Racer5M3

I asked her out on a purely social level. Hooking up was not priority #1 for me. Hell, she accepted my invitation to go out. If she felt like I was looking to hook up with her, I don't think that she would have gone out with me in the first place.

geminisdc

BS. why are you making such a big deal out of it then .

matelot

dang lol ! dude is soooo obsessed with "civility", "courtesy"
:surrender

Racer5M3

This whole episode with this girl has just made me wonder about reciprocity in relationships. Regardless of nature of the relationship (i.e. romance, friendship), it seems as if people have difficulty reciprocating. I've found that I "put in more than what I get out". Again, alluding to what went down with this girl, I found that I had to initiate EVERYTHING. I always contacted her, and brought up the possibility of going out. At a certain point, I wondered: Does she actually want to hang out with me? Is she just as interested than I am?

If I find myself putting a significant amount of energy into a relationship, and not "getting enough out", it makes me think that the person and I are not on the same wavelength. I guess I just got frustrated, and a little pissed off (which would explain why I asked for the CDs back). In response to a previous post, I don't really understand the rudeness of asking a girl out who already has a boyfriend. If she felt that I had "ulterior motives", we wouldn't have gone out multiple times.

So, is it really up to the guy to orchestrate EVERYTHING?

PsychoInDenial

Sounds like you just over extended yourself or you're not reading inbetween the lines on whether or not she was really interested in hanging out with you. Maybe you came on too strong from her perspective and that's why she started ignoring you.

Rock2534

hooking up with an alien HAS to be permitted.

ericajackhannahjamie?

^ my thoughts exactly.
TypeSgearhead...when a woman is in love with her boyfriend or simiply when the relationship isn't on the edge. We usually aren't that interested in other guys... perhaps you may argue you just want to hang out with her as a friend, but she may feel you're giving her hints on pursuing her. I believe somewhere along the line she gave you indirect hints on " I'm not interested in you". Again, some women may feel it's rude to directly reject you, its within some culture. She's not an American, so her way of dealing with things are different, maybe it's cultural, or maybe it's just plan individual.

Racer5M3

But here's the thing: we had gone out a few times. I think that if she felt that I had "ulterior motives", we only would have gone out once, or not at all. Everytime I had proposed going out, she accepted. Hell, I'm willing to bet that if I ask her out again, she would probably say yes. What should I put on for the wager?