad moment but at the same time i saw light at the end and said hell there are others out there that will give more respect than the last one. I hate to see what you are going through but you gotta go out and get your mind off it or you WILL become DEPRESSED!
, very attractive, and isn't a mess. i'm not getting any younger you know
01-28-2010, 08:26 PM
#54
Ok so you are right its hard to find women out there without the "baggage" At the same time there are plenty still out there. No kids, No Debt, Great job.... man you are wanting a dream... One of those is gonna be somewhere in the system. The girl i let go had a very shitty job and didn't have a car... Her parents had no money.. losing all their cars... lost the internet, cellphones, power cut off frequently but i still loved the girl to death no matter what complications she had. I helped her through it all. i F***** up and didn't stay faithful and she told me all she wanted was me that i could have sex with them just don't love them and there was no WAY IN HELL i could do that to her.
Just like you said earlier that she dumped you and had a rebound WTF SERIOUSLY?? Dont look at all the bad between y'all as you have said plenty good but man sometimes taking the bad helps you through it.
Just like you said earlier that she dumped you and had a rebound WTF SERIOUSLY?? Dont look at all the bad between y'all as you have said plenty good but man sometimes taking the bad helps you through it.
01-28-2010, 09:17 PM
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i'm already depressed, no one will listen to me, so i come here to talk it out and trying to get it out of my system. its hard to find a girl that doesn't already have a kid, has no debt, no credit cards, has a good job, has her own place, likes hondas , very attractive, and isn't a mess. i'm not getting any younger you know
, very attractive, and isn't a mess. i'm not getting any younger you knowJust something to think about.
Of course if you're reasonably attractive, you could go for 20 somethings
01-28-2010, 09:24 PM
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I always believed that everything happens for a reason. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Live your life the way you want to, not the way you think you should. AZ is always here for ya. Keep your head up and do the things you truly love. And let me say this again, everything always happens for a reason!
01-28-2010, 09:37 PM
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Obviously you are in the Love is Blind stage and need to get out of it. you should start thinking she lost you. Yes nobody isn't perfect and we do all make mistakes since we are human. everybody seems to say everything,but its up to you if you want to make the step forward. Maybe it is a sign that she wasn't for you.
she hasn't matured yet then. she's still 18 inside.
she hasn't matured yet then. she's still 18 inside.
01-28-2010, 10:54 PM
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23??? She's way too young bro. Don't mean to be disrespectful but there's just no way she was ready for anything as serious as marriage. When things got deep with your illness you had, she ran for the hills. Her answer for leaving was you have too many health problems?? Only an immature girl will say that. Some things in life you just can't control but she needs to live life in order to realize it. Move on bro. Sometimes when people get depressed they either eat a lot or eat very litttle. Just be careful and take care of yourself and your dog who always got your back regardless.
01-28-2010, 11:15 PM
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dude you should be thankful that she is gone now.
01-28-2010, 11:30 PM
#67
Great. Now he's loose.
With more details out in the open, I think you should REALLY move on.
A 23 year old just isn't going to be mature enough to carry the weight of serious illness most of the time. I'm sure it happens with family members, but... And 23 is pretty young for you. 23 year olds act 23.
Don't get hardened to the idea of a real connection. I still think you should self-evaluate, try to grow with each new experience and do better next time.
A real big +1 to Anachostic.
A 23 year old just isn't going to be mature enough to carry the weight of serious illness most of the time. I'm sure it happens with family members, but... And 23 is pretty young for you. 23 year olds act 23.
Don't get hardened to the idea of a real connection. I still think you should self-evaluate, try to grow with each new experience and do better next time.
A real big +1 to Anachostic.
01-29-2010, 07:27 AM
#68
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You sent her home when the mood struck you. You sent her away when she just wanted to share something as easy as a dog. You gave her nothing but pipe dreams about making the committment of marriage. You led her on by talking about it, but not doing it. You say you were inseprable, but you didn't want her to give up her condo so that you could get rid of her when you get annoyed... rather than problem solving....and at you age, you still wonder why she left??? I'm sure she has her issues too, but by now you should be able to figure this one out.
