So yesterday my girlfriend text messages me. I look at and it says' "i know you have been talking to Lauren" (lauren is a girl that i had a werid relationship with we would have sex but at the same time we would just be best friends) So i said yes i have been she broke up with her boyfriend and wanted some advice. I havent talked to lauren is about a year. So she is getting all mad at me and we started fighting back and forth. I had always had some kind of an idea she had slept with a kid i use to hang out with, so i said "you still havent told me the truth about him" she then hung up the phone. I get a call back from her and she is crying and screaming, and she tells me mike im so sorry i did sleep with that kid!! I was crushed, it Happened about 7 months ago, I could feel it the night it happened I remember it as clear as day. So i left work throwing up in the bathroom. She arives at my house, at first i tell her i hate her and never want to see her slut face again. She leave's then ten minutes later she calls me and says she wants to talk. I let her come back we sit down and talk. I was completly calm it was werid it was like i always knew she had done this. I wasnt even mad at her i was more discusted with her. Few hours pass and i take her back. When it happened we were on a break but im more mad she lied to me about it the whole time. What should i do guys, she i stay with her or leave her.

She is my bestfriend and my girlfriend and i am the same to her. its such a hard situation for me. we have been together 1 year 6 months tomorrow. Our lives are all tangled to eachother with money, insurence, phones and everyhting. I love this girl more then anything and i was just so hurt. I feel she is honestly sorry for this. HELP ME GUYS

 

I would have never tied all that stuff together till marriage, you youngins are crazy these days.

 

Tell me about it!!. I help her out caues she in school and gets paid like shit at her current job. I am out of school and work full time. I mean she cleans and shit. If i ask her to do something for me while im at work she does it. She sometimes cooks. I make her clean the inside of my car haha. Everything is in my name though so i can drop her ass hard core. I just dont know what to do. i love her very much. we have both fucked up a few times in the relationship but i never cheat like she did.

 

If you were truly on a break, how bad of a break was it? Would you have slept with someone during that break if you had the chance?

 

Whatever happens on break, happens on break.. Ya'll werent together, so what's the problem? You cant hold that shit over her head. If she wasnt a virgin when u met her then dont be sweating it and move on.
But on the other hand... Who else might she have screwed and not told u about? If you dont think u can trust her.. kick her ass to the curb. If they lie about one thing they prolly have a whole dump truck full of shit they havent told you about..

"Bitches aint shit but hoes and tricks!"
- Dr. Dre-The Chronic -

 

No i would not have. She was drunk after the club and mad at me. These are all no excuse in my eyes. She does not use any of them as excuses either. She knows she did something wrong. This is her first real relationship. she had only 2 boyfriends before me and had never loved before me.

I on the other had was a cheater in my prior relationship. I was with a girl for 3 years in high school and cheated on my graduation night, and what made iit worse in that relationship i had slept with my old girlfriend 2 hours before i slept with the next girl. then i grabbed some dome when i whole up that morning from another chick. I feel like its god way of punishing me for what i did he wants me to see how it feels to care about smoeone more then anything and then them betray you.

 

damn you have a lot of drama in your relationship. You should write some rap lyrics and make a few mil. Worked for Eminem.

 

First thing you need to do is try to un tangle your lives. Even if you stay together, you're 21 and I'm guessing she is around the same age. Unless you're planning marriage, which I think you are not, I think it's a bad idea. Just my opinion.

Next, you have to tell her you don't trust her any more and if you plan on staying with her, she needs to work and regaining your trust. Since you were on a "break," you really shouldn't be that pissed that it happened. It seems to me that you just don't trust her for not telling you sooner, and you need to tell her that.

Good luck.

 

do not get financially involved at such a young age. huge mistake i made in a past relationship, towards the end there's no doubt in my mind that she only stayed with me because i was supporting her. live and learn.

but, if it really did happen on a break, she technically didn't do anything wrong. it's f'ed up that she lied, but you can't really hold the sex against her, it wasn't cheating.

 

She knows i dont trust her. The break rules were we just ahng out with our friends and not fuck around on eachother. Haha i had more then 1 chance to bang a few chicks but i didnt caues of her. I think i shoud have.

 

Breaks are always horrible gray areas. Im currently on one, and I think that how either one acts on a break should speak volumes about the relationship and if it should continue.

Personally I havent found a reason to make out with, let alone have sex with another guy. Ive just been going out like crazy with my friends.

Sounds to me like you should start to protect yourself financially.

 

I told yer yesterday " you are cut off if you want me you need to prove it no more bullshit i'll fuckin leave you high and dry faster then you will believe" "then she starting throwing up in ym bathroom of my home begged for me back saying she cant live without me that she hates her self caues of it and how she loves me more then ever and she was stupid and influenced by her friend" This friend she told to fuck off about a week after her mistake. so that made me think even more she really was ina fucked up place in her life. She does have a messed up life. Her mom died when she was 2 years old her father raised her then married a evil step mother that treats her like complete shit. Sometimes i just feel so bad for her. other then this mistake she is a really good girlfriend, she suprises me with little things that make me happy she went all out on my 21st birthday with some hot ass thigh highs boosite and garder belt thing. blunts boose. I mean besides this shes awesome. And i am just a normal guy, she is fucking hot as hell. Blonde hair about sholder length, blue eyes, amazing body, prefect smile i mean damn she is fuckin hot, we have a great sex life and party with our friends all the time. we have a pretty good relationship when fucked up shit doesnt happen.

