I do love and honor my wife. And will until the good Lord takes me. What do you mean how does it make me feel? So all of the people in here who said to go have some public EXHIBITIONIST style sex are wrong too?

And it didn't matter what I thought about said couple. I wouldn't want that man for her either. It was OUR choice to leave, not just hers. Hell the woman was hot but was too abrasive for my taste as well.

Who the fuck cares what our parents think? Do you run your sex life by your parents? How would your woman's father feel if he knew you have been trying to put it in her pooper for the past six months? Get real they have nothing to do with our choices.

With that, good riddance.

 

Yea...call me old fashoined...but I am with Majofo on this one.

 

Speaking of "The good Lord" what do you think the Good Lord thinks of you letting others diddle your wife?

 

^I won't even lead the convo that direction as it's obviously futile. That was used as more of a common saying anyways.

 

Honestly, IMO, the qualities of the other couple that would be annoying long term, should not have affected you guys for the reason you were meeting to begin with.

I have to say cheers to you though for being that open...some of the stuff you've already experienced would make me split on that relationship. As open minded as I am, there is a reason why you're supposed to be doing all this when you're young and single. If you had, you 2 probably would be agreeing with all of the comments you're getting on here instead of defending it.

 

this club sounds like fun!

the couple rooms sounds fun with or without mirror

i dated this one girl for 2 year had lots of sex, NEVER was it in a bed... she would love this place. closest we ever came to a bed was in a chair next to the bed.

 

Wow.

You know, I've learned with my kids that you can talk until your blue in the face about the risks and dangers of what they are about to go do, but in the end sometimes they have to learn for themselves.

I will say in parting that out of the dozens 80+ year old married couples I've heard talk about the successful elements of a life-long marriage, never once have I heard "public sex and adultery kept our marriage alive and strong". Of course, my teenagers always think they'll be exceptions to the rule too.

I'm out.

 

i dont see how you can put public sex and swinging in the same catagory. they have nothing to do with each other. as far as the "risks" of fucking in public even if you get busted you chances of getting in trouble are slim.

this club set up is better than any of the places i did it when we could have been seen by children ect. the only people who would see in this set up obviouly wouldnt have an issue with it. my only worry is this club should forbid phones in case someone dosent want there sexcapades on the interweb

 

If you've done all that - I don't think its the "missed" crazy college years that you two are craving and missing. I think it's simple - you both are curious to be with someone else and add some notches to your belt. I guess this is better than going out and cheating......

 

The club was amazing. I hope some of you intelligent people out there realize swinging is NOT what the mainstream media makes it out to be AT ALL.

Thanks, DAD. I haven't been called a KID in a long long long time.

I can't really believe it either. I can't imagine saying an absolute NO to public sex. And yes, public sex and swinging are apples and oranges. However, most swinging events offer a nice safe nonjudgmental place to have public sex.

Quit hanging on the college days thing. That has nothing to do with the whys. It only brought it to light.

 

you're getting soap boxish on this topic...
for every response you get you end up saying the person misinterpreted what you said or has no idea what's really going on.
it's the easy way in a debate, giving no credence to the experiences and opinions of others.

 

Sorry but I will soapbox all day long when people call me "not a man", "not a husband", refer to me as a "kid", or simply state false facts about me, mine, and ours.

People don't like the subject or have anything to contribute yet keep coming back and posting. I mean come on, public sex ends or weakens marriage......? That I did not expect to see here.

 

I had public sex today.
in the back seat of the Acura.

 

I hope you Lexoled and 303ed everything before hand.

 

Its interesting reading both sides of the story. While I'm pretty conservative when it comes to this, extremely conservative, in fact. However, that doesn't change the fact that I can take a step back and say 'go for it'.

I'll say that I think its extremely stupid, but I've learned that a) some people look for naysayers to provide motivation b) some people can only learn by making those mistakes and by doing.

So if this is the way you learn, go for it. If it adds to the relationship, then great, no? If its all bad and your marriage breaks up, that's a discovery you want to make when you are relatively young as well. I mean, those crazy college years are there for a reason....to discover things, and learn about yourselves.

Lastly, while I don't condone this activity, you aren't putting a gun to your head. People, for better or worse, do this sort of activity and live to tell about it. It isn't in any way for me, but if you have to do it, do it. If it makes your life better then more power to you.

 

patiently waits for thread titled "My wife divorced me because I wanted to swing and she didn't really want to"

 

I think its his girl who has the sexual appetite.
you didnt really read, did you?

 

I did read the thread and I am sure that he is making it appear that his wife is interested just to make it easier on him.......I have yet to meet any halfway decent chick that was down with a threesome let alone the swinging scene....... typically girls that are interested in that kind of thing have questionable morals to begin with......

The wife will typically put up with it to try and make their husband happy in the mis-quided attempt to save the marriage.....

 

Ok I'm done with this thread. Being called a liar and questioning my wife's moral values is where I draw the line. I've been extremely conservative when it came to taking the verbal bashing that some of you have done. I'd rather not have to do that anymore.

Lock it up!