I'm going on my first "real" date since breaking up with bitch-face 4 months ago. My brother was at out friend's pizza place for the owners birthday. They had our family and a couple of other people there and there happened to be a very attractive girl there. My older brother and the owner of the place, Marco, decided that she and I have to meet. So my bro and Marco called me after she left last Saturday and told me. My brother saw Marco last night and gave him a pic of me to give to her, and now she really wants to meet me.

We are going out Friday...so should I just call her, asked her where she wants to go. Do I show up with flowers....or is that corny, I was thinking a single rose. Give me a little help.

 

if you MUST give a flower, pink rose.

 

Read my thread about my blind date experience. I hope you're more talkative than the guy I went out with.

Good luck and let us know how it went.

 

Get some Naw, just playin, just make good conversation, don't be shy, and ask about her, and talk about yourself when she asks questions

 

'bitch face'

Just sit down, have a few drinks, and talk about the first thing that pops up.

 

I've never been on a blind date, but I would just make it a relaxed time. No flowers IMO, just pay for dinner and drinks obviously.

 

...when it comes to "blind dates" it's always good to be fixed up by a guy friend, or in this case... your bro... because they'll describe her to how she really looks... if they say she's cute... then she should be cute... but I've been on several blind dates and they were all fixed by female friends or clients... and their definition of "cute" or "beautiful" is NEVER the same as a guy's.

 

 

Mr. Winky??

 

good luck man...im sure everything will go just fine...nothing to be nervous about...whatever happens happens

 

Good to see your still around Cooter.

 

 

Just don't be a douche and I'm sure things will go fine...

 

Just remember: TWO IN THE PINK, ONE IN THE STINK, and you should be fine

 

Don't ask her what to do because you want to show that you exerted some effort in planning your date and making sure that both of you will enjoy it. Think of a fun, casual activity that will allow you guys to interact with one another, then let her know about your plan, and verify if she's cool with it. Of course, be open if she has some suggestions.

You don't need to bring a flower because it's a sign that you like the person and you haven't even met her yet. Keep the conversations rolling by asking non-intrusive questions about herself and sharing some of your own stories, excluding past relationships. If you find yourself interested in pursuing her, then end the night with a kiss (on the cheek or light peck on the lips?) while giving her a lingering hug and call her after 2-3 days.

Good luck!

 

Here's the step by step instructions on the perfect blind date. And I know no one believes anything anyone posts on here but I swear my blind date / 1st dates "methods" if you will, get at least a kiss and usually more. I've gotten pretty good at the first date thing. I admit, I'm bad at relationships because I'm selfish but that notwithstanding, my dating skills are pretty good. And they should get you through date #3 which is by all accounts when you should be getting regular nookie and she can call the "relationship" whatever she wants.

1. Have a basic plan but be flexible and learn to run with spur of moment change of plans depending on how things are going. Confidence is knowing that you can run with any situation. Remember, you are not on the date to see if she's having a good time, you are going on a date to "show her a good time" The good time is something that you bring with you because everywhere you go is a good time about to happen.

Your goal is to 1) have fun, because she will have fun if you are having fun (unless your idea of fun is at her expense), 2) get her to like you. 3) get some action (my goal always anyhow)

2. Activity. Starting off by meeting up for some food and drinks is a great way to start it off. It's public, not too creepy or forceably romantic. A fun happy hour place is great for some appetizers and drinks. Ask her what she would like to drink and you order them and YOU pay for them. Dutch is for much later. I'd say a guy pays pretty much until she shows that she really likes you. That could be 2 dates or 3-5 dates.

Also a drink will get both of you a little more relaxed. If things are going well, you really don't even need to go elsewhere. If you do want to relocate, a coffee house, hooka lounge, comedy show (let the comedian do all the work), music cafe, kareoke bar, amusement park are good ways to have fun together and still keep it casual. I don't recommend any extreme activities or expensive ones. Save those for later.

