Mike 350Z

Actually I heard pre cum has a higher concentration of spermies than the regular load.

TypeSAddict

Abortion is legal in ALL states.......Roe v. Wade, anyone? THe reason that people go to a 'mom and shop, abortion chalet' is because some states require people under the age of 18 to have parental consent and what not. Since you are both adults, go to Planned Parenthood and get a list of abortion providers.

indoMFP

Why you getting all 'college' on us??? Using school words and shit, niggas like us don't understand that shit....
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fuckin I think he speaks from experience, eh???
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Yeah, we already deciphered that, but thanks for playing.....
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Are you serious??? I might have post a thread similiar to this in a few days....
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rezurex, just like everyone says:
1. Makeup with her, this will calm her down,
2. Act supportive, even if the your not.... the last thing you want is anger involved
3. Find out if the kid is your (tactfully)
4. Talk to her about options and try to convince her that abortion might be a solution. (for your sake, I hope she older than 18, you don't need a parent's permission then)
5. NOT RECOMMENDED, but if this happened recently, she might beable to take pills that may induce abortion unknowingly....ask around...
Good Luck playa, do what i am going to start doing, wear protection and duct tape that shit so that shit don't ever slide off....

white3.0

damn your 21 and your having a kid, if she doesnt get an abortion

to the rest your fun life

1killercls

deal with it. It is a safe and LEGAL option...

jimcol711

http://phyld.ucr.edu/Mechanics%202/M-10K.jpg

mclarenf3387

Thats so wrong, yet so funny.

rezurex

thanks for all your advice guys... well i had a LONG ass talk with her last night... we made up and everything so everything is much calmer now. she still didnt tell her parents about it.. neither did i. if she does tell her parents about it, she's pretty damn sure she can't have an abortion and we would probably have to get married (strict catholic parents... ). the other route would be to have an abortion... which i found out costs a good amount of $$. she's still not committed to the idea of an abortion but she's warming up to it... she kept asking me if push came to shove would i be able to marry her. i gave her a non-commital answer, but the talk of marriage is making me really uneasy and makes me want to just run away from this whole situation. how can i at 21 have a kid and wife?!

anyone know how much an abortion is in NY? there goes my plans for a SC this fall...

thanks for your advice guys.

-rez

jimcol711

400-500 bucks for an abortion at planned parenthood. mommy and daddy never even have to know it ever happend

SilviaGTO

i know this raises the whole pro-abortion/ pro-life issue, and this is just my OPINION

but you guys made a kid, you stated that there were several times where you pulled out.

I really think both of you should own up to your responsibility. She WILL regret it later in life that she killed her child, I have yet to meet one woman who had an abortion that didnt regret it later. I really think it is irresponsible and immature to just run away from what you did by killing the child. And you need to make sure it is truly yours before you pressure her into killing the fetus.

Bottom line is BOTH of you made a child, a living creature (or soon to be for those that are all technical, whatever) and because you cant "deal" with it, the kid is gonna die. I personally know people who have had kids and sucessfully finished college and lived happily with a child.

Now tell her that youre not ready for marriage, and thats it. you can still be a supportive father (if you choose to go that route) without marrying her. She's still worrying about her parents. Her parents are her problem and theyre going to have to deal with her being pregnant. you shouldnt have to marry her to keep her parents from getting mad.

TLD

Did you or did you not bang her raw and pull out occasionally?

synth19

damn.. I am willing to donate for an abortion. You guys are WAY tooo young.

SilviaGTO

what about giving it up for adoption?

GeishaGirl

Thanks for clearing that up Do you know if there is a limit to how many months you can be when they do the abortion? I have a friend in a BAD situation, possible drug baby etc, and she is saying that she can't find a doctor that will do it because she is kind of far along. I am not trying to push her into getting one or anything, its her life, but just for informational purposes.

SilviaGTO

normally its illegal after the first trimester.

rezurex

silviagto i definitely understand what you mean... if in the end the baby gets born i won't run, i will own up to the responsibility of my actions.. i already told her whatever happens i wont leave her just because of this situation.. its not like she got pregnant by herself, or that she wanted this to happen or anything. i would rather not have the child... but we'll have to see how things play out. in the end the decision is really hers. after all its her body, i can't and won't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do.

a question i have for you guys is, how can i tactfully ask her to check if the baby is really mine? i dont want to offend her in any way... but i think that should be a first step before i go out and start dropping money for an abortion.. its been a little difficult to bring up the subject when we talk, i dont want her to get upset again... her mood has been a real rollercoaster lately, with good reason...

thanks for all your advice.

synth19

^ if you end up keeping the baby, tell her your parents are insisting that their is a DND test...

TLD

Rez, did you use a condom 100% of the time you had sex with her or not? Answer my question and we'll take it from there.

rezurex

sorry batin i meant to address your question but i forgot to.. the answet is i did use a condom but sometimes i would take it off and shoot it...

