CLPowersWife

I just seem to have a bunch of friends with fucked up marriages that ask me for advice, and I don't know the answers, so I take it to AZ. Like all important subjects. Here's another one:

Good friend, recently married. Her husband just doesn't want to have sex with her anymore. She says he's never really been very horny , so she didn't really notice at first that they hadn't been doing it that often until she sat back and realized it'd been like 3 weeks since he even touched her, and probably a month before that. So she apparently tried to reconcile with him and explain to him that she has "needs", and he laughed and agreed with her and promised to be more attentive, but now it's been another 2 weeks and they only did it that one day that they had the conversation.

She really doesn't think he's seeing anyone else or cheating on her in any capacity, because he's pretty religious and very dedicated to the marriage itself. But for some reason he's just not interested in her sexually.

What could be some reasons for this? She hasn't gained weight or nagged about wanting children, or any of the obvious things. Is it possible that he just doesn't have a sex drive? Are any of you like that? Is there anything you can suggest that she could do to entice him into bed with her? Is this retarded that she even has to ask these questions? I'm really at a loss here... I don't know what to tell her.

dom

Has he changed at all, physically?

NSXNEXT

iTrader: (2)

What was their sex life before the marriage?

cM3go

I pretty much want it whenever I can get it, then again, my gf and I aren't married and we don't have the benfit of being alone much, so there you have that. Sometimes we do go 3-4 weeks without it, but its only because of circumstance, not because we don't desire each other. Maybe he's not attracted to her that way? Maybe he's too religious and one of those people that feel it should really only be done to make children? Maybe he's a homogay? It could be anything... Sex is an important part of a successful relationship, IMO

Ol Blue Eyes

How old are these individuals?

cM3go

doesn't seem like it

mantis23

My guess is he wacks off instead of sexing his wife.

MichaelBenz

iTrader: (2)

your prob right.... ... he a wanker! On the Yankees...ect, ect.

dom

Is his computer useage up?

dom

I said HE.

CLPowersWife

I don't think he's changed physically. Like I said, she said they've never been like super horndogs, but they did it a few times per week as long as they've been together. This no-sex thing is new, within the past few months, I guess. And it's been gradually getting worse, so she really didn't even recognize it until it was out of control.

I should rephrase the religion thing; he's not super religious, but he does take his marriage vows very seriously; I've known him for a long time and while men are only as faithful as their options, I am pretty sure that his mindset obliterates any options other than her.

Oh, and they're like 25-26.

Crazy Bimmer

Tell scott to stop smoking so much weed.

CLPowersWife

That actually reminds me... he DOES wack off, and that's why she's so confused. If he wasn't wacking off either, then that'd be one thing, obviously a physical problem on his side, but he has a pretty healthy self-love schedule, apparently.

So why would a man suddenly prefer his hand to a warm piece of poontang?

CLPowersWife

Is weed what I need to give him to keep him off my back? I'm thinking about sending Scott over to my friend's house...

kurt_bradley

There's not good reason for that.

A woman using the word "poontang" FTW!

dom

Maybe she's making things to complicated. He probly wants to be in and out while she wants a production.

btsilver

maybe he sees her too much. Im sure he loves her, butt sometimes when you see someone everyday you might get a lil bored or something. Tell her to get on her knees and start sucking him off when he's least suspecting it. That stir things in the pot. Tell her to repeat anytime she needs "attention."

dom

Send zeroday instead. He apparently has no problem with serving another man's lady.

kurt_bradley

He only made out with her.

Ol Blue Eyes

maybe her poontang stinks and he doesn't know how to tell her.

FuriousGeorge83

I bet he is the :theghey:

CLPowersWife

Oh, see, now, that's the other thing. Apparently he gets pissed at her if she tries to initiate anything. I had suggested that to her, too (the impromptu BJ), and she said he usually won't let her get close enough to unzip his pants, much less actually go down on him.

dom

Did you read the entire thread?

Ol Blue Eyes

Did he end up throwing the old hotdog down the hallway?

dom

Can I send you my wife's e-mail address?

dom

No, but she gave the hotdog a good polishing.

teg_to_bike

She's loose.

Very loose.

He knows its going to take a few months before things tighten up again.

zeroday

more or less

dom

How is that more or less? Wait, she spit?

CLPowersWife

Wait a minute, you have your own thread for this! I have a crying friend on the phone, here!

Ol Blue Eyes

kegel excercises could be a possiblity

kurt_bradley

See. I don't remember reading any comfirmation to the kneeling incident. I just know of the make out session.

zeroday

dom did it!

dom

Tell her to register at AZ.

username: needsthecawk.

dom

kurt_bradley

I hate to say this, but if some guy magically goes from taking care of her 3 times a week to nothing...there may be something else going on. We don't just give that up cold turkey.

kurt_bradley

Fixed *

CLPowersWife

I may just be the person friends come to for love/sex because I have been around you guys long enough to know the automatic answers to most questions... that answer is, "Give him an impromptu BJ!"

dom

CLPowersWife

By "something else" are you referring to like, another woman?

And teg, she's never had a baby and they've been together for years, so unless she had an overzealous ob/gyn, I don't think she's loose, although I haven't actually tested the waters, so to speak, so I can't say.