edzyy

I don't even know where to start.

Her = K

So me and K went to Jr high school together and lost touch once we graduated in 2001. We reconnected in early 2013 over Facebook. We chatted for a few weeks & decided to go on a date soon after..4 dates later, we're a couple! Things go sour because she kept thinking I was doing things behind her back with other women(I wasn't). After the 3rd argument, I decided to end things. This was October of 2013.


Fast forward to June of 2014, we reconnect again. She initiated contact over Facebook. Couple convo's later she tells me that she got engaged in December, but she wasn't happy and missed what we had. My gut told me to leave her alone, but I ended up seeing her again. Around July, she broke things off with her fiance & we started to go on dates again. I told her that the first go around was rushed & I really wanted to things to work between us, so we should wait before making things official again.


With my work & school schedule & her crazy work schedule, we rarely got to see each other. Maybe twice a month. From June of 2014 to now, we only seen each other a handful of times. Although we didn't see each other much, I was faithful to her & I assumed she was faithful to me. We even talked about children & all that wacky stuff couples talk about.


A week ago, she told me she was having issues at home & her mother was close to kicking her out. She told me she was planning to stay with a female coworker until she could save up for a deposit on a new place.


Today, she dropped the ultimate bomb on me. She sent me a text saying that her ex fiance was back around & that she was going to marry him and leave to Florida. She told me that she loved me to death, but she had to do this to get her life in order.

Now, here I am lost and confused at what the hell went wrong. My stomach is in a knot & my mind is all over the place.

Thoughts?

justnspace

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unstable, psycho, batshit crazy.

dont walk away, RUN!

dallison

sneriously

Jakes_tl

I know you probably have some strong feelings for her but run away as fast as possible and as far as possible from her! Imagine if your were married to her and she dropped a bomb like this on you.

Sounds like she wants to win everywhere without losing anything but this is life and things don't work that away. She doesn't seem to understand that not everything will always be 100% perfect.

damaged442

I do not know about you, but I am planning to scream and run!

Let her go and do not look back. Ever.

thoiboi

She seems like the type that will take the easiest way out at any junction in her life. She's hit a point where her family is kicking her out, then she proceeds to go with the best possible scenario in her head: get back with the fiance and live with him! Correlation definitely equals causation in this case.

Steer clear.

doopstr

Unfriend her.

BTW sounds like she is gold digging that other guy. She will start forgetting to take her pill so she can lock him in. Better him than you.

2012wagon

Facebook, the Devils creation

ucf_bronco

iTrader: (1)

Consider yourself lucky...this could've happened down the road after you married her. If you're gonna feel sorry for anyone, let it be the guy she's marrying.

TLin401

F her man.

She's every name in the book. You don't need that and are going to be so better off without her.

97BlackAckCL

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^this she's just swinging from 1 branch to another, you're better off without her

oo7spy

Seriously. It may seem like a bit of ragging, but when this many people unanimously give advice, it's the right advice. The red flags are all over the place. The most alarming to me:

- Graduated in 2001. Unless that's a typo, she must be at least 31.
- Mother is threatening to kick her out... at 31.

wndrlst

Step 1) Be grateful you never got to the point of having kids with her.

Setp 2) Feel sorry for her future husband.

Step 3) Move on with the knowledge you got hurt, but ultimately dodged a bullet.

97BlackAckCL

iTrader: (6)

this this and this!

97BlackAckCL

iTrader: (6)

"You dropped the bomb on me, baby... You dropped da bomb on me"

edzyy

I know what I needed to do. I wished her the best & blocked her number.

This whole situation just confused me.

I had a lack of judgement when dealing wit her & it blew up in my face. Lesson learned.

justnspace

iTrader: (1)

at least it wasnt the CLAP

oo7spy

Is she really 31-32 or 21-22?

Don't think too much into the logistics. Young women are harder to predict than the stock market. You probably made a misstep by getting back with her after she was engaged, but you can only analyze your approach and learn from that.

edzyy

We're both 28.

hues10

Take it from a guy who was married 15 years until the bomb dropped from reacquainting with a HS guy through Facebook. It hurts, no doubt, but like everything you get over it. And, if you have a job, have all your teeth, haven't committed a felony and have not been jailed, you are a gold mine out there for the women who are not crazy (and the crazy ones). And if you have a full head of hair still, go to Costco and get the family size of Trojans......

97BlackAckCL

iTrader: (6)

"We got the clap, can't be beat, got it off the back of a toilet seat"

97BlackAckCL

iTrader: (6)

Lesson learned, they're ex's for a reason. On to the next one

brian6speed

iTrader: (5)

Typical psycho whore. America is full of them.

These women jump from one man to another without even a week of downtime in between. They can't handle being on their own even for a few days. Typically have multiple baby daddies who don't or can't pay child support.

Relationships are not worth the time & money.

Will Y.

They are with the right person (or wife, in my case).
Sometimes the experience is worth the time and money even if it doesn't end well, but OP's was not one of those.

mvp2765

iTrader: (1)

As hard as it might be, Close that door and toss away the key. A new door will open with better things!

Whiskers

Bitches.....

Groovemaster

Sometimes things happen for a reason. This is life saying, "I'm giving you a solid". Take it, call it a lesson, whatever, just carry on. When the right person comes along, you will feel it in your gut, and you certainly won't be asking advice from strangers...that I know...

oo7spy

I can't help but think about a Hot Carl everytime I read the title.

TacoBello

Before you toss the key... send me her phone number.

Also, provide all nudes you possess. They will be extremely important.

TacoBello

This. This just made me laugh my ass off.

97BlackAckCL

iTrader: (6)

be crazy...

97BlackAckCL

iTrader: (6)

Finally! Someone asked for noodz

wndrlst

Flipster23

iTrader: (15)

IDFWU

Never dig back into the recycling bin..

Surprised Taco was the first one to ask for the noodz

Whiskers

Im traveling

TacoBello

Majofo has been slacking with his duties on AZ...

musty hustla

She'll be back

RenoTL

Oh, I love stories with a happy ending! Ultimately, this worked out the best for you even if it hurts a bit now.

oo7spy

My second thought was that she locked you in with a pregnancy.


You should be thanking your lucky stars, OP.

Rapture

^ fwiw OP, this is the type of girl who WILL get pregnant on purpose to keep you around.

Which also means she WILL try to re-enter your life when she does get her life in order. At which point you should be balls-deep in another girl.

Also shocked at what oo7spy pointed out. Girls who are almost 30 should have a much better head on their shoulders.