So I just started having sex with this girl I've started going out with. So last night she is over and we are fooling around and she lets me know that she is having her period, so no sex.

Now every other girl I've been with in my life has always at least taken care of me in some way during that time of the month. This girl does nothing, we just kiss and feel a while, then she goes home. I even directly told her I bad I wanted to do something.

Should I be worried about this? It's really bothering me, almost to the point where I'm thinking about leaving her. It makes me feel like she doesn't care how I feel and is pretty selfish because we did nothing just because she couldn't do something.

What do you guys think?

 

Idk man, if shes a great girl i think you can live without any ass for a week. But then again , the chick i marry better be blowing me when shes on the rag, or at least let me do her (dosent bother me).

She wont even lit you sit her down and wack off onto her? THats pretty lame, maybe shes just shy since it's a new relationship.

 

yes you are selfish.

 

 

I've always thought this was illegal

 

In her defense, I didn't specifically ask her to do anything. It's just ever other girl I've been with has immediately offered to take care of me in other ways when she was out of commission for the week

 

me?

 

and stupid...

 

When she's painting the front door, you have to go around back.

 

sorry but about you being selfish....

Most girls get excited as they perform an act on you...it will be major selfish to her.

 

I don't get how everyone thinks I'm selfish, if the situation was reversed and I was the one who couldn't do anything, I would take care of her without expecting anything back.

 

not there yet, in time

 

Redwings FTW!

 

There's your answer.

So ironic.

 

I think SS is also on the rag

 

That makes no sense to me. You act like I'm some dirtbag who expects the girl to blow me and then go home. I treat this girl like gold, I do a lot to make her happy, I don't see why, knowing that the guy she is with wants her, she can't do something for me to make me happy.

Like I said, I would happily do it for her.

 

Hey Street, where did your "I don't deserve her" post go?

 

It's selfish because you're thinking only of yourself, and aren't even making an attempt to see the situation from her side and empathize with it. She isn't factoring into your thoughts, only you, what you want, what you're not getting, and what you feel you do for her.

 

I deleted it, thinking it was a bit too harsh.

 

Because you're basing this entirely "great" relationship on the one week when YOU don't seem to get what YOU want, ignoring all else that you'd think would be just as important in a great relationship. Who cares what every other girl you've dated has done; she's not them.

Thinking about breaking up over not getting what you think you deserve, during a few days each month, seems rather selfish and petty, no?

You obviously can't like her too much if you can't see past those few days.

 

If you say you just WANT her to do something - then that's cool, but if you are talkng about leaving her if she doesn't, then that is like a demand or ultimatum (I know you didn't say it to her).

Look, of course you are selfish. A lot of guys are when it's like that. I am. We're horny and we want some satisfaction. Nothing wrong with being selfish then. What is wrong, is taking it out on the girl and acting like you don't know you are being selfish! Aren't you old enough to deal with the disappontment of finding out it's that time of the month yet? How long have you been fucking??? And how in the fuck do you justify leaving someone for some shit like that? Be honest...you just wrote this shit for attention dude! Either that or you have a lot to learn young gunner!!

Sheeyyiitt...I want something, head or anal during those times, too. But I'm not going to kick the girl to the curb just because she didn't offer or do it!! That's stupid as shit! She should leave YOUR ass and probably would if she knew you were this selfish and superficial!

Some of ya'll just sit at home and think of some of the dumbest shit to come up in here with...that was funny...NOT!

 

You're that shallow? Seriously?

It's a fucking week, maybe less. Grease your palm and deal with it for a few days.

And you're thinking about leaving her...

 

Sorry, but I agree with those saying your thinking is selfish.

You should understand that there are a lot of things at play for different women during that time of the month. On days when the flow is particularly heavy it's virtually impossible to feel sexy. I'm all about giving some love to a guy when I can't get my own for whatever reason, but if I'm not feeling it, that just makes me feel like a prostitute. Particularly in a brand new relationship, a woman will be looking for some kind of a connection in any sexual encounter.

