No s*x in married life .. can you live with it?
01-24-2010, 03:27 PM
#161
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In my experience it is inevitable. All women are frisky in the beginning but, once the "honeymoon" is over it fizzles off. Whether it be in dating or marriage, kids or no kids. Once the female decides she won't "give it up" as often as she once had....it's over and it will never go back to the way it was. It's the reality of it. 
Even if you do voice your concerns over the sexual infrequency, they always have the perfect response. Either months before marriage or well into the relationship they intice or "reassure" you by saying something along the lines of, "once things are settled, I promise we can do it anytime you want....". But it's never true, they mean well but it's not going to happen, trust me.
There can be other deeper underlying reasons before that decision is made. But truth of the matter is, what's done is done. At least in a females mind. Once a woman's mind is made, there's no compromise.
Even if you do voice your concerns over the sexual infrequency, they always have the perfect response. Either months before marriage or well into the relationship they intice or "reassure" you by saying something along the lines of, "once things are settled, I promise we can do it anytime you want....". But it's never true, they mean well but it's not going to happen, trust me.
There can be other deeper underlying reasons before that decision is made. But truth of the matter is, what's done is done. At least in a females mind. Once a woman's mind is made, there's no compromise.
01-24-2010, 03:48 PM
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01-25-2010, 02:25 PM
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The fastest way to feel unappreciated is to get denied at every initiation. But, hey, if that's what makes her feel better about herself, glad to help.
01-25-2010, 02:42 PM
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My EX-wife did do this. It's not the reason why we are divorced but we were dating for some odd years prior to marriage and we were like bunnies.
Something changed after marriage.
My friends and I seemed to notice the same trend among their wives as well. I will take back that I say "every" woman does this, granted that can't be true. I guess we are the unlucky bunch.
Something changed after marriage.
My friends and I seemed to notice the same trend among their wives as well. I will take back that I say "every" woman does this, granted that can't be true. I guess we are the unlucky bunch.
02-03-2010, 02:04 PM
#170
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A wise man once told me:
"Men give affection for sex and Women give sex for affection"
I have been married for almost 17 years and I feel quite fortunate listening to some of these stories.
I can recall in my 20s people telling me that marriage changes everything. I said "not my girl" - but things do change. Even more so after 2 kids.
My wife is a Super Mom. She works an engineering job 4 days in the office with a 45 min commute each way. She picks up the kids at 2 different bus stops, takes them to basketball, baseball, soccer, guitar lessons or whatever else is going on that particular day. She brings them home and helps with homework. She makes dinner and whatever else needs to be done around the house like laundry. On top of that she is in the PTA and volunteers around town. I try to help where I can but I could do more. I take care of all the "labor" items like mowing the grass, painting, shovelling (I don't think my wife even knows how to operate a shovel) and general fix-it man. I wash her car every few days - she is always complimented on it. I walk in the door everyday and say "Hi Princess" or "Hello Beautiful". She rolls her eyes but she is still gorgeous to me.
At the end of her day, she might have an hour or two to sit on the couch, usually with a laptop catching up on emails, and watch some tv to help her decompress. The fact that she has any energy left to keep me happy tells you what a special lady she is.
Thanks babe!
"Men give affection for sex and Women give sex for affection"
I have been married for almost 17 years and I feel quite fortunate listening to some of these stories.
I can recall in my 20s people telling me that marriage changes everything. I said "not my girl" - but things do change. Even more so after 2 kids.
My wife is a Super Mom. She works an engineering job 4 days in the office with a 45 min commute each way. She picks up the kids at 2 different bus stops, takes them to basketball, baseball, soccer, guitar lessons or whatever else is going on that particular day. She brings them home and helps with homework. She makes dinner and whatever else needs to be done around the house like laundry. On top of that she is in the PTA and volunteers around town. I try to help where I can but I could do more. I take care of all the "labor" items like mowing the grass, painting, shovelling (I don't think my wife even knows how to operate a shovel) and general fix-it man. I wash her car every few days - she is always complimented on it. I walk in the door everyday and say "Hi Princess" or "Hello Beautiful". She rolls her eyes but she is still gorgeous to me.
At the end of her day, she might have an hour or two to sit on the couch, usually with a laptop catching up on emails, and watch some tv to help her decompress. The fact that she has any energy left to keep me happy tells you what a special lady she is.
Thanks babe!
02-06-2010, 01:00 PM
#171
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That really sux !
I recently got seperated from my wife of 10 years. We Have 1 child (daughter) and an old fat dog.
This is just a reality of modern times. People get tired when money, children, work stress adds up. What do they usually do ? Typically they shut down.
The first thing that happens is (you guessed it) no sex.
Relationships are very hard things to manage and keep fresh.
It sounds like your friends family is doomed.
The same thing happened to me years ago. I tried to stick it out, but it didnt quite work out.
Honestly, men and women are very different people.
I have found that many young people dont have a Fuckin' clue as to how the world really works. As a result, there are these ridiculous expectation placed on both members.
If sex is really important to him, then he's goona bail.
But be prepared to fork over TONS of cash into lawyers, child support and definetly a ton of energy into fighting for the privelage of seeing his kids regularly.
The shit is ugly
I recently got seperated from my wife of 10 years. We Have 1 child (daughter) and an old fat dog.
This is just a reality of modern times. People get tired when money, children, work stress adds up. What do they usually do ? Typically they shut down.
The first thing that happens is (you guessed it) no sex.
Relationships are very hard things to manage and keep fresh.
It sounds like your friends family is doomed.
The same thing happened to me years ago. I tried to stick it out, but it didnt quite work out.
Honestly, men and women are very different people.
I have found that many young people dont have a Fuckin' clue as to how the world really works. As a result, there are these ridiculous expectation placed on both members.
If sex is really important to him, then he's goona bail.
But be prepared to fork over TONS of cash into lawyers, child support and definetly a ton of energy into fighting for the privelage of seeing his kids regularly.
The shit is ugly
02-07-2010, 08:46 AM
#175
Great. Now he's loose.
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