As the title states. The girlfriend and I are coming up on our 5 yr. anniversary. What do I do? Does anyone have any ideas? I've pretty much done all the jewelry (bracelets, rings, necklaces, etc.) and nice restaurants, limos, etc. She's hinted that she wants a nice diamond ring, although she knows there's no proposal coming. But I'd rather be creative. Anyone have any suggestions?

 

For our 5 yr anni. i got her diamond earrings, flowers(of course), and took her to the Top of the Hub(fancy restaurant on the top of the prudential building in Boston). It worked out well!

 

Budget?

 

If you've exhausted all of the usual ideas....

Hire a really cool photographer (I prefer candid/casual vs. posed, but that's a personal choice) and do a 30 min or 1 hour photo shoot together. I bet she'll love the experience, and especially ending up with a beautiful, professional portrait of the two of you together.

 

Hmm...I need ideas for this too. Mine is coming up on Friday!

 

I'm feeling queezy

 

if you're not going to pop la pregunta, then I would probably go with the regular dinner/flowers stuff, then do the photo shoot to throw in a little 'different'. that's definitely a good idea.

 

why wont you propose? is she not the right one? whats the deal?
i am asking this because i have been waiting almost 7 years for my man to pop the question

 

a 40 ozer.

 

I appreciate the replies. To answer the above questions...

- I'm not ready to propose. I'm only 22, and have been dating her from high school, through college, and now I'm getting 2 masters ( MBA / MIS ). After that I'm going to attend law school (or at least that's the plan). So I have about another 5 years of school left. I think that might be the time. Or is that too long? Dating for 10yrs.

- I like the photo shoot idea. So much so that I've already done it. Last Christmas, I got her a bunch of gifts, which all led up to the big on. A bunch of beauty stuff, tanning stuff, gift certificate for $250 for hair / nails, and a $400 professional photographer package. She could beautify, then we could get some pictures taken. Needless to say because of my above busy schedule (add full time job and college hockey into that), we haven't had time to go. Maybe now that the trees are changing colors, we could go.

- I've done the limo, to the Signature Room at the top of the Hancock here in Chicago.

- Jewelry all done up.

My cousin lives in Florida and can hook me up with a $600 a night suite for $200, plus free rental car from his dealership. So I'm thinking 2 day vacation, nice and quick, down to Clearwater. We can make use of the suite, plus his jet ski. He lives right on the water, and the suite goes up to the water too, so he said he'd hitch it to our rental and we can drop it there, or any of the other good spots he knows about.

- I'm trying to stay below $1,000. She definitely deserves something great for our 5 yr. She is the best g/f ever. Cooks, cleans, motivated, ambitous, sexy, non-complacent (most of the time). And with my busy schedule, people wonder why she stays around. I have no time really. We see each other at night, from 10 pm to 6 am basically. She doesn't party or go out, or any of that. When we go to the track (motorcycle), by the time we're done with our last session, our gear is usually loaded up already. She works hard while my buddies g/f sits in the car and waits. (just an example of why she deserves something really nice).

 

sounds like time might be the best thing to get her - just find a place where you two can go and be as alone as possible. you'll have the time to relax & she'll have the time to enjoy being around you. time is a pretty valuable thing, IMO, & makes a great gift.

 

I completely agree. Great comment.

 

Polish Pete...whereabouts you be?

 

Chicago

 

Resort spas FTW...nothing but relaxing & spending time together. Find one nearby so that you don't waste much of your time getting there, and a couple nights there shouldn't run you up to your budget. Women love spas, your woman loves you, this way she could have both.

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www.pheasantrun.com

 

Since you were 15??

 

Thanks for the ideas and links.

 

An engagement ring, you're been dating for 5 years if you have no plans to marry her then turn her lose.

 

He's never going to, he's getting all of the benefits without a commitment. It's to good for him to pass up but he keeps on putting that thought of marriage in your head so you can think its a possibility. Time to move on, find some one who is willing to fully commit to you and only you by way of marriage.

 

sounds like that happened to you w/a bad guy^. No sense in hijacking the thread to insult the guy, though - he's stated his plans & he was just here to ask for advice.

 

The OP seems like a decent enough dude and has stated his intent to marry her after he is done with school and a little older, both good ideas IMO (Hopefully she thinks the same, knows he does plan to marry her someday and most of all believes him, loves him and is willing to wait).

To the OP, Revs idea of spending time is definitely a good one. If you two love the outdoors maybe a cabin trip (by the way traditional gifts for the 5th year is wood, no pun intended ). Otherwise the spa works just the same.

 

A trip sounds like a good option to me.

 

IMO, dating for 5 years from a very young age vs. dating for 5 years once you're a little more established with who you are as a person is VERY different. A relationship that takes place when someone is 17-22 years old is not the same as a 5 year relationship of 25-30 year olds.

I don't see any pressure in the OP needing to propose. The majority of their relationship has taken place at times in their lives when they're changing dramatically as people and just starting to find where they belong in this world.

 

That's a broad statement. Why should he have to now or even asap? He's 22 years old. There's plenty of time for him yet to worry about marriage.

 

I was just reading something that said once you're past the age of 25 your chances of getting divorced drop by 24 percent. Although...statistics can't prove anything - 14 percent of people know that

 

Thanks for the replies guys. Very good points from the majority, and it sounds like someones had a bad experience. Can't compare one relationship to all.

 

www.starregistry.com

Name a star after her. Then take her to the observatory and look at her star. :-) I know, kinda nerdy and whatnot...but it got me some :-D haha nah jk but yeah my gf loved it.

 

Thanks...that's a good idea. I did buy my sister an acre of land on the moon for Christmas a few years back. I hope the g/f doesn't see this as too similar. A good idea non-the less.

 

Pete, in this day and time, a good women is very hard to find. It sounds like you've got a winner...Buy her a nice diamond engagement ring and get down on your knees and propose to her......You don't have to get married right away but you really don't want this one to get away do you ? Sounds like it's time to take it to the next level. I promise she will love you for it !

 

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and why no proposal? why can't you get her a promise ring or something?

 

sorry i didn't read the earlier posts

 

That's what I was thinking too, lol.

 

^^^^its a scam. I looked in to it several times. you might as well just print out a certificate and name any star you wish.

 

get her pregnant

 

has the 5yr anniversary passed up now?

if not, +1 for the time idea.