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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 01:40 PM
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fwiw the lower you get on the color scale makes the rock look much cheaper.
The diamond I bought doesn't look cheap and it's I color
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 01:41 PM
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I would need to look at the paperwork; but, I believe I paid roughly $7k for a .75ct VVS/G 8 years ago. Of course, that was with a gold setting which she has since upgraded to platinum. It's the perfect size for her hand and she still loves it.
That makes me feel really good about the ring I bought for my fiancee then.

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Be a real man and get a ticket to Africa and mine your own










Besides, it'll pay for the plane ticket and then some if you're successful
That's almost sound advice. Buying overseas was much cheaper and I got an artisan to handcraft a replica of the Tiffany's 6-prong setting in white gold for next to nothing.
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 01:43 PM
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Good info as always. I would concentrate on what she likes or what you think she likes based on your relationship. It doesn't really make sense for you to get everything perfect if she doesn't care for it. This way you'll be able to save some money.

Here is the diamond I ended up getting:

Color: E
Clarity: VS1
Cut: Very Good (I was fortunate to be able to look at the diamond under the loop)
Carat: 1.1



Also, when it comes to the setting, I went with the bucket type setting because the jeweler advised me that the prong settings can bend easily and have the diamond fall off.

Congrats, and good luck.
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 01:43 PM
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In case you didn't realize it, there is a whole forum dedicated entirely to men giving up their freedom.

Moved to D&R
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 01:46 PM
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My boyfriend said to tell you to run while you still have the chance.



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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 01:54 PM
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All I'll say is:

Quality stone, great cut > Big diamond

In other words.... Brilliance, sparkle, shine, attractive design > Size
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 02:00 PM
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You're right - he may have to sell them both.
And his left testicle...


In all seriousness... Good luck and congrats buddy! This site really is turning into weddingzine
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit
All I'll say is:

Quality stone, great cut > Big diamond

In other words.... Brilliance, sparkle, shine, attractive design > Size
is that what you tell dan? "it's ok hon, size doesn't matter"
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 02:02 PM
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My boyfriend said to tell you to run while you still have the chance.



He's just trying to throw you off the trail.
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 02:02 PM
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Originally Posted by LuvMyTSX
My boyfriend said to tell you to run while you still have the chance.



How big is his new bruise?
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 02:02 PM
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Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
In case you didn't realize it, there is a whole forum dedicated entirely to men giving up their freedom.

Moved to D&R
and answers from all around the north american continent in just over 2 hours. Who needs retail stores?
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by LuvMyTSX
My boyfriend said to tell you to run while you still have the chance.



what hospital should we send the get well card?
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 02:13 PM
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Originally Posted by badboy
He's just trying to throw you off the trail.
Originally Posted by wndrlst
How big is his new bruise?
Originally Posted by dallison
what hospital should we send the get well card?
I don't know, I'll have to let you know tomorrow night when I see him again. He's gonna get it!
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 02:27 PM
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 03:21 PM
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Originally Posted by badboy
Good info as always. I would concentrate on what she likes or what you think she likes based on your relationship. It doesn't really make sense for you to get everything perfect if she doesn't care for it. This way you'll be able to save some money.

Here is the diamond I ended up getting:

Color: E
Clarity: VS1
Cut: Very Good (I was fortunate to be able to look at the diamond under the loop)
Carat: 1.1



Also, when it comes to the setting, I went with the bucket type setting because the jeweler advised me that the prong settings can bend easily and have the diamond fall off.

Congrats, and good luck.
This is very nice! Thanks!

Originally Posted by LuvMyTSX
My boyfriend said to tell you to run while you still have the chance.



It's too late, there's a condo involved

Originally Posted by v6cord2k5
And his left testicle...


In all seriousness... Good luck and congrats buddy! This site really is turning into weddingzine
I still have both and plan on keeping them

Originally Posted by dallison
and answers from all around the north american continent in just over 2 hours. Who needs retail stores?
I love AZ!!!!!!!!!!

Originally Posted by Whiskers
Thanks Whiskers....
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 03:29 PM
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Originally Posted by v6cord2k5
And his left testicle...


In all seriousness... Good luck and congrats buddy! This site really is turning into weddingzine
Yeah no kidding...I'm gettin the hell out of here
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 03:43 PM
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Here's a link to the thread I started when I bought my wife's engagement ring. I used diamond.com and was very happy with what I got.

https://acurazine.com/forums/dating-relationships-14/do-you-think-shell-like-374033/
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 03:47 PM
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Originally Posted by badboy
Also, when it comes to the setting, I went with the bucket type setting because the jeweler advised me that the prong settings can bend easily and have the diamond fall off.
Put a lot of thought into the setting as well - especially what will hold the diamond in place. My prongs are made of a different material than the band - a stronger metal - so the diamond is more secure. Also, the setting plays a bit role in how the stone looks -- bigger/small/dull/sparkly - since it determines how much light passes through the stone and how much of the stone is visible.
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 08:43 PM
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Originally Posted by wndrlst
2ct solitaire...hope you're prepared to sell a kidney. Good luck.
Or I am a cheep ass bastard.

