i know what everyone is going to say already...but I've got to share anyway.

last month I was hanging out w/ this lady for quite a bit. She had just graduated from college and was in the city for a couple months for the summer. At first it was an informal relationship... just hooking up and nothing more to it.

But then towards the end...emotions and what not got involved and we started to get really close. Of course that shit had to happen the week before she left the United States of America to go back to f-ing Hong Kong.

At first we agreed that it wouldn't work....but after a few weeks of her being over there, we realized that things were still going on between us. I'm fine w/ this...and i KNOW what everyone of you is going to say "long distance relationships don't work...blah...blah...blah".

So anyway...we have our mushy long distance phone calls and instant messages every day (no details)...and I really do miss the lady.

She's always telling me that boys in HK are hitting on her everyday, but she ignores it...and that she still has feelings for me. Then she was telling me this one dude has been super nice to her, but she doesn't have feelings for him, etc, etc. But allows him to hold her hands when they are around his friends so that he doesn't look like a tool.

So i was like...maybe you shouldn't let him hold your hand...i mean...what if he tries to kiss you. And she tells me that he already did.

I about f-ing threw my keyboard across the room

So I called her up....she promises that it will never happen again, and that she realized afterwards that she felt like she was cheating on me....and still had feelings for me, and wanted to be honest with me, etc, etc. so we left it at that.

This all just happened in the last hour...and I was so furious I had to drink a few brewski's....but I also had to get it off my chest....so I figured this is a good place if any.

if you are going to comment...please don't say "long distance relationships don't work"....cause I don't want to hear it.

 

first post here-- been single for a long time

1st you dont want to hear the b.s. about the long distance thing, but why would she tell you this about this guy trying to hook up with her when she is half way around the world. I know that talking to her is cool but when you cant take a drive and see her after this happend is very hard for both sides. try to take it one day at a time, and you tell you really dont need to hear about the bullshit because all it does is bring you down. hard spot your in man and just take it easy

 

Solid trust has to be built before u can even think about a long-distance relationship. Meaning when 2 people luv each other and they are away for long period of times, there are too many 'distractions' which can lure one, or both of the them into cheating.

And i dont think u guys have even officially made a creedance of the luv u may have for each other. Thats the very first and easiest step... then comes the hard part of actually following through.

 

wow... ur first non-sarcastic post, lol

um... what he said.

is this chick ever comin back to the US? how long she stayin there? i do believe in long distance relationships, like across the country or the next state over. how would u be able to make this work and how long are u willing to be physically w/o her?

 

I got your back....shit will work out otherwise u'll have to go beat some hong kong ass...

 

Aw cmon, thats hardly true.

Ur giving me a bad name here

 

If i were u I wouldn't get to worked up over this other dude she just said that to see where you guys stand. U past her first test.

 

I'm not gonna say the long distance thing won't work, but it sho ain't easy. I dealt with it in college, and it was hard. Not something I would recommend, but I think I'm better for it. Of course, we ended up getting married...and divorced. Maybe, the distance was the key. Nobody can truly know what's gonna happen for y'all, so you have to decide if it's something you wanna work at. Not much help, I know.

Good luck, man!!

 

I can't speak for you or anyone else, but I can speak for myself... The LDR did not work for me.. A chick I've been dating for a year cheated on me a month after I went to college.. her excuse was since I was the one that is in college, (one year older) she figure she would do it before I do it to her... Eventhough at no point I showed any signs of cheating.

I found this out when I tried to surpise her one weekend and caught her with another guy... So I slept with her sister, and called it even... Never spoke with her again... still talk to her sister though...

 

Dam, that is PURE PIMPSHIT. Keep it up.

 

it is definetly hard...but if you find someone you think will complete your life...you have to at least try to make it work, fight for her, otherwise "what might have been" will haunt you for the rest of your life.

People are placed in your life randomly. Some make it better, some make it worse...and if you're lucky you stumble over the one person that makes it worthwhile and wonder how you ever lived without them in your life, how were you so lucky to find someone that just completes everything you ever dreamed you could want or find in another person.

I dont know if you are at that point with this girl...but if you are willing to have an ocean between you and still want to be with her...i say go for it, how can you not? If it doesnt work...then at least you will know it wasnt meant to be. It will hurt but you will get through it. I wish you the best of luck!!!

 

long distance.........































phone calls are expensive

 

fuckin double post

 

thats why they talk on IM

 

beat that FoBs aSSSS

 

Generally speaking, there is a sure fire way to tell if a woman is lying to you. If her lips are moving...

 

Words to live by IMO

 

 

Fuck that....don't break your keyboard for anyone! Yo, when you get a chance to come back to Seattle/Bellevue, call me up and we can go to Yea's Wok..I see there is a fine ass cutie HK girl there..she has niiice brown hair...fuck, I don't mind gettin' to know that piece of work!

Dude, I think you should just leave the girl...there are plenty of other chicks in the world...if shit don't work out when you tried to work it out with some effort, then it's just the way it is...

Move on if you need to...don't tread around if you make up your mind...

YEA'S WOK GIRLS MANG!

 

Go to phonecard4sale.com
u find a lots of cheap phone card to call to HK for like 2 cent per minute.

 

they work.....it'll be hard....

 

long distance? pssht thats fucking international calls there.

how long do you two plan on being apart?