I have been in somewhat of a mood lately. For some odd reason, I keep thinking of my ex gf and it is driving me nuts. I know I shouldn't be thinking about her and I know that I should leave it well enough alone, but WHY cant I? We have been apart for 4 months or so, and until this past week, I haven't really given it much thought...

I broke up with her, she was a great person, but that "spark" just wasn't there anymore. I want this feeling to go away... I keep myself crazy busy, but I still find my self dwelling on it this week... someone give me a swift kick in the ass please...

 

Everyone does this. I usually get really drunk if it happens.

 

i still think about my x from 2 years ago and it drives me crazy.

 

I was going to say to get drunk also, but since I haven't dated in 14 years, I really don't know.

 

Breaking up is hard to do... been there, done that. You would assume that because you broke it off, it will be easier on you but it's not always the case. Just keep yourself busy like you've been doing and eventually it will pass.

I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years in January. Just like in your relationship, the "spark" wasn't there anymore so I decided it will be better if we just call it quits. Amazingly, 2 weeks later I met someone else whom I've been seeing since. But... this time around, he told me that the "spark" is not there. I'm disappointed because everything's been great during those 4 months. And I hurting more now than I did after the first guy.

Love is unfair. I wish I could get away and try to forget about everything.

 

If I was to get drunk everytime it happend, I would have been an alcoholic by now.

 

 

Ditto

 

GFTOW

Go fuck ten other women.

 

I know some people that owe me money that "claim" they have no idea what Im talking about.

 

I know people say "keep yourself busy and it will fade away," but for me, that's like a medical insurance answer: if you get sick see your doctor take some meds (keeping busy) and your sickness (thinking about her, dwelling on her, on what happened, etc) will eventually go away (time heals all wounds; cliche). Sure, it'll happen. But what about next time (follow your insurance plan so you're a repeat customer)? The reason your "mind" is bringing this back up, and you're having issue with it, is because you didn't learn something. Something upstairs still isn't resolved.

To me it sounds like you might be questioning whether your decision to break up with her over the spark was the right choice. You're 24. Life is getting serious.

If you want a swift kick in the ass: Learn how to be happy on your own. Once you are content with yourself, then you can better focus on why someone else might be good/bad for you.

Above all, be honest with yourself. And talk with your friends.

 

What goes around comes around!

 

Probably some set of feelings about her and the relationship that you shared that are still unresolved - feelings of sadness or anger, maybe.

 

With the first guy, not only the "spark" wasn't there, but there were other, more complicated issues involved. The break up was rather mutual and it wasn't only my decision. After 3 years being together and living together, believe me, I better have a good excuse to break it off than telling someone that there is no "spark".

 

I just finally severed all ties with my ex last week, right before my graduation. Yeah, it sucked, and yes I was sad for a bit. But now that I know I have so many other things going for me (ie new job on the horizon, my masters, a trip to hawaii and of course my TSX), I have plenty to keep me going.

The key is to realize life can go on without that special someone. Yeah, of course it would be even better if I had somebody there with me, but I'm lucky to have friends that I can fall back on to help keep me sane. I think people put too much on having to be in a relationship. Of course that's just coming from a girl who's been single most of her life