Shorty is pregnant.
01-28-2009, 04:22 PM
#121
Great. Now he's loose.
Good luck, my young friend. It does no good for people to be harping on what you "should have" done. It only matters what you do now. Take a little, and I do mean little, time. Talk.... gently...., and be there for her no matter what.
01-28-2009, 07:08 PM
#123
an asshole from florida
Yea, well.
I just have really strong feelings on this topic.
He says he would've wished to have it aborted, but he was "so happy" when it died. I probably would've been flippin out (in a bad way) if I had initially gotten a gf pregnant, but to be honest, I think I would be devastated if my child died. I don't care about the "well it's not even born" shit. The second that child is conceived, I would put in the position of being a father, and despite any unwelcoming circumstances with the situation, that is my child. To say you're "so happy" that your child just died really irks me.
I just have really strong feelings on this topic.
He says he would've wished to have it aborted, but he was "so happy" when it died. I probably would've been flippin out (in a bad way) if I had initially gotten a gf pregnant, but to be honest, I think I would be devastated if my child died. I don't care about the "well it's not even born" shit. The second that child is conceived, I would put in the position of being a father, and despite any unwelcoming circumstances with the situation, that is my child. To say you're "so happy" that your child just died really irks me.
01-28-2009, 07:20 PM
#124
Suzuka Master
Best of luck with whichever decision you choose OP.
01-28-2009, 08:47 PM
#125
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Ok update
We talked about it for about 2 hours and we decided.........................
we cannot keep this baby. She doesnt want to do adoption, because she feels if it is born she will keep it. Termination is the soulition
Don't flame now. It is a very hard decision. Especially taking another one's life.
We talked about it for about 2 hours and we decided.........................
we cannot keep this baby. She doesnt want to do adoption, because she feels if it is born she will keep it. Termination is the soulition
Don't flame now. It is a very hard decision. Especially taking another one's life.
01-28-2009, 09:05 PM
#126
Creepy guy in the mirror.
I guess you made your choice... But you have another choice to make now...
Keep in in your f'ing pants!!!
Not flaming you for your choice... Flaming you for getting in the predicament in the first place.
Keep in in your f'ing pants!!!
Not flaming you for your choice... Flaming you for getting in the predicament in the first place.
01-28-2009, 09:25 PM
#127
Great. Now he's loose.
Sorry you're going through this kiddo. It fuckin sucks. I remember 19. I'll never forget. Hold each other tight. Cry if you need to. Know you're doing what you feel is best for you and for her. Then try to never change your mind about that decision.
01-28-2009, 09:56 PM
#128
Burning Brakes
i am only 21 so can't claim to have much in the way of life experience, but i think you and your gf made the right decision. there are a lot of people who want to adopt but there are a lot of foster parents who don't do such a good job. and for you and your gf to try and raise the kid would screw up the lives of 3 people.
..like she can't believe it. ...
01-28-2009, 10:54 PM
#132
Dude, both of you really made the best decision. Not only for yourselves, but also for the baby. Honestly, what kind of life would that baby have? Now I'm not saying your a deadbeat at all, but it would be a very hectic and stressful upbringing.
Also, you are 19, and she is 18(i think you said). I know people that had kids at 18. They had to drop out of school to get a job to support the child. Their life was ruined, forget about your car, and going out and spending money.
Anyway, you'll be good, few weeks everything will go back to normal. That was quite a scare you went through.
Also, you are 19, and she is 18(i think you said). I know people that had kids at 18. They had to drop out of school to get a job to support the child. Their life was ruined, forget about your car, and going out and spending money.
Anyway, you'll be good, few weeks everything will go back to normal. That was quite a scare you went through.
01-28-2009, 10:57 PM
#133
01-28-2009, 11:39 PM
#140
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01-28-2009, 11:50 PM
#141
~Da Nocturnal Cheetah~
That's the smart thing to do...and don't go back and change it...be smart the next time ya ugly mofo...hahaha, just fucking witcha...live and learn playboy...and please stop that I ain't fucking no more shit...you know you lying...just get one on before you get in and tell "shorty" to stop fakin' and protect her neck too...
