So i kinda feel weird posting this in a car forum of all places but idk you guys are nice enough and im sure you can givem e some insight into this. Well i am 17, about to be 18 this 24th and i had a girlfriend of 2 years. I consider myself to be a pretty good looking guy, indian(dot), average height, athletic build and this girl was a slim fit, down to earth, realistic girlfriend. She literally just knocked me out. I am not the type of guy who is a tool, im well mannered, always respectful, like having very i guess intellectual conversations, and well i said before im indian so that should say it all haha. So back to the subject, 2 years we have been going out, 2 great great years, and i am in love with her there is no doubt about that, but she has always sort have been unsuspecting with her emotions. More specifically she kinda have modes, where she just gets really serious and starts to just push everything about from her, and i always take the brunt of it but we always work it out. So this girl, she said that she lost feelings for me, but i know in my heart of hearts that its not true, this past week we were together almost everyday. Oh, i forgot to mention that niether of us are able to date except my parents basically know but hers dont so its ahrd to hang out. So continuing on we are "intimate" and cute, and we just make sense, people always compliment us, or talk about us (no bragging) and well when we were together this past week she did all the little htings, staring when im not looking, playing with my fingers, and then all of a sudden she just doesnt want it anymore. hmmmm:[ it really makes me sad, and right now i find myself just in a bad mood, and working out alot, and its only been 2 days i literally feel bad, except... i want her, not in a sexual or tool sense, but i love being around her, im literally addicted to her, or atleast my chemical production is. We make eachother smile, laugh, love. Right now she has just blocked me out, being so cold, i just dont know what to do. I'm not really looking for advice even though it is welcomed, idk i guess i just want somebody to talk to, somebody to talk to about this. I have enough friends, and by friends i mean really close ones, but they just cant understand, and they dont give me the insight i need. I know there are other fish in the sea and that i am young, but im the type of guy who loves commitment, i know call me weird all you want. It means alot to me, and she does to, i just want her, and nobody else.... No rebounds, no flings, no new person, just her. Thanks for reading and for the input to come.

 

You lost me at 18.

I have been with so many girls (not just one night stands) that I can't remember all their names. Life is short, but soon you'll forget her name.

 

you're fucking 17 years old.

Find another pussy, and then another, and then another.

 

You sound needy as hell...

 

what they said

 

I know it's hard to let go of a first love, but if she doesn't feel the same way about you, it's best for you to move on. You deserve to be with someone who loves you as much as you love her.

And as others have pointed out, both of you are young and still growing as individuals. You'll most likely change as you get older and realize that what you need and want in a life partner will change as well. As you meet other women along the way, you'll probably fall in love a few more times... Eventually, the sting from losing your first love will fade away.

 

You guys are still kids. Your changing, she's changing. What's her ethnicity btw? Is she indian as well? You guys have completely different relationship issues from the rest of us.

The only way to find out whats going on with her is to talk with her and find out. Man up, grow some balls and ask her why she becomes cold/distant sometimes. I'll put it simply: Dont enable girls to play around with you.

 

You're very young, you've only begun to discover what love really is. If she's not into it any more, then it's not meant to be. Time will help you heal and you'll move on and experience things with other girls. You'll be fine

 

Date a white girl, that will piss off your ex.

 

Everything that happens in life has a reason but there's time we don't understand why it happens. Your only 17 and there's going to be a lot of changes in your life as you get older and wiser, just move on and don't look back I'm pretty sure as you metion that your a good looking guy (no home here) you shouldn't have a problem finding yourself another lady. In the mean time of finding a lady just keep modding your car that means more money for you been single lol..... Good luck

 

Was thinking the same thing

 

And probably your parents

 

Listen to this guy, he knows his shit.

 

 

 

Sorry to hear about your situation. What you're going through is not a lot of fun.

You're going to get a lot of "you're 17 move on" comments, but that's easier said than done after two years.

Based on what you said, I think you are in a situation where you really can't do anything about this. Sounds like the issues are on her side and whats going on in her head. So my first bit of advice is to just leave her alone. Maybe she'll go though some stuff and realize she made a mistake, and maybe she won't. But nothing you do will alter the outcome - you'll only make this harder for yourself if you try to keep "win her back". That almost never works out.

Second is you will feel bad until it just doesn't feel bad any more. There is no time line or magic acvice. Most people focus on themselves, reconnect with friends, etc. I'd recommend that.

Last, as perfect as she seems for you, there will be others. You have a huge advantage in that you now know what to look for, and what to avoid. Your smarter and wiser. As hard as breakups like this are, what you learn from it is invaluable.

