no one will ever understand women... its just impossible... hang in there buddy. the decision will ultimately come down to her, since she was the one to break it off. only she can say when or if you guys get back together. keep your head up, and keep doing what youve been doin'... i got faith it'll work out for the best

 

Yep, I'm exactly the same way. You're probably thinking about things you could have asked, or said differently. Now that I'm married, I don't do it with breakups anymore, but I'm still seriously over-analytical about my work and the relationships there. Breakups (especially the unsure ones like yours) are the worst for people like us.

 

for those whose been supported and kepted up with this thread, i've come up with some conclusions on my part. i am still going be positive and working on making the relationship work, but only to a certain extent. i don't think i will able to deal with these confusing feeling for that much longer since its really effecting my daily activities. i go through times of happiness then later time of frustrations. this cycle is killing me.

basicly i'm giving her 2 more months of my life to make up her mind. i don't want an exact answer, just for her to hope that there is a chance. i'm tired of this little game and understand that i've hurt her in the past. i'm making every single effort to make it right and alittle sign of graditude would be nice on her part.

maybe i deserve this since i was an ass before, but knowone should live there life on edge all the time. all this would be kept to myself of course cause giving her an ultimatum would just complicate things even more. atleast doing this for me would really help my timeline as time is really valuable.

it might be easier to understand with some pictures, so here they are.

volunteering @ the oregon coast. me trying to be a superhero of course.

my baby that i'm having issues with. camera phone quality sucks, sorry.

two ex-girls that keeps calling. can you believe they are best friends.

now i know some of are saying, "why don't you get back with your ex's". well the answers is simple, i'm just not attracted to them anymore. i think my baby beautiful inside and out and that's something i never had with the ex's.

well thanks for reading, as i love this section of the forum. it feels so much better know people actually do care and are will to give there 2 cent.

 

if you really want this girl, keep at her. Women like guys that keep at it and will give in. Don't give in. How many time have I heard a woman say she gave in cause the guy was persistant.

just my 2 cents.

 

good for you bro!.. just dont tell her bout the 2 months thing... after 2 months just start fading away slowly... dont call her... no matter how much you may want to, just dont... she will call you. << this i know from experience. shell see that u are starting to "lose"interest and will start contacting you more and more (oh yea, remember that attitude of urs, keep it under control at this point). after that happens, she'll start opening up more and more telling you all her problems... and from there, youll start controlling the direction of this relationship (hopefully)

 

Hey - long time lurker over in the TL section of the forums since buying mine in March this year - i stumbled onto this section of the forum this morning (taking a break from work) and this thread has prompted my first post because I can relate to the situation.

Just my but if this is the girl you know you want don't waste time not trying to get her back. It's been two weeks now, enough time for both of you to collect your thoughts and think about what you want - Time heals all wounds - however it seems that she is really on the fence about getting back together with you, it's now up to you to sway her to fall on your side rather than sitting back and hoping she'll come around.

Do something to show that you care about her and show some effort (could be all she really wants to see - you'd be surprised how much something little means) Send her flowers! (RIGHT NOW - to her work place is good) - ask her to clear the weekend for you - thats when you really have to go all out, it'll cost you some coin and hopefully it'll be worth it. Put an nice printed invitation in her mailbox at home (not an evite!) for a date with you on Sat., include a gift cirtificate for a manicure/pedicure and make her an appointment for Sat morning/afternoon (if you really want to go all out do a day at the spa) - take her to a nice restaurant in your area and then go out dancing - but not some sweaty club, do something different that'll be fun for her (ex. find a place that does salsa dancing or something like that, they'll do hour lessons beforehand and it won't be a crouded college club atmosphere, you might feel stupid but they'll be no one around you know anyway and remember this is for her) enjoy the night and after tell her how you feel and that you don't want an answer from her right now but you wanted to let her know that you want to be with her. On sunday go do something relaxing/stupid/fun together (go to park/beach/ice cream) cook her dinner Sunday night (bring wine) and rent a movie to watch after (date move, something she'll like) - all goes well she'll remember why you were together in the first place - all this of course assumes she's this type of girl. This isn't some kind of tried and tested plan just something off the top of my head that might help you out. Good luck man - I'm pulling for ya

 

 

dude ditch her and have a 3some with the 2 blonds

 

you read my mind. i have sometime plan for the weekend, and was going to do all the things you mention. things are getting better everyday, so hopefully it'll all workout in the end.

 

i understand your thoughts, just not ready to ditch something special yet. i'll let you know if it goes that way though.

 

I wish you good fortune, man. I hope it all works out for the best for both of you.

As for me - I'm loving my new GF! She's.... well.... I'm speechless....

 

3some with blonds, she can't be that special

 

here's another update.

I'M CALLING IT QUITS! tired of being stringed around without any progress. no fighting in 3 weeks and she treats me like i'm a stranger sometimes. how can people change there feelings and behaviors so quickly? she is not the same person i fell in love with anymore. i can now sleep better at night knowing that i made an effort.

 

damn.... thought it would have worked out.... i know what you mean bout someone changing their feelings so fast... its amazing, the capablities of some people... and to me, i think that, that is the part that hurts the most. sorry to hear homie.... i too am going thru some crap in my own relationship... im actually thinking bout leaving her cause she doesnt seem to be very appreciative of the things i do for her.

good luck in the future! only time will mend (or attempt to mend) a broken heart! stay up bro!

 

thanks mang, it was a hard decision. i just came to the conclusion that she is not willing to forgive and all i really want is to hear her say "this might workout". instead she says "i don't know if i can ever give my heart back to you" as if she wants me to move on. seems like there is nothing i can do to make her feel better. today sucks!

 

on today sucks...

 

You made the right decision. She was tooling you around..either for her benefit or to protect your feelings.

 

blonds....go for it