BIGG problem... got a girl pregnant
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BIGG problem... got a girl pregnant
hey fellas (and ladies)... i've been pretty stressed these past few days. I've been dating this girl i met at school for the past few months.. she was a virgin the first time we had sex and we've been doin it pretty hardcore for the past few weeks she was not taking BC but i've been careful to keep my tool wrapped just in case... well. the other day we got into a big fight over something stupid and we didnt talk for a few days... i call her a couple days later and try to talk it over but she still acted like a psycho and so i said that we should take a break for awhile. then she drops the bomb and tells me she missed her period and that she took a pregnancy test and that she was pregnant immediately i thought she was pulling a fast one on me due to the timing of her telling me... well i took her to a ob/gyn the other day and its confirmed that shes pregnant... im not sure what to do.. we're not fighting anymore and the situation is a lot calmer... there's no way i can have a kid now, likewise with her, but she has issues with abortion and i can use some advice.. thanks
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First of all make sure its yours, second talk to her about the reasons why you can't have the child at this point in time. IMO people should not have children unless they are ready for them. Sucks that you fell into that 2% or whatever it is chance of getting pregnant while using a condom, but what can you do? Good luck and keep us updated
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Originally Posted by rezurex
thats what i would like to know
i've been told it happens by the ob/gyn...
i've been told it happens by the ob/gyn...
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
^^isn't there always a SMALLLLLLL chance though? He could have just been unlucky, but in any case make sure you get a paternity test done.
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im pretty damn sure she didn't sleep around... i highly doubt that she slept with someone else... i know i know some of you will say that im am being naive but she isnt that type of girl... but if need be i will do a paternity test.
haha no i didnt poke holes into the rubber... i thikn geisha is right that there is a chance that the condom fails... sometimes though i shoot onto her body maybe somehow they swam all the way south? christ i have no idea what im gonna do... our parents are gonna flip out if they find out. her family is catholic... and my family is just plain strict as hell. im afraid the M word might come out of someone's mouth from all this drama...
haha no i didnt poke holes into the rubber... i thikn geisha is right that there is a chance that the condom fails... sometimes though i shoot onto her body maybe somehow they swam all the way south? christ i have no idea what im gonna do... our parents are gonna flip out if they find out. her family is catholic... and my family is just plain strict as hell. im afraid the M word might come out of someone's mouth from all this drama...
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oh yea i didnt emphasize it.. but im not ready for marriage either. nothing on the girl, shes a great person and i can see myself being with her as a husband but its waaay too early for me to even consider marriage... i got medschool and all that ahead of me, plus we're young only once, you know?
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
First of all make sure its yours, second talk to her about the reasons why you can't have the child at this point in time.
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Originally Posted by rezurex
im pretty damn sure she didn't sleep around... i highly doubt that she slept with someone else... i know i know some of you will say that im am being naive but she isnt that type of girl...
If she did it with you, she could do it with someone else.
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Originally Posted by ciloh@euqroT
contradictory statement. How can you make sure its yours before the baby is born, while at the same time talking the would be mom into abortion?
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
Dna testing can be done before birth with amniocentesis right that was my understanding...so I didn't think I was making a contradictory statement
ok, I got own3d.
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Originally Posted by Red-CL
Dude, there no such thing as not that type of girl.
If she did it with you, she could do it with someone else.
If she did it with you, she could do it with someone else.
parents always told me that
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But i feel you bro...same shit happened to me...except i didnt use a condom...i was too into the wild kinky moment and just busted a nut inside praying for the best...Unfortunately, i was unluck...the chick's kinda wierd...wont let me wear my raincoat cuz she thinks i wont feel good....Anyways, in the end, it ended up costing me $408 at planned parenthood to get rid of it...
I was only scared that she would keep it and id be stuck paying child support for 18 years...just convince her to go...whether or not ur sure its yours...better sooner than later because of the complications that may arise when she hits the 2nd trimester....Even if its not urs and she claims it is...just take her word for it and pay the price...literally...because if she has it and u still dont think its yours, you two might end up fighting in court and that shit will def cost u more than a lousy 400 bucks...not to mention the time involved and misery.
good luck to ya...take my advice, ive been there...pm if u need more help bro
I was only scared that she would keep it and id be stuck paying child support for 18 years...just convince her to go...whether or not ur sure its yours...better sooner than later because of the complications that may arise when she hits the 2nd trimester....Even if its not urs and she claims it is...just take her word for it and pay the price...literally...because if she has it and u still dont think its yours, you two might end up fighting in court and that shit will def cost u more than a lousy 400 bucks...not to mention the time involved and misery.
good luck to ya...take my advice, ive been there...pm if u need more help bro
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Originally Posted by Batin Dean
If you were using a condom, how the hell did it happen?
read the package correctly condoms are only 99.8% effective
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Originally Posted by 97Acura3.0CL
read the package correctly condoms are only 99.8% effective
you know what I say? Fuck condoms and FUCK BC. I'm getting my tubes tied. If I'm fertil enough to get someone pregnant while they're on bc from just pre cum then I sure the hell ain't gonna risk it again.