TLD

Then you did not use the condom properly. You should always bust your load in the condom, not on her body. You just increased you chances of being the daddy according to your actions, but I'd still make sure you were the only sex partner she had. One sure fire way of finding out is to hire a private investigator, he can find out anything for you, past or present.

kumar6

shyt, thats messed up....

my mom threatened me with death if a girl ever came over to her home and said she was carrying my baby..

those small Indian moms can kick ass...

anyway, i am 36 and i have never had a scare like you are having... i would make sure the kid is your by whatever means it takes... chances are its your, and then you guys gotta decide what to do...

it does surprise me that abortion is such a free and open option though...i have known a few women that have had abortions and to this day they are mentally screwed up over it...

i know keeping the kid isnt an option for you guys either, but i would think long and hard before doing anything drastic... i understand that where dollars and cents are concerned that $400 for an abortion is cheaper than a lifetime of payments and stress, but do you know for sure that after the abortion that you and the girl will be guilt free??

i mean it is a life after all... i am pro choice, so do what you gotta do... but this should be a huge wakeup call for those that take sex too casually...it can f*ck your life up literally...

i will pray for you and the girl and hope that you guys make the best choice for yourselves...

peace and good luck...

Kumar

Loseit

iTrader: (1)

condoms are not 100%
they DO fail!!

rezurex

sigh... if anything this is a wake up call to the young'ns out there on a-cl... ALWAYS USE BC AND RUBBERS.. seriously.. this shit can happen to you... you seriously dont want to be in this situation.. i've been stressing the fuck out these days can't fucken sleep..

TLD

Condoms are 95% effective when used properly. Your chances of being the daddy are pretty slim. Did she rub your load on herself or something?

DarkSithGirl

I am relaying a message from dark..he said when he gets back in town and settled, he was to talk with you about your situation and med school....

dallison

or a hot tub for a couple of hours

Tunaboy

I don't think I will ever bareback it again. Last time I barely got out before I busted, and I also think and am pretty sure I'm a dripper. Hopefully I won't have any scares in a few weeks with a kid on the way. As to peeps reading this thread who don't want to be put in a situation like rezurex.... Sex Can Wait Masturebait.

Tunaboy

Oh god that's terrible. Honey there's a baby in the toilet.

2003type-s6

You hit it right on Sylvia. Sorry to hear, but you should have made sure your GF was using BC too. Abortion can cause permanent damage to the woman, along with mental anguish and guilt years down the road. Good luck.

SilviaGTO

i cant help you with asking her for the dna test though. cause in all honesy, if it were me, and i hadnt been sleeping with anyone else, and my boyfriend asked me that when iw as carrying his child, I would be SUPER pissed.
dont know what to tell you

rezurex

silvia thats exactly what im afriad of... i dont want to accuse her of anything shes been nothing but very straight with me.. not sure how i will handle that one..

SpeedyV6

I believe that the laws you are referrring to merely require that the parents be informed. There is no law which requires parental consent.

ironchef10

I'm not going to get into the whole pro-choice/pro-life issue. I will say that I was in a similar situation about 20 years ago. We decided to abort. We continued dating for another year or so and broke up for other reasons (she made a career choice and moved). We are still friends and in contact to this day. We both have families and I can tell you that the subject has come up on a few occasions and there is not a thread of regret or guilt whatsoever on either side. We were too young. Period.

As far as anyone advising you to keep the child, I'd suggest you demand that they open a bank account and begin depositing money immediately so that they can help finance its' care and feeding. Take it from one who knows...it isn't cheap. It's very easy to give advice like this when one isn't writing the checks. And relying on your local clergy for help after delivery will be like looking for a floor worker at Home Depot on a Saturday. Be rest assured that despite having millions of dollars to send to anti-abortion lobbyists, houses of worship have no intention of subsidizing your little mis-adventure either.

IF (and that's a big "if") you're planning on marrying, keeping the child may be a viable consideration. But whther anyone likes it or not (and at the risk of some folks disliking me on this board), I will tell you that abortion and adoption are very legal and very legitimate options in this country. If you are not willing to get married and make this a team effort (that means sharing the joys AND the heartaches, as well as the expense), I suggest you consider them both.

Please think it through carefully...and good luck.

jimcol711

it really depends on the woman, whether or not she can live with (or not regret) having an abortion, i know a couple girls...well, women actually, who have each had an abortion and it is absolutely no issue with them at all, no regrets, nothing but happiness that they made the right choice for them at the time. some women are just capable of realizing that it was the best thing to do and have no problem living with that. others may sit around and dwell on it forever and regret it.

ciloh@euqroT

its just intresting to me that abortion was mentioned on this thread, long before adoption was. Also the ratio of abortion suggestions to adoption ones tell a sad tale of society today. murdering bastards!!

Slimey

Abort! Abort! Abort!

http://www.abortion.com/abortion_cli...ate=New%20York
http://www.plannedparenthood.com/

Good luck. From your posts it does not sound like either one of you are ready for parenthood. Next time consider a better method of birth control.

darrinb

damn rez, i cant imagine being in your sitation at this age

ay, pm me if a need any help coming up with some $$

DarkSithGirl

in texas there are 2 clinics that will do it up to 24 weeks.

ericrox

sorry about your situation. IMO the bottom line is there are other options besides keeping it and aborting it. just make sure you research all your options. you'll know what's best in the end.

Slimey

In the end, you have no options. It's her choice whether or not you become a father, and whether you have financial responsibility or not. You are SOL when it comes to the bottom-line decision.