Jeez, man...bad morning or something? The person's only 20 - they probably don't have a clue who they want to be personally or professionally. At least they're starting to talk things through to someone. I remember when my parents wanted to move from the house I was born in - I was young and irrational & told them I was not going to move. Of course that wasn't an option, as I was 10 or so, but perhaps that person will go through something similar after giving it lots of thought. Being gay is easier (as I understand it) today than it has ever been, but I'm sure it's still a very complex thing to work into one's life.

If they do settle on being gay (obviously some homo- and hetero- experiences are in order to help the decision along), I'd be more inclined to believe they'll find a gay community where they live, as well as straight friends that don't mind the choices he is making & will eventually 'come out of the closet', rather than going along with this plan that only an inexperienced kid would think could work out.

 

LoL, yea I noticed it yesterday. Just wanted to make sure you got the joke, lol.

 

Well, for the record: I'm gay the happy way. Not :ghey: the other way.



I'd be even more gay (the happy way) if my stupid robot order from Japan would ship!

 

I understand what you're saying Jack, and yes, that would be the righteous thing to do. However, thinking from a gay person's perspective, the society itself is not doing the "right" thing either by not simply accepting them for who they are. So, really, who's to say that one must do the "right" thing? Thus, it's my belief that at the end of the day, it's a matter of personal choice whether one chooses to confront the world and live a life of hardship -OR- chooses to take an easier path in life by keeping being someone they are not. I am not saying that the latter path is the right thing to do, but we (As human beings) should be more empathetic towards gay people instead of forcing them to come out of the closet :twocents:

Though, I will say this to whoever that submitted the confession: I know of a quote that would be very fitting to your situation and hopefully this will give you the courage to come out if you ever decide to it:

"I'd rather be hated for who I am than to be loved for who I am not"


Best of luck

 

Follow up to the previous confession: (Post #151 of this thread)


" It is me again. I wanted to clarify something, which seems to be bothering some people. Like I said in my previous posts I do not know what my sexuality is. So when I finally do hook up with a girl and if it does indeed turn me on then I will know. However if it does NOT turn me on I will NOT get married. I agree with its not fair to put a girl through that. However if it doesn’t turn me on I also will just live my life signal and just never tell anyone. Like I said my family and friends will never know. I have tried everything. Therapy didn’t do me any good and neither did the Christian youth group. Those are how two people know. The only way I think I will ever know is when I hook up. So I will only get married if I am positive I am straight. I am really glad I could tell someone other then people I will never see again. It sucks because whenever I go out to parties I never can drink in fear of opening my mouth so I have worked really hard to let nobody know that I’m second-guessing myself."

 

Perfectly relaxed.

But, that still doesn't take away the fact I'm going to e-dropkick your @$$ up and down this forum soon.

 

Kill two birds with one stone - marry a closet lesbian

 

i know this might sound crazy but are you sure its a sexual issue. it sounds like to me your not getting turned on period (i could be wrong but you said you need to make out to be turned on). are you sure you dont have arrection issues? We talked about them in physcology. If that was the problem you could at least tell your family that because that would just be gentics.

 

bust out some vivid video movies and you'll probably find out...I wonder if this person has ever tried the titty bar scene...that could help with discovering himself...thoughts Jack?

 

worth giving thought to...good idea, T

 

by ur response to his comment... it sounds as tho u wrote that email.. hmmmmm

 

revitup...we got your back!!!

 

"I'm sorry mama
I never meant to hurt you
I never meant make you cry
But tonight, I'm cleaning out my closet ...."

 

I just realized Agent 47 used to be SoCAL ACURA909.



And Yumchick's avatar = :ghey:

 

...it's not anonymous, but what the heck...

I don't get aroused at strip clubs despite the presence of ample sensory inputs or lap dances, although I am thoroughly hetero.

***TMI warning***



Arousal occurs for me in intimate surroundings with my wife and does not abate after initial release...

 

Only someone raised by Asian immigrants could be that sheltered.

 

PIMP ON WILL Y.!!!!! Whatever works for you. I'll be honest, I used to love titty bars, but then I started having busniess mtgs in local ones and ever since then, titty bars have been a place of business...some food, some drinks, a show of titties...what negotiating businessman would not like that?

 

 

mizouse?

 

I'm married, dude. Actually, wife = Fast&Fashionable

Good try, though. Thanks PLH.

 

LOL! i know it wasnt u... i was just playing... i saw ur wifey's thread "just sayin hi"... i think i was the frst to ask if it was gonna be another PW thread LOL

oh ya.. shot u some reps too!