You also have to factor in her hormones which will fluctuate during that week and affect her libido for better or worse. Also important to consider is that very few things will make a woman less interested in sex than cramps. I know you don't have a uterus, so think of someone grabbing your intestines & wringing them out like a wet towel. Still horny?

Not to mention, you're sitting there expecting yours, when she's not going to have hers. If she's willing, that makes her generous. If she's not, she's not generous, but I wouldn't tip it into selfishness either. Thinking of leaving her because you didn't even ask, and she didn't offer, puts you on the selfish side. We don't read minds any better than you do. Ask for what you want. If she looks at you like it's the most bizarre request ever, and says she would never consider it regardless of how she's feeling, THEN you can talk about looking for a more generous lover.

 

You're thinking of leaving a girl just because she didn't wack you off or give you head?!... Sorry, but that is kinda selfish. So I'm assuming you're not serious about her and she's just another pussy for you?

And by the way, a girl sometimes just doesn't feel sexy when she is on her period, especially if she has cramps.

 

Exactly.

 

I am with you Gibson, I would expect a girl to do something to help me out while shes on the rag but then again ig she doesnt get it, just ask her. Maybe not for a bj but a hand job at least or soemthing.

 

Yep...so that's all the women on Azine saying that you suck....

 

You're selfish dude.

Gibson, meet right hand.....right hand, meet Gibson. Please enjoy. If that doesn't do it for you, then go find a hooker.

 

Go ask WILLDOGS for that herpes broad's number...she'll take a selfish motherfucker right about now, period or not! Hahahahaha!

Should I leave the girl and am I selfish?...Nah, that's not the question, you already know that...the question is why am I so damn selfish and stupid...

 

Well, i guess you all told me exactly what I was hoping you would. Even though I don't entirely agree, I can't argue against all of you. I guess I need to lower my expectations. Maybe I've been spoiled by the other girls I've dated.

 

I really look at as more than a HJ or BJ, hence the selfishness reference. It's not just an orgasm, it her willingness to please me.

Like I said a couple times, if there was something that stopped me from having sex with her, I would go down on her without thinking twice about it because I would want at least one of us to be enjoying something. Is that so bad?

 

Maybe the other girls were whores There were reasons that those didn't work out.

Give her a chance. If this is your biggest issue, you have it easy.

 

The funny thing is, this girl is the most "whorish" of the girls I've dated. Past girls have all been sweet, innocent girls.

Who knows man?

 

I wouldn't say that. I'd just say that each individual has her own likes, dislikes, expectations, moods, emotions, etc, etc, etc, etc. Just because one woman likes or dislikes something doesn't mean that is how it is with all womankind. Not everyone is the same. Doesn't seem too hard to grasp.

 

Maybe she just knows what she wants more than the other girls. When I was your age, the younger, more inexperienced women I dated were always eager to please. But they never knew what they wanted in life. FLAKEY to say the least. The sex was never the reason it didn't worked out. It was them not knowing what they wanted.

The more experienced ones, the ones that knew what they wanted, and maybe not as eager to please were 10000000% easier to deal with mentally.

 

Sorry. I was actually kidding. Should have put it in red.

 

You don't need to lower your expectations for anyone, and you should always feel comfortable and excited with who you're dating. Maybe this person isn't right for you in a variety of ways. Calling her selfish though, IMO, was just ironic when you considered your reasoning.

 

Why is it off limits when shes on the rag.

 

Just talk ot her about it. Dont draw conclusions from something you didnt even discuss with her. Thats would be ASS-U-ME-ing you see what that spells LOL. If after the talk she still feels the same way then thats when you make your decision. Plus she may have thought that you were satisfied with the making out. Alot of girls don't know (or act like they dont know) that they cant get the "man" up and not put him back down. Alot of the times they are just content with kissing or grab assing and think you are too. Speak your mind.
And most women feel un attractive or bloated or in pain when they are bleeding

 

You're my type of woman...