RichS, so have you brought up the topic to her?

 

Grandad always said even canned tuna goes bad. With that being said it takes a lot for LD relationships to work out. I hope you get the answer you are looking for.

 

^^ what they all said is very true yet again. It's hard to come to grips with but it's true. I'm in a similar situation - and have finally overcome the 'caring' side of things. She's still away and I won't see her for another week so really if she wants to talk to me she can talk to me, and when she gets back we'll see what the deal is (I'm not optimistic one bit) HOWEVER in the mean time - i've already got girls lined up... even if it doesn't end up being something meaningful it will at the very least help you get over them, trust.

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

Then when she gets back if she decides she's made up her mind and actually wants you then she can try to work to win you back. Guys put up with too much crap these days. Just think if it's like this now do you think it's gonna get better?

I'm not gonna go as far to say as that she's fucking someone else, cuz not all girls are hoes like that, but she at the very least doesn't have the same feelings as she once used to.

 

oh god please don't say that. THAT is complete weak sauce. The problem is, you are dealing with an irrational person (woman). You can not address them as you would a rational person (man). Women want someone that is "strong" (will ignore them when they are acting like a bitch).

IGNORE HER!!! THE SILENCE IS DEADLY. They can't take it! Trust me, I learned the hard way.

 

word. Grab your fucking cajones bro.

 

She is/was probably exploring her options. Women, especially young ones are pretty fickle. Out with the old, in with the new. No matter how "madly in love" they are. I'm not going to say shes getting plowed but you know the type of chick that she is.

If she slept with you really soon then yeah 99% chances are that she was fucking and it didn't work out and she fell back on you. If she isn't a hoe then she probably just got tired of you. It happens. Not everyone is compatible.

Shit like this is excusable for a day, maybe two but not WEEKS.

 

I agree with all these guys. Never trust a girl. Period. I love my girl. I wouldn't trade her for anything. But I also know she's capable of pulling some fucked up shit, so, unfortunately, I don't trust her. I'm paranoid to the extreme, but that's cuz I look out for number 1. She's PROBABLY cheating. But you won't know unless you be straight up and say "okay, we need to talk. what's been up with you lately?" but then again, she's most likely not gonna tell you what's really up, so you gotta go with you gut. dump her, believe her, or keep a bitch on the side. good luck man.

 

^how can you love your girl if you don't trust her?

 

I trust her to the extent where think she MOST LIKELY wouldn't fuck me over. But I don't put it beyond her reach to do so. I'm not blinded by my love for her to where I'll ignore any and all suspicious signs. I've witnessed that happen many times and have always kept my mouth shut and observed, so I see her as what she is, I love her and I trust her, but I don't trust people in certain ways, period. In terms of love, I'm 100% hers, but like I said, I won't blind myself and look past any discrepancies that may arise. In the end, innocent until proven guilty prevails. I won't make haste judgments against her unless I have evidence to back it up. Till then, I love her and she's my baby. Aint that sweet?

 

Nothing wrong with that logic at all! Damn, I'm impressed by that "18-yr old" perspective! That's right young'un, you my man 100 grand!

You don't have to run up on them when you suspect, like a lot of women do us. You bide your time, and then when you have states evidence, then you come with it! Be like: Bitch explain, and don't complain, else I'll leave a mofo stain!

Enhance your life by her love, but don't sacrifice your life for her love. What's the reason why people feel enabled to cheat anyway? Because they know you trust them! Trust is not about what I "will or won't" do...trust is about what I make you "feel" I will or won't do! So if I feel my lady won't cheat on me, I trust her. That doesn't mean she won't. Just means I don't think she won't. Thereby giving her the greenlight to do so because I don't hawk her! Doesn't mean she will tho, still. But I already know what people can and might do, so I protect my mind at all times! I go with the peace of mind trust.

I am probably the easiest guy on the earth to cheat on tho, because I don't sweat my women I hook up with. If you say you are going to the party with your girls, then that's where you are until you aren't. Case closed. No check up calls and all that. Just trusting you because I have to. I can't sit around scratching my head wondering where you are when I'm home alone. I ain't going off the deep end over that type of shit. If I am with someone that I feel like that about (like I'm trying to school the OP on) - then they have to see the exit! See ya, wouldn't wanna be ya! You can't put a price on peace of mind. I am more the type of believing that my lady knows what she has at home. So if she goes out here and gives it up to someone else, it was your pussy to do that with from the startment! That means you wasn't my baby-girl from the get go then! I know I don't own it. But BYE HOE BYE!!! Bideeeyooottcchhh!!!! I ain't forgiving a mofo thing, but yes indeed - please forgive me when I do it for I know not what the fuck I do!

So OP, kick her weak-non calling-suck ballin'-ass to the mofo curb!! Eclipse that hoe with another fun-bun! Fa sho!

 

from personal experience, a change in pattern (in this case less communication) is never a good thing...

As for the "surprise visit"? I've done that too and caught her with someone else... except it was another girl...

At first, I was like...
then... but that didn't happen... so then it was

 

everything's been okay. she just got layed off from work and has found work up here in NJ. she will be moving in with me actually, as I have a pretty big apartment with lots of extra space (though it's old as shit, these damn jersey buildings and their maintenance hassles)

anyone know any good places to live near ramapo? i might be moving there soon -office is closer. btw, anyone up in nj into setting up ibm network hardware for various businesses?

 

good to hear Rich... most of these guys on here just talk shit outta their asses... its good to know you gave her an honest chance. its hard not to be paranoid when you love someone but keep the faith man.