ok as most of you guys know who cruise this section i've been with my girl now for about six months. could'nt be happier. Heres the deal. Long story short on xmas day we had a little fun....long story short there may have been an accident.....So she takes the morning after pill monday right at the 72 hr mark. Since then has been acting quite different than normal. Monday/tuesday she was fine, loving, caring, etc......yesterday and today about 24-36hrs after the pill....shes just very distant.. Not the same. complete 180. Anyone here ever delt with somthing like this?!?!?! Is this a side effect of the pill...or am i fucked?

 

Ummm...maybe she's a little stressed and distracted by the possibilities?

 

From what I understand that pill will put her through some major pain and "activity" if you know what I mean.

Be there for her, she may be hiding it from you.

 

Did she do one of those at home pregnancy tests? Might be positive?

And I hate to bring this up, but are you divorced? Or just separated. If you're not divorced yet, you may in fact be very fucked.

 

Well, the pill's purpose is to mess with your hormones, so if anything, she would've probably felt nauseated, maybe headachey, and generally unwell...but prob only for the day or two after taking the pill.

Not to concern you -- and I am not positive myself, but depending on the pill, isn't it supposed to be taken within 48 hours? Or can you take it as late as 72 hours later? I guess a call to the pharmacist would give you more accurate info.

 

no i'm there all the way. Yeah she told me today that there is " somthing" going on down there. She has a kid already so she would know what it feels like. Its just like, wow, complete 180 dude. It makes me think i did somthing wrong but i jsut gotta keep a cool head. I was'nt worried until today. She keeps saying i'm just trying to relax, etc...so idk..time will tell. She said shes taking a test tuesday.

 

i wouldn't stress, just be there for her. this has to be very stressful for her.

 

I am not divorced yet. Jan 20th will be that day. Well they said online 24-72 hrs. She said the earliest you can take a at home test is like 10days after, so tuesday shes going to take it......" fingers crossed"

 

I hope things continue well for you both.

 

she says nothings wrong. Ive asked her like 10 times over the past 2 days and thats annoying. So i'm just going to chill and hang out tonite. You know what tho.....were hanging out for new years...i will be able to tell alot from tonite, cuz were going out and everything, wonder if she drinks?!?!?!? cuz shes been here before, she has a kid and is a top notch mother. Hmmm i gotta look out for this.

 

hate to say it, but after my ex-cunt-of-a-wife i stress alot about little stupid things. I just gotta be there for her. She whos gonna be thre for me lol?!?!

 

+1

I'm sure she's thinking about a number of things.




Terry

 

The more you talk about it the more both of you are going to stress. Either leave her alone or find some activity to do besides talking about pills babies and periods.

In future can't she go on the pill or can't you bag it?

 

my lady has taken the morning after pill before and even though it says up to 3 days the doctor told her its really up to 4-5 days you can still use it so your girl should be OK.

 

If she's still behaving oddly, I have to ask what your reaction was to the possibility of her getting pregnant? It would quite possibly hurt her feelings if you freaked out - even if she was freaking out, herself.

 

I agree with wndrlst and street spirit. The physical AND emotional effects of this kind of thing can be horrible.

Stop pestering her. Now. Asking her again and again will help nothing. Let time pass, and while it does, try to be uplifting and supportive.

 

Just back off and relax, like others said the pill will really mess with a girl for a day or 2 at least

 

I'd have to agree with the above and only wonder what your initial reaction was.

 

I mean really...think about it. She essentially just gave herself an abortion by taking the morning after pill. While I agree abortion should be safe and legal, it would sure make me a little wierd if I had to take that pill!

 

... just chill... sounds like both of you are a ball of nerves rite now... I know its really easy for us here at AZ to say relax, so if you cannot, just watch what you say and be as helpful as possible... its all good.

 

I get all worked up about stuff really easy like you. Without a doubt I would be worried about the situation, but I wouldn't want to stress your girl out anymore than she probably is.

She knows you are there for her, and vice versa, no matter if yall show it 24/7 or not. I would take her to dinner and a movie and get back to normalcy if at all possible.

 

Well we went out new years and spent the whole weekend together and had a good time. She seems fine now. IDK what the deal was, but everything seems to be peachy now. I backed off and just was my self and we had a great time. We talked about it on new years day in the car for a bit and she just kind of said that it was a little weird taking that pill. Even though its supposed to be before conception (24-72hrs), but as some of you know she already has a kid and she said that when she got prego the first time, she had really thought about abortion, and that she decided not too and still feels guilty now bc her little man is her life now. So i think maybe that she was feeling bad for taking the pill. We DEF talked about BC again. She took it for almost the whole time we've been together and it really FUCKS her up. She had a slight heart cond. MVP, and some of the side effects used to make it worse so we talked and she went off it. I guess its back to rubbers.....

 

I'm glad to hear that everything is back to normal man. I'm sure taking that pill really fucked her up mentally. She probably started worrying about what would change in her life and what she might have to give up to care for the child.

It's good that yall talked through it and I hope things get better from here on out

 

Glad to hear its working out. If BC pills are not good for her then she really doesn't want to make a habit of taking the morning after pill. It's a mega shot of the same stuff that's in a BC pill.

 

Glad to hear that it all worked out well. And that you and her can communicate effectively when it comes to heavy topics like this. That's really important.

You know..... there are all sorts of ways to help make sure you don't slip one by the goalie. Has she considered and IUD?

Maybe see you around town too. I'm in Sterling. Red TL or Honda Pilot with Grateful Dead stickers.

 

Hmm. I myself had a similar scare a while back. It really isn't very pleasant!