 

Id be willing to be you two would beat out Chris Pontius and Steve-O for throwing up.

Cut the financial cord. Stay with her if you want. But dont bring up old dirt if youre obviously willing to accept it and be with her.

 

Thank you. I dont know i guess we were both just completley discusted about everything that happened yesterday. we'll see how the next few days go and if i can honestly get over this. I am just confused some girls are just gross creatures. theres a few good ones but girls are very dirty liers and they are so good at it caues they a re suppose to be the faithfull ones in the relationship. I was a man whore inbetween my 3 year relationship and my current i know how girls are, they are just as fuckin horney as guys are. maybe i should juist go back to having one night stands and not giving a fuck and had not a problem in the world. Then when i met her it all changed she changed me i guess. Maybe she just changed me back........we will find out sooner or later

 

she sure does puke alot.

 

Shaved, use the fucking Enter key once in a while, please I beg you.....

 

Sorry dude not thinking clearly. Yes alot of puking went on. I was just completly sick and so was she. we built out lives around eachother and yesterday it all came crumbling down. We have been through alot together. It just seriouly made us both that sick plus when she see someone puke she pukes haha

 

jesus, i read at a 3rd grade level and all i got from this shit is that someone got some "dome when they wholed up"

 

I think he and his girlfriend got some type of stomach bug

 

Whats with all these cheaters blaming it on their no good friend(s).

Take some responsibility for your actions.

So who's this kid she banged. Sounds like you know him?

 

I hear if you tag doggystyle while she yacks...the convulsions feel great...

 

i heard anal is twice the sensation during convulsions of this nature.

 

I use to hang out with him. I havent in a long long time and i didnt hang out with him when he banged my girlfriend.

 

Ross and Rachel all over again.

 

Shaved needs a proofreader.

 

Yes he does

 

Once a cheat always a cheat.
Kick her to the curb.

 

surprised someone hasn't asked for pics of the chick yet...

 

i'll take some pic's tonoght maybe she slay someone from this forum. freakin whore she is

 

Let's see, so far this chick has been raped, then decided to go to the Army and then changed her mind and cheated on you....

"ughhh, talk about melodramatic..."

 

wow thats alot man. i'm sorry for you guys but atleast you guys got some shit worked out. but u beeen through alot with this girl.

 

yeah, pics please.

And don't throw stones if you live in a glass house

I was in a similar situation a while ago, she said "I didn't have a right to know what she did while we were on break, so technically it wasn't lying." So she told me eventually, but she was kinda right about the knowing part, lying part still open for interpretation

 

You guys have no clue, haha i am so ready to call it quits i just love her so mcuh it fuckin kills me. I dont know what to do i am so undecided........ i dont even know what to say. its just so so fucked up

 

yo anthony im havin a few partys at my house this week, ytou could meet the devil oops i mean ym girlfriend if you wanted to haha

wow when the hell did i get over 1000 posts haha

 

hahah werd, yo my b-day is Sunday woot!, but anyways, yea let me know, call me i'll come by. btw Ultra Next saturday night i got my own table lol.

then after i meet his gf, i'll report back to you guys

 

haha, its werid, when we started going out i thought she was cute and shit, then all of a sudden she has a orgasam and she a new person. she loses weight, get a haircut and all of a sudden bam shes a hottie. just found out no pic's tonight caues we will be at her house, but when the rents go away i get to take some special pics of her in what she got me for my 21st bday haha

 

Chick needs to grow up, sounds like a head case

 

You guys wouldnt believe the crazy shit that goes down in my town. It 100 times worse the the OC and its real. Most of the people in this town are very wealthy, all the kids are spoiled little bitches, there are more drugs then you could ever think and all the people do them, actually there about 3 drugs that go on, everyday everyone is smokin weed or blowin yayo or popin x pills. drinking around the clock. people fuck eachothers girlfriend then they get back at them this one cheated on that one now shes fuckin him so she beat her ass for that his car got smashed by him caues it was his girlfriend. You guys would shit your self if you knew what went down in this town. it unreal. Seriously people walk in on eachother cheating police are involved people cocktail peoples houses and get away with it. Its so fucked up and i thoguth it was like this everywhere but its not. I need to gett he hell out of here

 

Seriously, I used to write like you. Okay, I still do. But I learned to go back and read what I wrote before I hit submit. Fixing the grammatical shit is easy.

 

I think they should stop using the drugs and maybe pick up a book and learn to communicate in the English language. It would be a great place to start.

Your 21, you haven't been through THAT much with her, get over it and move on - Its not like you have kids. Next time don't be so emotional, you'll only get hurt time and time again.