Buying a girl a drink is played out. More than likely they'll think you're trying to soften them up or drug them. If they really do want men buying them drinks, they're more than likely carriers of Justn's crabs.

Also, I have no issues with Friend B. I don't think it's a dick move.. Skip to 8:18

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mVdKi...498&autoplay=1

 

^spot on.

first rule of being a true player, never buy women drinks.

 

I also have no qualms with friend B....

girl in question is still open game.
do not get jelly because your friend scored.....thats just lame.
take it in stride and chat up some other women.

 

"Soon as they buy that wine I just creep up from behind" - BIG

 

You're right...she is fair game. I would have at least told him first.

 

double

 

 

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. trust me i know all about rejection.

 

As nice as it is to get chosen, you can significantly up your chances closing deals with women by being aggressive, charming, and unflinching.

While I agree that being a smooth operator is nice, I like a raw approach.

Rejection is just part of the package, and you have to get over it one way or another. I like to think of rejection as a way to save time. I prefer rejection to a girl just being nice 10 times out of 10.

One way to improve success with women, I've found, is by selecting environments you're most comfortable in. I don't hit on girls at clubs, I think that's working uphill, and I'm not going to go out of my way to buy bottle service for a decent place to sit and chat a girl up. Fact of the matter is, women are on their game at clubs, and you're going to have a harder time playing Mr. Operator when everyone else is trying their own angle. It's hard to stick out.

Another way to improve your game is by having a wide, diverse and interesting social circle. This amplifies your opportunities probably more than anything else, since you become pre-qualified by the mutual friend. It eases some of the pre-judgmental aspects that women are forced to make at light speed in a place like a bar or club.

Also, talking to girls about things that aren't about you or her, to strike up a non-threatening conversation at a grocery store, the mall, the dentist's waiting room, a park, or wherever is a fine way to open a girl without coming off as too desperate.

Then there's the notion of confidence. It's critically important, and not something that can be faked medium- or long-term. Confidence is the secret ingredient that will put a girl under your spell. This is the primary reason why I love the raw, aggressive approach. I don't sugar coat, I don't try to throw magic words, I don't try to anchor, I just have self-esteem.

Understand that some girls are broken or just not into you, and that your sexual desires can cloud your own self-esteem. If you're desperate for sex or intimacy, chances are high that you'll sacrifice what you truly deserve, and set yourself up for failure. Have some standards and you'll be able to rely on your own self-worth as the barometer.

When you're out in the world and you're trying to meet girls, it's really not that serious. Enjoy it and make light of the whole thing. We're really just acting on our chimpanzee DNA instincts, after you bust a nut you'll remember how dumb it was to care so much about rejection. It's not a big deal at the end of the day.

 

excellent post my friend.

I dont go to clubs. I think they're whack.
you're right, why fight an up hill battle?

 

Chloroform.


There. I said it.

 

^^^

Getting dating tips from Mizouse?

 

 

you laugh because it's true.

 

He didn't deny it.

 

when a girl tells you "no"

just tell her "dont make me turn this rape into a murder"

60% of the time it works every time!

and remember kids its not rape if you yell "surprise!" at the end

 

^^^This. The fact that there is a question about rejection shows a lack of confidence. Even in the most minuscule sense, a lack of confidence is an open door to rejection. If you are 100% confident, that person didn't just reject you, they just missed out. Works the same for everything, friends, jobs, and relationships. The key to my confidence is the day I learned to not give a fuck about what others think of me. Ironically enough, I learned this from someone who used to pick on me in JH. When HS rolled around we became friends because we both enjoyed getting messed up beyond belief. I'm not sure where he learned it, but his wisdom helped me tremendously. It probably has to do with the fact that he had things to be insecure about. However, you couldn't tell if it bothered him, and that helped you to not see those things about him. You know who you are, not on the outside but on the inside. If someone thinks otherwise, fuck 'em; they aren't worth the effort.

Now, I'm not saying my confidence has garnished me with a perfect track record. I've been told I'm the greatest thing since sliced bread. I've also been rejected to the point that I don't even get a rejection; I can't even make eye contact. They key to this is to focus on the positives. In every single thing in life, there is a positive aspect and a negative aspect. What you choose to focus on will determine your ultimate happiness. Find the positive in that rejection, remind yourself what you know is true about you, and let it roll off your back like water on a duck.

Ultimately, life is really what you make of it. If you focus on the rejection, you will be a reject. If you focus on the fact that you gave it your best shot, you will be winner. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Even if you are a LOUSY shot, keep shooting and one is bound to fall.

 

i get rejected pretty often. I just tell myself it shouldnt of happened and move on. It sucks but it is what it is.

 

Walk away, re-evaluate yourself, and make her regret...