[QUOTE=SDCGTSXBut again, weddings aren't events that you bring new prospective girls to either. So personally, I wouldn't bring her if I liked her and wanted to get to know her. It'd be weird to ask a girl you barely know to a wedding.

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to that statement right there, i told all my friends if they've been dating someone for less then 6 months or I don't know them they aren't comming to my wedding

 

moved on you say?? see through you, we can!!!

first of all, relax for a second, let yer bp simmer to a slow boil

second, think of it this way, is this getting even bullshit going to matter in 10 years?? probably not, so why the fuck would you make it your lifelong mission to do it now?? Nicky, you are so much more than that...don't start acting like a baby now...the facts are undisputed (you claim yer ex's new dude is scared shitless of you - ok then...your new 22 year old dudette is a knockout - go you!!!)...YOU HAVE NOTHING TO PROVE TO ANYONE!!! if people will judge you by what they see or hear about you without interacting with you first-hand, who gives a fuck?? they're not your friends anyway dude!!! so showing up at the wedding with yer gf, although you say all yer friends want you to b/c she's friends with a lot of them, you REALLY want her to go so you can stick it to the ex...deep down i think that was your initial reason covered up by your friend's rationale, and that's just my opinion...you have no right to treat your gf that way, that's not fair...i mean dude, you're using your gf to get back at the ex...why?? what right do you have of doing that??

i think the revenge-driven decision is the wrong route to take, and again, that's just my opinion...if your ex and her man have nothing to do with your decision to being your gf or not, then feel free to bring her

 

So get a restraining order?

no big deal. That's what you have to do with the nutcases.

 

I wouldn't bring the new girl, if things did get ugly who do you think they will blame? Besides, if neither of you bring the new dates, you can just ignore each other, and have fun, and there will be no problems for your friends who are getting married.

 

don't bring the new chick solely for that reason. Open a whole new can of worms in the new girls mind... Thinking marriage.

This situation brings a quote to mind.
"Don't argue with an idiot, they'll only bring you down to their level, and beat you with experience."

Just be the adult in this situation and don't let what she does bother you.

 

The new girl knows everyone there. I think I've calmed down since the first post. I am bitter, but over her. A person that isn't over someone would go back....I would NEVER go back! I just feel I got shafted with buying a townhouse and ALMOST buying the ring! It was almost 5 months ago, so its kind of fresh...I just don't wanna see her and I have to. Guys...she works 2 BLOCKS from where I work...and I have never seen her. The bar her and homo go to is 3 Blocks from work...I have never seen her. I don't know many people the actually wanna see thier ex...unless its for a fuck...I don't wanna bang her at all! I just want her out of my life....BUT...she STILL does my mom, sister and 4 aunts hair, on top of the fact that she cuts my godson's hair...she fucks me over, and my family goes to here and gives her money!!!! (sorry about that tid bit of background info I left out!) I feel alittle betrayed....I'm italian...thats a bad thing!

 

Nicky, if i'm not mistaken, you would of bought the townhouse anyways, cause she wasn't back in your life when you first did it. As far as almost getting shafted into buying a ring, that's your bad, not hers. I'm still kind of clueless hwo SHE fucked you over. I think you realized she wasn't for you and ended the situation, no one fucked anyone over. Love is a fucked up thing, but bitterness just makes things worse.


Some of my ex's are my best friends, they still interact w/ my family etc. You are with someone for that long IMO you can't just ditch them. But many can. So she cuts your moms and other family members hair, big fucking deal, you aren't dealing w/ her.

If you take your new girl to this wedding, you will look like a douche IMO

 

Nah...I'll be fine. I'm not friends with any of my exs...when I first met them, I didn't say...."ohhhhh, I bet she'd make a great friend!" I wanted to be with them....when I'm done....I'M DONE! This new girl has a great head on her shoulders...she is gorgeous, and she undrstands how I feel! My ex is on the her new guy...I on to a new guy. I'd be fine with the ex's BF if he didn't talk soooooooo much shit! Otherwise, I could care less. Theres a good chance he'll end up there and I won't do anything because its a wedding....we'll see what happens. One thing is for sure...she'll stop talking to the bride and groom a week after the wedding is over.