3. Dress: Dress for the occassion, that is nice and stylish but not dressy and not too grungy. Look clean and well coordinated that is still you. Make sure your nails are clipped, your hair is combed, take a shower, brush your teeth and floss. Girls notice the nails, hands, breath like it's their job. Also, put on 1 spray of cologne a foot in front of your neck (not 2, not 3, not 5) and 1 additional spray on your boxers / underwear. That is for later if you are lucky. Girls love the surprise smell of your cologne down there if they like you and she is taking your pants off.

4. Flowers. Don't bring it. Flowers are for guys who watched one too many sappy movies and got brain washed. Flowers are only for AFTER things are established that she likes you A LOT. Flowers from guy she likes = romantic. Flowers from a guy she doesn't like or know = stalker.

5. Conversation. Keep it fun and comfortable. I don't know how good of a conversationalist you are but it's ALL about keeping the topics light and PG (in the beginning) and going at a pace that she is comfortable with. Learn to MATCH the body language, tone, and topics that she seems to be interested in. A good conversationalist is interested in what the other person is talking about. That draws them out. For example, if a girl asked you what you are into and you mentioned cars and you saw her eyes light up, then you'd be excited to talk more about it. Do the same for her. If she's a kinky hoe and you like her, tell her how much you love S&M. Don't fake the enthusiasm but be interested.

Also for body language, people are put at ease if you match their posture. If she's leaning forward, then lean forward. If she's leaning back, lean back. If you are acting high strung and she's relaxed, it's no good and if she's high energy and you are a dead rock, then that's no good. MATCH without thinking about it consciously.

The talk / listen ratio should be 25%/75%. If you are a talker, learn to shut up. If you don't talk at all, at least show good listening cues like eye contact, chiming in, etc. Of course, all this should be 100% natural and not conscious, but it comes with practice.

6. End of night. If things have gone well, you should be getting the feeling that she is sort of sad to see the night end. That's how any good first date should end. This is where your listening and body language watching skills will pay off. If you are perceptive, you should know if she's been flirting and touching you towards the end of the date. Her touching your hand, legs, face is a great sign. If she's not very forward, she should be smiling and acting a little shy or coy. If she's super shy, then she will seem happy but slightly uncomfortable and not sure how to show it.

I don't know what your comfort level is with first date physical encounters so take it to where you feel good about it. If a kiss is all you want, then go for the kiss. There's no right place to do it, you just have to learn to pick up the signals and go for it. It could be in the middle of a conversation at the restaurant, it could be in your car when you are dropping her off, it could be when you are walking back to the car together and you go for her hand while walking and hold it. Just do it naturally like you'd would if you were 5 years old and you walk up to your mom and hold it. If you haven't kissed yet and you are walking back, I think the hand hold is one of the best ways to test the waters. If you have any chance at a kiss, she should welcome the hand hold. If she fidgits, you are probably SOL.

By the end of the date, everything you've done good or bad is already done and you are either already in or already out. Don't force it if you are out but don't chicken out if you have done well. Go for the kiss.

7. Conclusion: Some people are better "actors" and more comfortable with these inherently uncomfortable situations than others. In many ways, its much like a job interview. You are interviewing for the boyfriend / girlfriend position. And mush like any job interview, they aren't really looking for signs that you are the right person for the job. They are looking for signs that you are the WRONG person for the job. That is, you can mostly mess up the date / interview. A good date is one where you don't give them any reason to dislike you. A great date is one where you "click" and also give them reasons to like you.

Read this and understand it but don't memorize it. Remember that any good date should be natural and that you should always go with the flow. Have fun.

 

/me takes notes

 

This is for guys. Remember the #1 rule of blind dates. NEVER accept a blind date set up by a girl. ONLY accept it if it's a guy that you know and trust. A guy who sets up the blind date thinks like a guy and thinks about how attractive she is. A girl who sets up the blind date is thinking only about the girl and whether she would like the guy. If you are a guy, only go on blind dates set up by guys. I learned this the hard way.

 

/me again takes note

 

Nicky: Take the Mustang not the beater car!

 

don't forget to take your balls as well

 

 

Ok I wrote all that on my arm for when I go out on a blind date.

Nicky, I suggest you do the same and just pretend it's a really cool tattoo

 

SDCGTSX -Good book, great advice

 

before she comes

 

don't forget the rohypnol.

 

great replies guys