I was at sams club with my roomate scoping out the good deals before the turkey rush.

I walked past this girl who was kinda gothic looking (chin length dark hair, dark sweater, dark nylons, slim build, long legs). She looked pretty cute so I smiled as I walked past, she smiled back. She was 1-2 inches taller than me but not towering over me (I'm 5 10-11)

As I went back to the front of the store where you pay I saw her again and she looked over at me... I for some odd reason looked away (avoiding eye contact). I looked back a second later and she was looking away. I then noticed she was with her family (dad and brother I assume)
I left the store with my roomate and have been kicking myself in the ass all day thinking, "I should have talked to her..."


I AM NOT SOMEONE TO REGRET ANYTHING I HAVE EVER DONE/NOT DONE IN MY LIFE (but this seems to be one thing I am regretting)

BTW: I am not even into goth or punk or any of those trends but this girl looked as normal as they get (except for the clothes)



Can anybody help me?? WTF is my problem?? I'm sure I will never see this girl again in my life but I would rather settle this in my own head, I sure as hell don't want this kind of deal to ever happen again....


Has anybody ever felt a connection or attraction but pussed out (for lack of a better word)????

 

Happened to me at a block party a few years back....HOT Japanese dude walks past me...we make eye contact and I am thinking...okay I need to go and talk to this dude...at least get a #. I finally get the courage to go and talk to him, but the moment as passed and he was lost in the masses of people.... To be honest, never saw another person that made me feel that way just by LOOKING at them ever again...

You just have to come to terms with the fact that it is what it is...a missed opportunity if nothing else. Who knows what would have happened, but its best not to dwell on it. I am a firm believer in everything happening for a reason...who knows, the dude might have been a serial killer. I guess the bottom line is that you are either going to go crazy looking for her, or just get on with your life. I suggest the latter. Good luck man

 

Cool advice... thanks for the response. It totally helped me out SIGH...

Glad to know someone has experienced the same thing. I will probably not dwell on it for long (maybe a day or two) but this is the first time in my life that I have actually regretted doing/not doing something...

So far I have lived my live on the premise of, "NO REGRETS" (and has worked great thus far) , and this is a major blow for me.... I guess I will just have to sleep it off and hope that the next opportunity I WILL NOT BE SUCH A CHICKEN SHIT FOOL

I am a firm believer in fate also (I could die typing this right now )

but, how should I have approached it differently??

I remember Katie having a similar thread a bit ago... too bad she doen't come into this area often, I'm sure she could ofter some insight also.

 

anytime homie ...you are only human...there are going to be times in your life when you have justifiable regret. You aren't going to seize EVERY single opportunity that comes your way unexpectedly...sad fact of life . Just remember this experience, and the next time someone else gives you an inexplicably good feeling...its a big red flag to get her # or do whatever you dudes do hehe. Nothing was wrong with the approach, just the reaction time ...so as my people say Gambatte ne! *keep your chin up*

 

hey....ya maybe i should frequent this section more often. I did have a situation similiar to this, the M3 guy at the gas station, which i actually still think about when i see a M3...I'm not as regretful as i was before, but a little piece of me still wishes i would have at least smiled or nodded....something instead of just looking blankly at him. It isnt always easy to approach perfect strangers.
Actually, you will be happy to know that this happened again..recently, i went to play pool w/ a bunch of people from work, we were paying before we left and there was a dude at the bar w/ his friends, totally cute, dimples and all....we made eye contact like 4 or 5 times w/in 5 minutes, i just couldnt look away...but then me and my friends left. He didnt say anything and i didnt say anything.

I am like you, a firm believer in fate and what's meant to be will happen, BUT that doesnt mean that it makes it any easier to accept things that go wrong, especially if they seem so right. You have to live your life any way you choose, if that means being too shy to talk to girls, it's okay, because one day you will get over it.

Maybe you need situations like this to prepare you, so incase the next time it happens you will be more willing to approach the girl...trust me you will get sick of just letting the moments pass, as will I.

Being bold is something that is learned and it takes some time, i know it is very easy to be hard on yourself in moments like these, but you have to remember you did what you were comfortable doing...don't force yourself to do anything you arent ready for.

 

So what would you have said to her, considering she was with her family?
"So... been a member of Sam's long?" or "Don't you just love the savings here?"

I don't know... Sam's doesn't seem like the best place to hook up.

 

more times than I'd like to admit.

 

i had a hot asian girl stop me in my car and ask about my suspension once, I was so dumbfounded, I let her get away without ever getting her number.

luckily I ran into her about a week later, but I didn't let her get away the second time around. It never amounted to anything, but I felt soo much better after getting a second chance to redeem myself.

 

i wouldnt feel bad, she was with her dad.

you know how dad's are about their daughters..

 

Older brothers too...trust me...lots of guys have made me see red when I used to live at home.

 

I remember that tread...

 

its the zeals baby... black guys with zeals own the competition

 

happens everyday for me.. its common fear of rejection and/or embarassment.. its no biggy!

 

The way I see it (and I say it now, and would have never ever, ever for the life of me had said it before :o) you should go ahead and dive in. More than likely you'll probably never ever see this person again, so there's nothing to be sorry and fester about should you get rejected (which still sucks, but what the hell).

The only thing you'll truly be sorry about (and this goes along way) is if you don't say anything.

We've all made the mistake (some of us more so than others ) but just as long it's not a recurring pattern it's all good.

 

you shoulda flashed some benjamins

 

i was at this club... like 3am... this chick is dancing all up on me... but i lost interest cuz i was tired and drunk...

20 min later she was in a back corner giving head to some dood!!!


damn. i blew it

 

so you both blew it? umm...kinky..

heheh

 

i have absolutely no sense of humor. :o

 

must be b/c u drive a nissan






















:P

 

wow that's pretty original. how do you come up with this material?

 

didnt read the whole thread and dont know if anyone posted this, but

who cares if she is goth, its only cloths and when they come off, shes a girl with boobs and a pussy

 

easy there bro, its just a joke...no need to get all uptight

 

trying to figure out where i got uptight...you bust on me, joking, i bust on you, joking, now i'm uptight? maybe i need to bone up on the strategic use of smilees.

 

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my humble apologies bro, didnt realize u meant that sarcastically