Just venting my own frustrations....

So the other night i was slightly belligerant towards my female interest and we had one of those stupid drunken arguments and i ended up leaving. But i came back with improved behavior and she noticed it and the night ended well. (Not great, just calm and cool). So i figured it was ok.

But yesterday i talked to her and she wasn't very responsive so i asked if i was in the doghouse, and she's like "ya, pretty much." (I guess i deserve it).

So i tell her thats not me, i know its been happening for a week or so but it won't anymore, etc. She says "it's over, don't worry about it, i dont care, but then goes on to say im not telling you what to do but i don't like being around it, it's annoying, etc."

I know i need to chill out with the drinking for a bit i guess so i dont need advice about that, but what should i do with her? I was foolish enough to ask when can i come out of the doghouse lol, and she says "i dunno, we'll see. i dont care (yet again) but you act like a 2 yr old sometimes." Should I just wait for her to cool off and initiate converstion with me all together, or would it be ok to wait a few days then give her a call? I do know i shouldn't bring the situation up at all, period.

I guess Im mostly afraid that she's not gonna give me a another chance to prove that i can act normal, i.e. i dont want her to think twice when deciding if she wants to see me on a particular night....i know actions speak louder than words and all, so I'm guessing there's nothing more i can say, and i just have to let time run its course and wait for her to come around, right??

I guess overall its not a big deal, and will blow over soon enough....but i just hate myself sometimes for fukin things up (even if its just temporary) like this. I'm sure a number of you have been in the doghouse for whatever reason, what have you all done to fix it?

/venting

 

yeep

 

 

 

My advice would be to chug a 1/2 bottle of tequila and while she is sleeping puke on her...it will definately make her forget about the other night

 

Sounds like the first 2 years of my relationship.

 

Just do this...



It works, trust me.

 

Make her dinner/take her out to a nice resturant, clean the kitchen & bedroom, give her a massage. Stuff like that should make it better.

 

Well normally I would do stuff like that, but she doesn't want any of that emotional "relationship" type stuff (which is why we split up before and ended up not talking for 3 weeks). I managed to change my game up and showed i wasn't gonna be the lovey-dovey type and she came back...she just wants to hang out and have fun, without gettin caught up in emotional stuff (and frankly i share her viewpoint) i.e. i dont want to scare her off like i did before with that kind of stuff.

But yes, if she was my "girlfriend" I would do stuff like that in a second. I guess it's different b/c she's just a "friend" that i happen to talk to a lot (usually) and hook up with.

 

Sounds to me like you two need to make your relationship an official "friends with benefits" situation.

 

ya u fucked up.... u got and belligerant ... and this is what happens... girls dont like drunken idiots

 

Ah yep....im just gonna go ahead an play the waiting game and odds are she'll get over it and give me a holla....but man i hate waiting