Good luck man. If she is really agaisnt abortioln that much, then tell her putting hte kid up for adoption is a possibliiy. thats' what the girl I got pregnant is gonna do... I hope.. she's a fucking crackhead as I found out too. My first fuck and Gf too... just my luck.
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Originally Posted by ghost_masterCL
Wrong.. as I found out from some place wehre I just go ttested, they are only %80 effective agains STD's AND pregnancy when used alone. the 99.8% is when it is used in conjustion with BC. I got a gril pregnant, but Iw asn't wearing a condom, and it was only from precum, so don't believe that pulling out works.. goddamit. ANywyas, she lied to me and said she got an abort, then a couple weeks ago I found out that she didn't and now she's gon have the kid because she's already had an abortion already and doesn't want to do it again.
you know what I say? Fuck condoms and FUCK BC. I'm getting my tubes tied. If I'm fertil enough to get someone pregnant while they're on bc from just pre cum then I sure the hell ain't gonna risk it again.
Good luck man. If she is really agaisnt abortioln that much, then tell her putting hte kid up for adoption is a possibliiy. thats' what the girl I got pregnant is gonna do... I hope.. she's a fucking crackhead as I found out too. My first fuck and Gf too... just my luck.
you know what I say? Fuck condoms and FUCK BC. I'm getting my tubes tied. If I'm fertil enough to get someone pregnant while they're on bc from just pre cum then I sure the hell ain't gonna risk it again.
Good luck man. If she is really agaisnt abortioln that much, then tell her putting hte kid up for adoption is a possibliiy. thats' what the girl I got pregnant is gonna do... I hope.. she's a fucking crackhead as I found out too. My first fuck and Gf too... just my luck.
Can you say, "Ross and Rachel?"
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Originally Posted by einsatz
Isn't abortion legal all in all states?
I think that there are a lot of states that abortion is illegal in. Every now and then you hear on the news that some dumbass went to one of those mom and pop shop abortion places because it wasn't legal in their state. That usually results in a poor job, infection, and death . If it isn't legal in your state it would probably be a good idea to split the cost of going to a state in which the procedure is legal. If its early enough she can just take that pill. This is of course if abortion is the way you two decide to go. Good luck mangg.
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whatever you do, do not marry her for the child. that is the worst thing for everyone, including the child (you would end up hating her, everyone would hate the child, and you would end up divorced anyway). its up to her if she wants the child or not. no matter what she decides, just be supportive (and don't say the "i love you" phrase). you may want to contact a lawyer to find out the child support laws for your state. paying child support will be much better for you rather than marrying her (since you earlier stated you are not looking to marry her anyway).
with just child support, you can still finish school, get into a good career, and still spend time and support the child.
with just child support, you can still finish school, get into a good career, and still spend time and support the child.
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Originally Posted by ciloh@euqroT
ok, I got own3d.
well i think her point is valid. he needs to make sure it is his child, before he pressures her into having an abortion or giving it up for adoption dont you think?
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oh and if shes determined to keep it, you have three choices.
1) be a supportive father and be an active part of the childs life
2) pay child support out your ass for the next 18 years
3) dissapear and change your name.
1) be a supportive father and be an active part of the childs life
2) pay child support out your ass for the next 18 years
3) dissapear and change your name.
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Originally Posted by ghost_masterCL
I got a gril pregnant, but Iw asn't wearing a condom, and it was only from precum, so don't believe that pulling out works.. I'm getting my tubes tied. .
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Originally Posted by rezurex
im pretty damn sure she didn't sleep around... i highly doubt that she slept with someone else... i know i know some of you will say that im am being naive but she isnt that type of girl... but if need be i will do a paternity test.
haha no i didnt poke holes into the rubber... i thikn geisha is right that there is a chance that the condom fails... sometimes though i shoot onto her body maybe somehow they swam all the way south? christ i have no idea what im gonna do... our parents are gonna flip out if they find out. her family is catholic... and my family is just plain strict as hell. im afraid the M word might come out of someone's mouth from all this drama...
haha no i didnt poke holes into the rubber... i thikn geisha is right that there is a chance that the condom fails... sometimes though i shoot onto her body maybe somehow they swam all the way south? christ i have no idea what im gonna do... our parents are gonna flip out if they find out. her family is catholic... and my family is just plain strict as hell. im afraid the M word might come out of someone's mouth from all this drama...
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Plenty of homeless people to push her down the subway stairs for 5$, maybe 10$ with inflation.
You do have choices:
Abortion - quick and dirty way
Have the kid - up to 23yrs of child support (college education is part of having a child)
Stairs or amusement rides - not good, but it works
You two should probably talk and see what the best solution will be, considering you're both in school and need to finish.
You do have choices:
Abortion - quick and dirty way
Have the kid - up to 23yrs of child support (college education is part of having a child)
Stairs or amusement rides - not good, but it works
You two should probably talk and see what the best solution will be, considering you're both in school and need to finish.
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ABORT..you are both WAY to young.
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Originally Posted by ABreece
Take her to six flags or cedar point and have her ride one of those "power tower" rides 6 or 7 times. No more baby problems