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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:03 PM
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Dating Co-workers

Anyone has done so or is considering? Please post experiences!

I personally would not recommend. I was semi-seeing this one guy from my office late last year and he turned out to be a psycho-creep. What kills me is that he has this funny/cool guy persona on the surface. So people at work who don't know him as well as I did LOVE him! Now I am in a new position where I sit not 15 feet from this guy.

Also - has anyone heard of the saying, "Don't fish off the company pier"? I think my roommate made that up. I HAVE heard of "Don't dip your pen in the company ink".
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:06 PM
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:10 PM
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it's hard to date a co worker...my ex and i met at work, dated while we worked together, lived together while we worked together for 2 years...

couldn't ever get away from him!
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:17 PM
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My sister is now married (5 yrs this August) to a guy who she met from work. She said that it went against her rule of dating coworkers, but she was leaving the office at the time so that was her excuse. They got married less than a year after they started dating.

I guess that gives us gals SOME hope........?
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted by TaroCake
Anyone has done so or is considering? Please post experiences!

I personally would not recommend. I was semi-seeing this one guy from my office late last year and he turned out to be a psycho-creep. What kills me is that he has this funny/cool guy persona on the surface. So people at work who don't know him as well as I did LOVE him! Now I am in a new position where I sit not 15 feet from this guy.

Also - has anyone heard of the saying, "Don't fish off the company pier"? I think my roommate made that up. I HAVE heard of "Don't dip your pen in the company ink".
Is your name Katie? Because that sounds like my exact same story, except I'm not a "psycho-creep."

I would not do it at all. I was in your exact same position, but luckily I found another job. I dated her for about 6 months and it wasn't a good break-up.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted by JimmyCarter
"Don't shit where you eat"
Or "don't dip your pen in the company ink."
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:20 PM
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I did for about a year back in 2003. Things were okay... she was just nutty. It didn't help that she was 11 years older than me also.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:21 PM
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I've been tempted many times, but haven't done it. I generally don't like to mix business with pleasure, but if we hired a supermodel to work here, I might make an exemption to my rule
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:23 PM
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I dated my boss for about a year a couple of years ago. We had to keep it a secret, or she would get fired. She was really jealous (I was too), so when she would see me talking to another girl, she would get really pissed. We used towork together, and she used to stay over alot at my house. There's just something not good about being with someone 24/7, even if you love them.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:23 PM
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Originally Posted by phipark
Is your name Katie? Because that sounds like my exact same story, except I'm not a "psycho-creep."

I would not do it at all. I was in your exact same position, but luckily I found another job. I dated her for about 6 months and it wasn't a good break-up.

No my name is not Katie.

I wasn't even dating this guy. We went out and hung out a few times. I wasn't really attracted to him physically but I was attracted to his personality - AT FIRST.
Turns out all he wanted was S-E-X.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:25 PM
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OMG now that I think of it..... My older brother is now married to a co-worker too. (He was the boss....)

Hmm........ what's up with my family????
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:25 PM
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Originally Posted by TaroCake
No my name is not Katie.

I wasn't even dating this guy. We went out and hung out a few times. I wasn't really attracted to him physically but I was attracted to his personality - AT FIRST.
Turns out all he wanted was S-E-X.
Are there children in the room or something?
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:25 PM
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Did it once a few yeras ago. She was several years older and in management, but not for my department. When we broke up, I could hear her talking and that alone was enough to sting me. Not something I would ever care to do again.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:26 PM
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Terrible, TERRIBLE idea!

I never have dated someone from work. When I used to work at the Dairy Queen I had sex with a fellow employee, but he quit to go to Brazil shortly after, so I was in the clear and was lucky. It makes things very awkward and unprofessional.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:30 PM
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Originally Posted by JimmyCarter
Are there children in the room or something?

Just emphasizing the sex part.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:35 PM
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Originally Posted by TaroCake
OMG now that I think of it..... My older brother is now married to a co-worker too. (He was the boss....)

Hmm........ what's up with my family????

Gotta keep it in da 'Company'
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:44 PM
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Originally Posted by youngTL
Terrible, TERRIBLE idea!

I never have dated someone from work. When I used to work at the Dairy Queen I had sex with a fellow employee, but he quit to go to Brazil shortly after, so I was in the clear and was lucky. It makes things very awkward and unprofessional.

