@ gatrhumpy: Wow... I woulda have jumped all over that.....er..... rather let her jump all over this lol...... Cougars are fun.

 

Lol this thread is funny very entertaining

 

 

Run far, far away.

 

This is what you do before some psycho bitch that reads your text messages cut your balls off.

 

lmao@ the clap haahahahaha

 

lmbso

 

stay away from this girl!! she's crazy

 

Lol she could be stalking you on here too watching your every move

 

I'll assume for the moment you are in relationships to "find someone" and ultimately get married. If you just want a physical relationship, ignore the rest.

Trust is one of the absolute building blocks of any relationship. If you have no trust, you have no relationship. Period. Because being with someone for a lifetime means that you know the worst thing about each other, and you both stay anyway. No secrets. That has no chance of happening if you can't trust the other person. Vunerability is also an essential element, and you can't have that either without trust.

If I were 20 again with what I know now, I would bail on a girl the minute I thought there were unrecoverable trust issues. That's not something that is easily fixed. The only way you can heal something like that is if she trusts you, and your relationship becomes the means by which she learns to trust again. But since she did what she did to you, that isn't the case. Don't let yourself be fooled into thinking this is OK, a one time deal, or you can fix it. It's not, it isn't, and you can't.

The advice I often give on this forum is this: evaluate who you are with by what you see. Look at her actions, not her words. How does she really treat you - not how you wish she treated you or that perfect image of her you carry around in your head. See her for who she is based on what she's done.

My - unless you just want to use her for a superficial and physical relationship, move on.

 

I'll also add, since you alluded to it, that if you are serious about the relationship you are in, you cannot maintain inappropriate relationships with other women. Now I happen to be friends with just about every ex girlfriend I've ever had, even today. But I don't call them, I don't text them, I don't see them unless my wife is with me, and I don't cultivate the kind of relationship that would in any way compete with my wife. Something to think about. If you want women to trust you, you have to earn it. And they need to earn it from you just the same. But creating the apearance of mistrust can be as bad as the real thing. Just something to consider.

 

Maybe you did something that made her suspicious about it?? Sometimes you should put yourself in her shoe and see how you feel. Would you like it if she was texting with her ex? Women just need security, show her some affection and appreciation and you're all good.

You guys need to be talk about your relationship, what you expect what each others and what are the boundaries. If you cant settle that then theres no reason to keep hanging on.

 

^almost a year ago......

 

holy shit noob.. thanks for the thread bump.

 

Even though this thread was/is dead, she along with her "buddies" in law enforcement violated your fourth amendment rights. Make sure they don't do it again.

 

Even though it's pointless, I figured I should say this anyways:

If she gets suspicious about you when she has absolutely no reason to, then that's a good indicator to leave and never turn back. Just because someone calls you, doesn't necessarily mean it's a call from a girl who's trying to get you to drill her.

I still remember I had an ex that believed I was cheating on her when I said "I'm gonna go out and get some lunch" and I actually had the nerve to sit and eat the sandwich at the sandwich shop, instead of immediately heading back to her after I bought it.

 

I want an update..you still with this girl??

And how did she get text messages ??

 

they're probably married by now

 

use her for sex then dump her lol..

 

No, I let it go. Thank goodness.