I might be going out on a first date and it's been a while since I've done this; I think the last first date I had in HS and that was a while ago. I have a few basic ideas on what I may do but beyond that I'm pretty clueless. As of now, I was thinking about taking her to some sort of activity like mini-golf (maybe a bit too teenage?) and then taking her to a restaurant that is riverside with phenomenal food and a great view:




If it helps, she has a deep passion dance and is involved with dance nearly everyday (IE Ballet, freestyle, etc and is an instructor at a local dance studio) so I was thinking about maybe taking her to a dance recital or something local of the sort.

Any ideas on other things I may be missing or that I should do? Any tips? Right now I'm absolutely clueless and don't even have the slightest idea of what I'll be doing...

FYI just so you know we are a younger (20's-30's range) and we agreed on something to the effect of business casual (something nice, but not overdone (suit) and not underdone (flip-flops and cargo shorts)

 

Where is Darksom when you need him?...

 

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Don't overthink or complicate things. Just do something simple. Maybe do that dance recital you talked about and go out for drinks somewhere 'quieter' (i.e. not a loud bar/club) later where yall can just talk/hang/etc.

 

Do something where the two of you can talk-- no movies or recitals on a first date.

Go play pool, or just drinks and dinner.
Oh, it's been about 20 years since my last first date.... do they still have nice bars with pool or air hockey tables?

 

Be yourself without putting on a false image (i.e., spending more than you can on a regular basis). Also, don't talk too much about yourself. Constantly ask questions about her and give her constant eye contact.

Keep it simple. Something where you two can talk in relative quiet, and get to know each other.

 

Have you asked her what she might enjoy? Some women have no problem making suggestions and letting you know what they like.

Just be yourself. Keep things light and casual. If you have an awkward or quiet moment, let it pass naturally instead of trying too hard to say the proper thing. If it's a first date, wherever you take her should should be elegant yet not overly impressive. The restaurant you mentioned sounds very nice and has a spectacular view. Then perhaps a quiet walk, or even a drive somewhere.



Terry

 

thanks guys, I tried to ask her what she enjoys and she replied in essence with, "lets see what you can come up with." We however did agree that it'd be something interactive where would could talk and get to know each other (so no movies). From the brief conversation we had about the date, I doubt she want's to let the inner teenager loose so fun teenage things (found from googling) like go-karting and mini golf are probably out of the question. Maybe try ice-skating at the local ice rink? (I've never done it before...)

Just to clarify I have known her with a casual hi and bye for the last year and over time it's increased from just a hi and bye to sometimes where we can have a conversation (not one on one) for a while with a group of friends (she's a friend of a friend).

There is a place here to play some air hockey, pool and some other stuff, but it may be a bit loud. I'll scope out the place tomorrow to see how busy it is on a Wednesday.

 

Wait-- you know her a little, so take her dancing and sweep her off her feet!
By dancing, I mean ballroom dancing preferably, or salsa/merengue/tango or square dancing otherwise-- something that requires touch contact and permits the two of you to talk and laugh.

Otherwise, take her to a fair or carnival with various games and rides-- win her a stuffed monkey, elephant, snake or something outrageous.

Good luck!

Oh, and remember to post pics of by Monday, please.

 

There's a slight problem with the dancing idea, I hurt my leg a few years ago and since then my dancing is lackluster at best. I can still waltz, but other than than I = Giant FAIL. Also she's going to a carnival tomorrow (we had planned it for tomorrow but her family interrupted it and planned for a carnival) so we pushed it back to next week. I doubt she wants to go twice in a month. It sounds like a great idea but I just got fubared.

Let me see what I can do as far as a picture...

 

found a picture on an archived version of the dance studio site, looks to be from about 6 months or so:


and no guys

 

 

Holy fuck!

You must do Tango! Learn quickly...

 

 

dem tits.

 

Dancing/carnival was the best I could come up with, darn it!

Oh, maybe a horse ride or a tour of the city?
Thanks.

Nudes, please?

 

Ice skating sounds like a good opportunity unless neither of you has a clue or one of you is a hockey player. Great opportunity to have some fun and both "learn' to skate together and laugh at yourselves when you fall (it will happen).
Restaurant looks great. GL and have a blast

 

Don't tell Wndrlst about this thread.. It's bad enough Whiskers found it.



In regards to a first date.. I suggest starting it off in the day. If everything goes well it will lead into the night. Something social, even going to the park or beach would be nice. That probably cuts the weekday date out. Don't focus the date around dinner.. let your appetite guide both of you and find a nice place, not too fancy, as long as the food is good and the ambiance is romantic.

I bet there is a sail & date thing in Daytona or at least charter sailboats. Charter a sail boat for a couple of hours, set up a nice picnic - food, wine.. watch the sunset. Let your imagination go wild. Most women enjoy doing something new and her being a dancer I'm sure she's very outgoing.

If you like doing an outdoor hobby like fishing, hiking, scuba, etc.. that would be cool too because you're in your natural environment. The key is being confident with your surroundings. When you're relaxed and confident everything else is easy. Keep the conversation light yet manage it, don't talk about heavy stuff like politics or deep religious philosophies.

 

Does she like motorboats?

 

 

Do an easy activity that can give you something to talk about if you need it to help you find topics to discuss (your surroundings), or that won't be a distraction if things are going well.... A walk on the beach with ice cream, going to the zoo, rollerblading someplace that won't be too busy, an easy bicycle ride, a local fair, a museum (if you're both interested in that kinda thing), an easy hike, etc. It really all depends on both your interests. Find something you'll both enjoy that'll give you a good opportunity to chat.