How professional is a Dairy Queen employee to begin with anyways... I mean really
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:46 PM
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Originally Posted by mrsteve
How professional is a Dairy Queen employee to begin with anyways... I mean really
I agree, but, well, I mean it wouldn't look good if we both got fired now, would it? We were supervisors by the way, both of us, so it would look bad to fellow employees.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 01:55 PM
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I wouldn't date but definately would leave a deposit in some of my co-workers
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 02:09 PM
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been there, done that a couple times, all big mistakes, never again !
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 02:13 PM
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Originally Posted by matelot
been there, done that a couple times, all big mistakes, never again !
Your avatar reminds me of my brother-in-law.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 02:16 PM
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 02:36 PM
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I did it and didn't like it. You end up seeing way too much of the person, and that killed the relationship quick. Then it is soo weird working with them after. If you're going to date a co-worker do it when you decide to quit.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 04:55 PM
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Originally Posted by TaroCake
Anyone has done so or is considering? Please post experiences!

I personally would not recommend. I was semi-seeing this one guy from my office late last year and he turned out to be a psycho-creep. What kills me is that he has this funny/cool guy persona on the surface. So people at work who don't know him as well as I did LOVE him! Now I am in a new position where I sit not 15 feet from this guy.

Also - has anyone heard of the saying, "Don't fish off the company pier"? I think my roommate made that up. I HAVE heard of "Don't dip your pen in the company ink".
I dated 3 of the girls at work. Not all at once. They all knew about each other too. Wasn't too difficult except when things go sour then I have to play the ninja guy. Hiding behind walls, rappelling down the stairways to avoid the elevators.

I tend to break up by making it seem like there's still a chance for us to get back together when I have no intention to. I just don't have the heart to be stonecold and say f***off. Although, one of the girls did break my heart. She had a previous boyfriend and went back to him...they dated since h.s. while I only had 8 months time with her.

I do not date from the office now and we have so many hotties here I wish I could!!! I'm in management so for me its an absolute no no.

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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 07:32 PM
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yeah, I married one.

I think its great, as long as you don't see each other during the day or there is anyway that you could harm each other's careers.
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 08:14 PM
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Dont do it!!!! Its the worst. Seeing each other everyday, all day. She will also be interested in others in the office. So will you probably. Jealousy, avoiding each other, being mad at each other sucks at work!!! I repeat, dont do it!!!!
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Old Aug 19, 2005 | 09:30 PM
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I don't think there's anyting wrong with fishing off the company pier. As long as you're part of the catch-and-release program.....don't get serious with anyone and you should be fine. Everyone is doing it, I mean the hookups in the office are rampant.
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Old Aug 20, 2005 | 02:13 AM
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no cause all the ho's at work are HO's..... I would but I have a very professional attitude. I can deal with it, but I would be careful who. As for going out for drinks and sex it's all gravy.

fyi most guys that are liked by many are pretty much wierd on the inside too. They usally have so sort of socal issue that they are masking.
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Old Aug 20, 2005 | 07:47 AM
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Old Aug 20, 2005 | 10:28 AM
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Don't dip your pen in the company ink

Been there done that. When it's over it can get real ugly...real real ugly...uhhh
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Old Aug 20, 2005 | 10:30 AM
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I don't recommend it. In my last job their were so many hot chics and few guys...so I had many opportunities...I ended up dating like 3 chics during the 5 years I was there...nothing worked out and it just became weird afterwards....no bad blood...just weird.
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Old Aug 20, 2005 | 10:34 AM
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Originally Posted by JimmyCarter
"Don't shit where you eat"
Don't piss upstream from your drinking water....

That said, I started seeing a woman that worked for a different division, left the city to pursue career advancement, returned to faciliatate resolution of a nasty custody fight, and returned to the same organization. Everyone assumed we had engaged in a torrid affair prior to my leaving, which was not the case.... people will believe what the want to believe.

After we were married, her corporation decided to "deasses" mine, and my firm formed an independent partnership. Made corporate entertaining somewhat interesting, to say the least.............
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Old Aug 20, 2005 | 12:22 PM
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Don't shit and eat in the same pot.

No dating, just sex. [/end]
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