I had two "perfect girls" break up with me before I met my wife. One at 18, the other at 20. But the one I met at 21 I'm still married to. Each girl taught me something about myself, and a lot about what I was looking for. Even if you two part ways, you'll be better for it. It may not seem like it now, because you're in the worst of it. But it gets better, you will recover, and one day it will just be a story you tell about the first girl that really got to you.

 

She is actually Persian Spanish, pretty exotic i guess? i have asked her, thats just her personality anybody that knows her can tell you that, for them ost part she was open with me wide open with me but sometimes its just ugly. Ill just get over it i guess, spending the week in CO up in Durango!!! So im down for some fun

 

Thanks for the advice, i appreciate it, and i know there is better yet to come. As you said right now im basically in the thick of it so of course it will be more difficult, but again thanks.

 

She sounds like a bipolar bitch.. I mean a real keeper.

 

Consider this the most important life lesson you'll ever have...

As someone who has been diagnosed bipolar, I also very much agree with this assessment. I dated a girl who was bipolar, she was a crazy bitch, but she was a lot of fun in bed. In the end, the crazy bitch part outweighed the other, and she was dumped.

Do yourself a favor, and find out what else is out there. I have now been single for the longest period of time since I turned 18, and it's great. I regret not realizing this earlier, not being held back by anyone else is great. Enjoy it while you can.

 

Wait a sec...arent you with that hottie friend from highschool now? Was she the bipolar one? Somebody mentioned they saw crazy in her...

 

pussy whipped at 15.......

Yeah move on. Forget her.

 

It's so weird becoz we will all tell you that one day it'll be in perspective etc. and that's all we can say. But it isn't "one day" yet, so we are providing nothing useful for you today!

At any rate, man.. you are lucky to face this kind of thing while you're still young. I didn't have a taste of it till age 24... decimated me 2 years, and now 6 years later I still haven't had a next GF

 

Didnt read much of the replies, as I'm sure they delivered the same message

Let's reexamine your feelings. It is not called love. It is called lust. It is a comfortable attachment. It is something that you are use to. And thus so fond of it. Why would you want to fight for someone who does not want the same in return? She has someone else, it's obvious.

Let this be an experience, and I promise you, if it meant to be for you two to get back together it will happen, naturally. In the mean time all you can do is express your feelings to her and move on. This way you will have closure and remain in good standing. Just enjoy life to the fullest. And remember, everything does happen for a reason... Good luck.

 

At 17 you don't have a clue what you need or what is good for you. I know you don't believe me, and I know you won't believe me until you are at least 22. Still, it's the truth.

The other thing is a girl who is 17 knows even less of what she needs or wants than you do.

This sounds like a blessing in disguise. A smart person will learn from their mistakes. A wise person will learn from other's mistakes. We aren't just here to blow smoke up your ass (no homo). We are all older and more experienced than you, and thus, know what to look out for.

Good luck; may The Force be with you.

 

 

SO effin true!

 

OP, since it's over... nudez?

 

Ahem.

 

I remember on my 15th birthday I started to look back on the prior year and I was amazed at how much I thought I knew at 14, but didn't really have a clue. That happened every single year until I was about 25. My son is now 17, and I can see the cycle repeating.

If you can survive the bad judgement and lack of wisdom that comes with youth, without doing permanent damage to the rest of your life, you've done well.

 

OP shit happens....move on....and fuck you are 17....at that age, i wanted the chic to break up with me to avoid fucking drama when i break up with her....

all in all....MOVE THE FUCK on...i tapped more ass back in Bombay than you are over here....now thats a mafawking achievement !!!

 

like (mostly) everyone else said, i would move on. i know that "none of us" understand what you're going through and all, but believe me...there are PLENTY of other women out there for you.

first love is always the worst, you will remember her for the rest of your life. you'll see her FB page and get jealous, you may even run into her out in public. all of those things suck and will make you feel like a worthless loser turd. but...it'll only make you stronger in the long run.

learn to accept the fact that she doesn't want to be involved with you any longer. move on with your life. stay single for a while and fuck anything that has a pulse. you'll forget about her shortly after.

god speed little buddy. god speed.

 

Pics or it didn't happen

 

having long term relationships all through highschool and shortly after was the biggest mistake i ever made...

get you some strange, you'll feel better...

 

I no have pix....do you

 

 

The FUCK o_O ... i got lost ready but what they said. Shes not the only woman in the world...people come and go all the time. You may feel this way right now cause she probably your first love type of thing but youll get ova it...life a bitch...fuck it n keep it moving

 

^that was rude.

 

^^^ check his s/n