hey guys, i've been goin out with this girl for a year and it has been working out really well. she lives 3 hours away, so we meet up on weekends only. our parents have even met.

lately, she never answers my phone calls, and that's fine.....but she doesn't return the call either. sometimes, i'll get an AIM late into the night saying sorry she couldn't answer. and on AIM we used to talk everyday, but now she never IMs me. I have to IM first, and half the time she will never respond back.

b/c of this she has no idea what i'm doing these days (lately i got a promo at work and have to travel to different cities) and don't know what she's up to either other than the stupid AIM away messages haha.

how do i ask her in a non-aggressive way, to say "what's goin on" or "is there something wrong?"

 

Surprise visit....

 

Yeah that situation doesn't sound good.. I'd just flat out ask her "Why haven't you been talking to me lately?"

 

Reverse the roles - ignore her - move on

 

I'd just be up front and ask her wtf is going on and why she doesn't answer your calls. Has she ever heard of texting? Is she in school or what?

 

i agree. im a female and i think like a guy...lol

but honestly sorry to say, she has met another captain winkie. long distance relationships never work.....cuz i would be damned if i wait a week to see my bf without having sex unless my cousin is in town to visit

 

You just answered your own question. Just don't be wishy-washy about it, and don't do it on AIM. Call her... leave a message if she doesn't answer, but ask her straight out. Doesn't look good though.

 

Sorry, dude, but it doesn't sound like she wants to be your girlfriend any longer. It sucks that she doesn't have the cojones to come out & say it, but nevertheless...

 

ask her once, if she does not respond than C-Ya! Find some giner in each city you travel to.

 

wait....did the relationship start out long distant???

 

Good point... he said their parents have met, but he never said he and the girl have met.

 

yes he did...they meet up on the weekends.

 

Maybe they only meet online on the weekends??

 

x2

it's your only chance.


You can ask her but she'll give you some BS answer that you know won't be the truth but she'll claim it is...and then you'll be back where you are now.

Ignore her, and start moving on - if she really cares she'll msg you.

If not you have your answer.

Actions > words.

 

move on. it's over

 

Yes, it STARTED off long distance, (we met this anniversary party and we were both from out of town) and we meet almost every weekend. I usually drive to her place.

so I'm debating between what cibs said about ignoring or or just getting this thing done with and asking her straight up.

 

the sooner you get your mindset that it's over, the better it'll be for you when you find out either way...

IMO unless she's unlike 99.9999999% of the rest of the female population she's not going to be straight up with you when you ask her.

I would vote for ignore her for a while, and then when your feelings are settled and you're pretty much over her if you're still together (that is if you have any feelings) ask her what's going on and then be the one to break it off if she doesn't answer your questions to your satisfaction.

 

Just ask her man.. get it over with.

 

make her drive to visit you, and don't be there.

 

pretty much agree with all of the above.

doesn't look too good, man.

sorry.

 

Either she's really busy, or another dude is in play, either way, you need to be upfront about it if she's acting different. Ask her flat out, depending on what the answer is, go from there, but it doesn't sound good

 

keep a Louisville Slugger in the back seat just in case of complications...

 

wait,
I'm hoping I misinterpreted that last part

 

Me too.

 

You and me both...

I can't really add anything to this except I agree with what's been said...

 

Nice catch...

 

Leave her alone she is probably from west virginia.

 

She said cousin, not brother....

 

Fine.....UTAH

 

Make sure she is not preggers. I had a buddy that dated a girl on a long distance relationship and got distant. Well long story short she was preggers and did not want to tell him until it was too late. When he found out he nipped the problem at the bud.

 

Maybe it's a second cousin... they aren't off limits, are they?

 

No blood connection... then she gets the affection

 

Mike's Fearless Mangina interpretation:

"...unless I am having my period "

 

Reverse Roles FTW!!!

Don't AIM her anymore... don't go for your usual weekend visit... don't answer her calls... do to her as she has done to you...

She'll probably come to you to see whats wrong... that is when you can ask her what was wrong with her... if she gives you some BS... just say you found some other hot chick to mess around with... which I would suggest you start doing... right about NOW!!!

 

Without reading anything other than the title: Dump her before she dumps you.

 

Looks like you guys have a very open communication...

Seriously...go visit and see what's up. It's not that hard.h

 

Well after reading everything, I stand by what I already said.

Been there, done that.

btw, a surprise visit will just result in a bunch of wasted gas.

 

Sorry, I had no where else to post this.

 

"99 problems but a bitch ain't 1."

 

says you aren't her boyfriend anymore.