 

more like adeclaration.

i was looking on craigslist at some of their misssed connections, and there are all these m4m ones on their, it is just funny what people will write

 

That's bullshit and nonsense. You can only try it and know it when you get married? Com'on, so you telling me if you realize you're still gay or is 100% gay, you'd get a divorce and move on? Cut me a break You're pathetic

 

He's young and dumb, man...cut him some slack. He obviously doesn't know enough about inter-personal relationships to know what kind of major effects these kinds of actions would have on him, the wife, & everyone else involved. He's probably learning more about all of this from this thread than he has from his parents & relationships in 20 yrs.

That being said, to consider 'experimenting' with a wife & long-term relationships is a very selfish thing to do, so I wouldn't suggest entertaining that idea any longer. Find some cool people that understand where you're coming from & hang with them for a while. Just take your time...you'll be alright.

 

You got it

 

What's the reason behind the change?

 

When I first joined the site, I was solely interested in the car discussions. As time progress, I've grown to loving the Rambling section. By then, I thought my previous username was a bit too "ricey". Therefore, I asked for the change and got it

 

How dare you call Iron Man :ghey:...?!??!?

 

(Pssst!!! Your PM box is full, btw....)

 

ok i'll confess.....

In febuary we sold our house. We moved just down the street and so I was driving from the new house to the old one to get more stuff. As I was driving there i was speeding kinda fast. So I turn down my street and go to back up my truck into the garage and I see two cops come down my street, scared the shit out of me. So being distracted with the cops....I BACK INTO THE HOUSE! as the cops just drive away. I got out of the truck and I messed up the wall pretty bad. the stucco came off the wall and everything. So I get what I need out of the house and then put the garbage cans in front of where the damage is. Then a few days later the buyer calls us complaining that we messed up the house. I lied to him and said that was there the whole time he just didnt see it because thats where we always kept the garbage cans. I told him look at the picture of the house on the flyer and it will show the garbage cans in that spot, I said its not my fault you didnt see it. He threatened to sue us but I said go ahead you cant prove that it wasent there before. Luckily he decided not to sue and I have not heard from him since.

Now let me say, normally I probably would not do this, I'd be honest. But this new buyer was a dick. Right as we sold the house my father in law passed away....on super bowl sunday....at a party. He also lived with me for the last 4 years and I was closer to him than my own father. The day he passed we were suppose to have everything out of the house 2 days later. We asked the new buyer if we could have another couple days or week since we had to mourn and plan for funeral and family flying in from all over the US. This ass said no sorry its my place now. I was so mad. Its not even going to be his primary house, he wants to use it as a vacation home. I had to go get everything out of my house and backyard at night in the pouring rain while I had 30 family members in my new house with nothing unpacked. So thats why I dont really feel bad about what I did.

 

Latest confession (Continuing from Post #165 of this thread)


" All right I don’t seem to be getting my point across so I’m going to be blunt. Right now nothing really “gets it up for me”. This is what is leading me to question myself. Like I said I have never done anything with either sex so I would not know from experience. Once I finally do hook up with a girl if it does indeed turn me on then I will know. However if it does NOT turn me on then that’s it for me. I plan on figuring this out before I get married if I ever do. If I turn out gay I will just live my life like a signal straight person because like I said my friends and family will never know. I know a lot of you don’t understand because probably very few people are in the position I am in. I don’t mean that negatively its just I think it is one of those things that you have to live in someone’s shoes before you know exactly what they are saying. You are all very lucky to never go through a faze in which you questioned yourself. I promise though if I find out girls DON’T turn me on I will NEVER get married. I understand that’s not fair to girls. Another thing is this is NOT my parent’s fault. They are a great couple and have been married for many years. They truly have done the best they can and I don’t in anyway blame this on them. I take full responsibility for what I am going though."



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A brand new confession:


Alrite mutha fuckers, I'm usually blunt about my shit on the forum, but I guess I'll use this thing to tell you foos something.....I still jam out to Milli Vanilli. When I'm feeling down, I like listening to "Blame it on the rain" word up

 

^^^ Whoever you are, that's one hell of a guilty pleasure

 

:ghey:

 

I think I like Fergie...

 

fixed. I'm sure that's what you meant.

 

fixed

 

I think this thread gets my vote for weirdest thread on AZ.

 

i like her lady lumps

 

oh, wtf?!!! hahahahaha.