I got one similar to what badboy got for my wife. A little smaller. A good cut, color and clarity will make the stone look larger in a lot of cases.
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 08:51 PM
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs

I got one similar to what badboy got for my wife.


And you didn't have anything to say about that??!
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Old Aug 19, 2009 | 09:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit


And you didn't have anything to say about that??!


OK....let me try again.

The ring I got for my wife was similar to the one in badboy's photo. Only smaller and F color instead of E.

Does that work?
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 12:31 AM
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Originally Posted by vas25tl
I still have both and plan on keeping them
I see she hasn't introduced you to the "what's mine is mine, what's yours is ours, what's ours is mine" concept yet...
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 07:19 AM
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Originally Posted by v6cord2k5
I see she hasn't introduced you to the "what's mine is mine, what's yours is ours, what's ours is mine" concept yet...


But so true.

In my home it's "what's mine is mine, what's yours is mine, you don't own shit." But she is cool with me borrowing.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 07:32 AM
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Originally Posted by v6cord2k5
I see she hasn't introduced you to the "what's mine is mine, what's yours is ours, what's ours is mine" concept yet...
What is this concept your speak of?

Such an unfamiliar concept....
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 10:04 AM
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Originally Posted by vas25tl
What is this concept your speak of?

Such an unfamiliar concept....
It's a concept you will discover after marriage, while no longer having sex.

Congrats anyway!
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 10:38 AM
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Originally Posted by Will Y.
It's a concept you will discover after marriage, while no longer having sex.

Congrats anyway!
I think I'll be okay

I consider myself being one of the lucky ones
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 10:53 AM
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Originally Posted by v6cord2k5
I see she hasn't introduced you to the "what's mine is mine, what's yours is ours, what's ours is mine" concept yet...
I say that to him all the time...what's yours is mine, what's mine is mine!
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:09 AM
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Originally Posted by Will Y.
It's a concept you will discover after marriage, while no longer having sex.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:10 AM
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Originally Posted by wndrlst
I say that to him all the time...what's yours is mine, what's mine is mine!
I drew the line right where the robot boxes begin in the basement.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:24 AM
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I drew the line right where the robot boxes begin in the basement.
Good man. Mine says I'm more than welcome to play with his beat-up camping gear and 10 year old boxers all I want.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:24 AM
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Originally Posted by Yumchah
I drew the line right where the robot boxes begin in the basement.
and you wonder why she drew the line at the neck line?
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:28 AM
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Originally Posted by dallison
and you wonder why she drew the line at the neck line?
Fortunately, I know Kungfu from playing Street Fighter 2...
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Question to the OP: Have you set a budget...?
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by Yumchah
I drew the line right where the robot boxes begin in the basement.
When she eventually says...."sex with me or the robots," I'm sure those robots will be history.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:35 AM
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Question to the OP: Have you set a budget...?
I believe it's two kidneys and one gonad at the moment.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:36 AM
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Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
When she eventually says...."sex with me or the robots," I'm sure those robots will be history.
Offcourse, those robots aren't built to handle that kind of roughing up.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:44 AM
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I believe it's two kidneys and one gonad at the moment.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:49 AM
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Originally Posted by badboy
I believe it's two kidneys and one gonad at the moment.




Well, in all seriousness, my advice to the OP is to set out with a budget first...then see what he can purchase with that amount.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 11:51 AM
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Originally Posted by vas25tl
At this point, I think it will be 1-1.5 to be totally honest....can't swing 2.
I just recently upgraded my wife's ring for our 20 years together / 18th wedding anaversary (call it an early 20 year gift). I wound up a Jared because I just didn't think I could trust local or the internet - I'm not a diamond expert and also I want to see something in person if I'm going to drop major cash. I got her a 1.25 Ct solitare, round cut, SI1, and I *think* the color was H (it's a very white diamond). Basically, we went for the quality marks that look very good to the naked eye (and to her) without staring to pay a lot for what looked good under a microscope. The diamond itself was $6.5K, and the setting was $800 (.25 Ct small diamonds set in the band). It's a beautiful ring - $8K total after tax out the door. I'm not saying I got a great deal as many will likely point out, but I did do enough research to know it was ballpark. 1.25 Ct. was a really nice size - big enough to show up, but not so large she'd be worried in a parking lot about loosing a finger.

So the advice I give everyone looking for a ring (having bought two...). Know what she likes and get that. Go big enough so she knows that you sacrificed for her, but not so big that you're sacrificing getting off to a good start financially with your marriage.

Hope that helps.
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Old Aug 20, 2009 | 12:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Yumchah
Question to the OP: Have you set a budget...?
Uhm....not really at this point. I need to stay reasonable, we just bought a place. Definitely nothing north of 8, would like to stay around or less than 4K which can pick up a decent 1.25....with searching maybe something more.

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I believe it's two kidneys and one gonad at the moment.
I'm really trying to stay positive in this process! This isn't helping.
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