01-29-2009, 12:26 AM
#142
e92 335i
bro this girl looks nothin like the girl u "made love" to infront of ure TL and took a photo of infront of the RL, if i rmr correctly it seems to me like all 3 girls look way different from another lol
01-29-2009, 12:39 AM
#145
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I have been there before and the decision isnt easy. Granted I was 21 but the mother was 18. We decided to keep the baby and its the best decision in my life. It was hard but we pulled through and we are better people for it. I was poor as shit and finishing my last two years with an Accounting degree (It was hard). We both make bank now and have a house and cars and a perfect little daughter who is now 4. Im not telling you either way but I am pretty sure if we chose the other route that we would of both regreted it. Just my experience. If you choose to keep it, grow up and get your shit straight. I did and I am way ahead of all my other freinds. Did I miss alot of partying? Yes, but now she's older and I still go out and have fun. Good luck in your decision it going to change your life either way
Well anyways OP, I'm glad you guys have made a decision and hope that all will work out fine for the two of you. Just remember how hard this has to be for her and if you have to tell her to do everything, make sure you're still there holding her hand through something like this.
01-29-2009, 12:50 AM
#146
Senior Moderator
Some good advice given in this thread (aside from the smart@$$es)...But, most important is that you and her need some time to think this through...
And good luck.
And good luck.
01-29-2009, 01:13 AM
#147
And you're 27? How's that work out?
Well anyways OP, I'm glad you guys have made a decision and hope that all will work out fine for the two of you. Just remember how hard this has to be for her and if you have to tell her to do everything, make sure you're still there holding her hand through something like this.
Well anyways OP, I'm glad you guys have made a decision and hope that all will work out fine for the two of you. Just remember how hard this has to be for her and if you have to tell her to do everything, make sure you're still there holding her hand through something like this.
we dont come here to calculate quadriatic equations my dear. clearly hes had a rough day. 
to the
01-29-2009, 01:57 AM
#150
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2 differrent girls bro
yeah...............kind of a longgg storyy......
Basically that girl was like my highschool sweet heart and a I had a thing for her. But that was replaced slowly.
Kinda like a triange :gheyhug:
yeah...............kind of a longgg storyy......
Basically that girl was like my highschool sweet heart and a I had a thing for her. But that was replaced slowly.
Kinda like a triange :gheyhug:
01-29-2009, 06:59 AM
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I was 21 and she was 18 when she got pregnant. And my daughter is almost 5 now. I think it could work but you gotta want it to work. I dont agree with your decision but thats not because i dont believe in abortion. I dont agree because we almost went that route ( I actually sent her money for the abortion) But we changed our mind and seeing my daughter grow up is the best thing life has offered me. I couldnt imagine if i termiminated her life. I have been there and i can tell you i am better off. I finish college on time and got a job after school. We worked really hard and both make pretty good money. Kids are the greatest things life offers, I hope this helps you make the right choice.
01-29-2009, 07:46 AM
#152
an asshole from florida
was it that hard to figure out that he had the kid at 22, kid is exactly four years old. so he has his bday before she turns five... i mean i figured that out within a second or two...
01-29-2009, 08:06 AM
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Ok update
We talked about it for about 2 hours and we decided.........................
we cannot keep this baby. She doesnt want to do adoption, because she feels if it is born she will keep it. Termination is the soulition
Don't flame now. It is a very hard decision. Especially taking another one's life.
We talked about it for about 2 hours and we decided.........................
we cannot keep this baby. She doesnt want to do adoption, because she feels if it is born she will keep it. Termination is the soulition
Don't flame now. It is a very hard decision. Especially taking another one's life.
That said, I hope that from now on you are more careful. Because if you post another thread like this and there wasn't any BC involved, I would think a couple of us may have to bitch slap you.
call me heartless..
01-29-2009, 08:08 AM
#156
Go Giants
01-29-2009, 08:36 AM
#157
Don't regret the decision.....
Sometimes you need to sacrifice your luxury and comfort for a miracle.
Do the families know each other? How long have you been together? Plans for the future?
Good luck to the both of you. Stick to BC, graduate, establish yourself, then make all the babies you want.
P.S. Who ever taught the OP was Russian, bhuaahaha..
But I am 
Sometimes you need to sacrifice your luxury and comfort for a miracle.
Do the families know each other? How long have you been together? Plans for the future?
Good luck to the both of you. Stick to BC, graduate, establish yourself, then make all the babies you want.
P.S. Who ever taught the OP was Russian, bhuaahaha..
But I am
01-29-2009, 08:42 AM
#158
taught=thought
I need coffee
I need coffee
01-29-2009, 08:42 AM
#159
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I'm a lawyer, I hear all kinds of lovely history between unhappy couples - there's very often something that one person thought the other "got over" or forgave them for.
01-29-2009, 08:50 AM
#160
By the way OP,
You do know BC offers free Day Care? At the Hillel...
You do know BC offers free Day Care? At the Hillel...