Hormones??? Oh please! Drop the blame game. He doesn't need to fix what she did wrong. He needs to fix what he's doing wrong, so that next time it won't happen.
I'm sorry you're in pain, friend, but if this isn't the first time this has happened, maybe it should be looked at. Take some time to self explore. Be honest with yourself. Doesn't really matter what you tell us, just be honest with YOU!
I'd love to hear you telling us all about a true sharing and loving relationship at some point. It will happen for you someday, I'm sure.
Hormones??? Oh please! Drop the blame game. He doesn't need to fix what she did wrong. He needs to fix what he's doing wrong, so that next time it won't happen.
I'm sorry you're in pain, friend, but if this isn't the first time this has happened, maybe it should be looked at. Take some time to self explore. Be honest with yourself. Doesn't really matter what you tell us, just be honest with YOU!
I'd love to hear you telling us all about a true sharing and loving relationship at some point. It will happen for you someday, I'm sure.
01-29-2010, 08:20 AM
#69
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Well, at least you got some nice tight ass out of the deal but you need someone your own age now.
01-29-2010, 09:13 AM
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That sucks dude. I think you know it's done. All that is left is to move on.
It could have been worse....you could have married her, have kids and now be paying her alimony so she can sleep with some other dude that is also spending time in your house with your kids.
It could have been worse....you could have married her, have kids and now be paying her alimony so she can sleep with some other dude that is also spending time in your house with your kids.
01-29-2010, 09:32 AM
#71
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pics?
01-29-2010, 09:50 AM
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With more details out in the open, I think you should REALLY move on.
A 23 year old just isn't going to be mature enough to carry the weight of serious illness most of the time. I'm sure it happens with family members, but... And 23 is pretty young for you. 23 year olds act 23.
Don't get hardened to the idea of a real connection. I still think you should self-evaluate, try to grow with each new experience and do better next time.
A real big +1 to Anachostic.
A 23 year old just isn't going to be mature enough to carry the weight of serious illness most of the time. I'm sure it happens with family members, but... And 23 is pretty young for you. 23 year olds act 23.
Don't get hardened to the idea of a real connection. I still think you should self-evaluate, try to grow with each new experience and do better next time.
A real big +1 to Anachostic.
01-29-2010, 10:37 AM
#73
ok man. time to stop blaming yourself. she is 23. shit id be happy that it lasted this long.
like others have said. be thankful you got some nice play time with a young girl. but you obviously cant be too bad looking to get another girl.
so time to move onto a WOMAN.
like others have said. be thankful you got some nice play time with a young girl. but you obviously cant be too bad looking to get another girl.
so time to move onto a WOMAN.
01-29-2010, 10:40 AM
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It sounds like neither of you were ready for a committed relationship, with you sending her home on whim and her dropping you when you were seriously ill. Both of you are probably better off now.
Mope for a couple of days, then move on. G/L!
Mope for a couple of days, then move on. G/L!
01-29-2010, 10:46 AM
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yeah, its hard to think positive... i keep blamming myself for everything that led her to leave me... sending her home when we got into the fight, changing my password on my pc.. i felt like she thought i didn't trust her. its hard not to think its my fault..
01-29-2010, 11:12 AM
#77
wait?
-she left you while you were really sick?
-she fucked another guy while you were sick?
-she's 23 and you're 34?
she should be dead to you.
it's better to have fucked a 23 yr old and lost her than to not have fucked a 23 yr old at all.
if you want to get serious w/ someone, find someone older than 25!
-she left you while you were really sick?
-she fucked another guy while you were sick?
-she's 23 and you're 34?
she should be dead to you.
it's better to have fucked a 23 yr old and lost her than to not have fucked a 23 yr old at all.
if you want to get serious w/ someone, find someone older than 25!
01-29-2010, 11:35 AM
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it just blows that she works in the same building as me.. this would be so much easier to move on from if this wasn't the case.. its tough, because we see each other everyday
01-29-2010, 11:44 AM
#80
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Post nude pics of her here. It will help with the healing process.