 

Nicky, this wedding is not about you, your ex, her new boyfriend, your new girlfriend, or any combination of the above. You and your ex are both there to support the bride and groom. For one day, your own issues are put on the back burner. They. do. not. matter.

Whatever you do, whether you bring the new girl, whether she brings the new guy, or not, you are NOT to start any sort of shit with anyone. If the new boyfriend walks right up to you and calls you a pussy, give him the look of death, tell him you will meet him outside at the end of the night, and then walk away.

Whatever you do, DO NOT ruin this wedding over personal shit. It is NOT YOUR NIGHT. The bride has spent the past 6-12 months planning this event, her parents have shelled out a fortune to make it go well, and it is not fair to let your petty revenge shit even have the POSSIBILITY of ruining it.

This shouldn't be an issue. Bring the new chick if she's invited, if she's not, don't bring her. Even if she comes after dinner, that's rude, unless you have already talked to the BRIDE and she said it's okay. The groom doesn't know shit, don't listen to him. An extra person can screw things up. Be considerate.

 

hence, why it's probably best to not even bring the temptation into the field and just leave the date at home for the night.

 

Another reason why I cant wait to get married.

 

NOTHING would happen at the wedding....ever! After would be a different story...I can get really evil when I want! The whole point of this post is that I met someone that I like....and I don't wanna see my ex! I'm gonna keep my distance and not say anthing to her or even look at her...everything should be fine!

 

 

I'm just gonna kill everyone....problem sloved!

 

Don't bring her. There are a number of things your nutcase ex can do. Then you will be saying a number of things:

"I didn't think she would react like that."
"I'm sorry about that."
"That looks bad, let's get to a hiospital."
"Call 911!"
"Sorry about the wedding going the way it did."

I'm sure you guys have seen girls go ape shit before.

 

I was talking about in terms of guest placement and invitations. Unless you're going to be miffed because your fiancee won't let you handle the guest list, what I just said shouldn't be a deterrent to marriage. Your inability to keep your dick in your pants should be your deterrent.

 

so much for CLpower being teh instigator

 

skip the wedding, send a nice gift, take your new girl out to some place special, and meet up with the bride and groom at a later date for a more personal session. This way you get to show off the new girl to the friend, avoid confrontation with the ex, avoid the chance of ruining the wedding (even if you think this will not happen, others may have ulterior motives), and make your new girl feel really special.

 

Fuck my ex...I'm gonna have a good time and act as if she wasn't there!

 

take pics

 

what I find so funny is you talk about how over her you are, yet you can see how much she gets under your skin?


Just curious, how did she fuck you over and get you so fired up?

 

Yes, the resentment is strong in this one... Ahh, the childish games we play.

 

on one side you should bring your new girl because if you dont she might feel bad

on the other side its pretty rude to go back on your word with the ex, if anything let her bring the tool and tell them to sit across the wedding

 

wow, so much talk!!! I didnt realize this was such an intersting thread. You wanna bring your new bitch and have a good time, right? well fuck the ex and and have good time. She can't handle it? tough shit. She shoulda thought of that before she broke up with you. That is all I have to say. End of story.

 

any updates??? did you go? did you take the girl?

 

Well....We didn't say anything to each other until after the dinner and everyone was dancing. She was dancing with my dad and I was dancing with my sister's friend....then my sister's friend asked to cut in on my dad...leaving me to dance with the ex. Then we went outside and taked alittle...then we got into a disagreement on why it all ended...I said she fucked me over...and that she left me for a tool that is pussy whipped..."yeah, but he treats me right". She admitted he's a tool!!! Then I told her that I WANTED to get married and that she ended it on bad term...and the only reason that her boyfriend wasn't allowed to go was because he threatened me...we don't need that at the wedding...she goes..."he's scarred of you, why would he say that?" Whatever...I know he said it, and I said if he confronts me...he is gonna get a severe beating. I said that I will always love her, but she has moved on, so I don't care to ever see or talk to her again...then I walked away. I heard she left crying...

 

Still say no need to be a dick to the ex. You're looking for affirmation that you are not a tool from an ex by making fun of her current bf (although he may truly be a douche bag). Be man enough to move on. Don't be brining up marriage and shit and make her feel bad about breaking up. That's really high school.

 

oh well who cares about her, go bang the new girl

 

is there a link to your break up story somewhere?