 

Dont go fancy on the first "date" dinner. I actually thought the Putt-Putt or bowling idea wasnt too bad. Gets a little competitive spirit out and you can talk a little smack with her . Beach is okay. Kinda hard to plan something when all we know is that she likes to dance (and I wouldnt do that on a first date either since she does that all the time).

 

 

Thanks for some of the ideas and advice, and Will, I don't think a dance studio keeps those types of photos on their site...And whiskers, I said no !!

 

^ This is the ticket. Do something where you can people watch and chat about what's going on in your surroundings. It's all about the small talk on the first date and with a variety of things going on around you guys there should be plenty to chat about. The most important thing IMO on the 1st date is to see how easy going she is to things. When my wife and I went on our 1st date the first thing I loved about her is she ordered a beer instead of some foofy vodka drink that all the other girls I went on a date with ordered. We made small talk about the people sitting around us at dinner which led to some more in depth conversations. Good luck!

 

Good Idea on that sail and date! I'll call up a company that does that and see if I can charter a boat for around 2-3 hours for a nice picnic. After that we can probably grab some icecream and walk on the beach! The hell with the restaurant!

The middle of the ocean is pretty nice and isolated, just me, her and the boat captain... and whiskers, I can already see the joking coming from this.

 

The where is the biggy IMO...the what you do shouldn't matter as the focus should really be on getting to know each other better, making her laugh, be charming etc.

Also, in my experience...leave s*x and anything physical out of your mind totally. If it's something you'd like to progress into a relationship I think your best bet is to focus on sharing some of you but very important is making her feel you are interested in who she is too. Listen. The panties will follow. Bottom line, I've always left the physical pace up to the girl to make it obvious that she wants to go there. No worse feeling than going too fast PLUS, it's GONNA happen so why push it?

Just my 2 cents...

 

Cmon.. Its Florida right.. and Central Florida at that -

You could:

http://disneyworld.disney.go.com/des...eating-prices/


http://disneyworld.disney.go.com/dining/house-of-blues/

Downtown disney is a nice place to walk through and chat .. shop .. get to know each other .. take the boat from one side to another and later you can brag on how you took her for a cruise on your first date :P

Pick her up on a Sunday and do a House of blues Sunday Gospel Brunch.


Take her to Daytona Beach and rent bikes .. stop at a shop or two http://www.daytonabeach.com/whattose...ode/bikerental
or freak her out and take her on a helicopter ride along the coast HA!

Could do St.Augustine.. museums .. tours or something of the sort. Good place to get out and chat. http://www.oldcity.com/


There's http://moas.org/things_to_see.html right in your back yard ..


And of course you could test her skillz http://www.drivepetty.com/home.aspx lol j/k .. would be fun though eh ..hehehe

There are many things you could do .. pretty much up to you how you want to take it. From what you said .. she challenged you to come up with something different.

Have fun

 

take her to the beach so she can set those puppies free

 

Three words: Pogo Stick Rental.

 

is there any video of her jumping arou... er... dancing?

 

His Pogo stick.

 

thats hot....

 

 

I like JZDX's ideas. Daytona Beach and rent bikes or visit a museum. Hiking is another option, but Florida in late May = sweaty ass and shower before dinner.

 

Nothing better than taking out bikini clad betties out on the boat for waterskiing. K-bay sandbar FTW!

 

Me- I'd go to the beach in the late afternoon and walk/talk/ get to know one another, then take her to a nice but not crazy fancy dinner somwhere near by,

then afterwards go to a quite bar for a few drinks ( DO NOT GET DRUNK), and then just see where that leads

....Keep it simple, yet clever. Do not do the ice skating, go kart, mini golf thats really HS IMO, but thats up to you. Don't try to sweep her off her feet ,or be over eager to impress, Just be your self and have fun. If she can't accept you for who you are, then shes not worth dating again.

 

wow those are big knockers

 

If you strike out, can I have her number?

 

 

Those are some great ideas, but the issue is drive time, I was going to take her to Texas De Brazil in orlando for some dinner but it's a 1.5 hour drive there and nearly 2 to disney so it would be kinda awkward to have nearly 4 hrs of random conversations. I might use those for a second date, but we have to wait to see how the first goes! As far as bikes, she hates bikes because a friend of her's was killed on a bike a while back so I doubt renting one would end well...

You are right, she probably did do that to see what I could come up with and boy am I stumped!

This was one of my ideas too, walk on the beach, grab some ice-cream and see where it leads to. (I don't drink by the way). I asked her friend if she can ice skate and she replied that she is pretty good at that to, so she's the hockey player and I'm the ass that'll slip and fall... I'll make for some good laughs though.

I'm not trying to over impress her or be a total douche either to her. If I was going to do that I'd just borrow a friends Audi R8 or F430 and go to get her. I'm just trying to be me, I like nice things and like to indulge my self with some of life's luxuries to an extent, but still keep it nice and down to earth most of the time too!


In all seriousness, I was thinking about that boating idea and was wondering if I did that, would it be awkward by having the captain on board or do they usually stay to themselves and not interrupt? also for lunch would a picnic basket with stuff to make sandwiches be good or have some pre-made sandwiches?


So as of now, the ideas currently on the table are the boating idea (wait to get back to land after the middle of the sunset, then walk on the beach with ice cream afterwards OR picking her up, going to some sort of activity like Ice-Skating, etc and then go to dinner at some seafood place (she loves seafood) and then see how it goes from there...

I just reread my post and boy does it seem like I have an excuse for everything, maybe I am really overthinking things...