B**** Slapped
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B**** Slapped
My co-worker just came up to me to tell me a story about a different co-worker of ours. Our co-worker gets beat up by his wife, and is getting sick of it. He tells him that he is working out now to lose the fat, so when wifey gets tough with him he can battle back. This guy is so pathetic he had his 70 yr old mother talk to his wife about the hitting..
Imagine that phone call " Mom can you help me my wife is beating me up"
Imagine that phone call " Mom can you help me my wife is beating me up"
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Yup - he should leave and get a restraining order. The last thing he should do is fight back, as it will escalate, and she will probably illustrate herself as the victim when it reaches the stage of ER's and cops. We joke about it, but female abuse of husbands is actually a rather common phenominum, and one that has precisely the same codependent dynamics as the reverse, except that we joke about "powerful" men being victimized by "weaker" women.
Some excerpts from a rather lengthy article:
http://www.dadsnow.org/essay/ROSSLER.HTM
The serious examination of violence in the family began in the mid 70's with studies by Straus, Gelles and Steinmetz that challenged many of our preconceived notions of violent men. Also challenged was the stereotype, the anathema of feminists, of the "little women," docile and passive compared to her husband. Whereas these original researchers suspected violence was a major problem in American families, consistent with our violent society, surprising was its high incidence: at least one act of violence occurred in 16% of families in the last year and 28% since the beginning of the marriages ("Societal Change and Change in Family Violence from 1975 to 1985 As Revealed by Two National Studies," Straus and Gelles, Journal of Marriage and Family, 8/86.)
More surprising was the virtual equality of offenses by wives to husbands. They committed 48.5% of all violent occurrences, and 54.8% of all violence termed "severe."
In her 1977-78 Victimology article, "The Battered Husband Syndrome," (p. 501) Steinmetz (U. of Delaware) reveals "The data from the nationally representative sample (Straus et al., 1977) ... found wives slightly higher in almost all categories (of violence) except pushing and shoving."
As to the frequency, the "little women" held additional surprises, "The data suggest that not only the percentage of wives having used physical violence exceeds that of husbands, but that wives also exceed husbands in the frequency with which these acts occur." Of the five studies she cites, only one shows a lower frequency rate for wife to husband abuse. Another feminist myth debunked was the alleged greater aggressive nature of men causing them to resort to violence to dominate women!
"Gathered data plus insights gained from in-depth interviews, suggest that women are as likely to select physical violence to resolve marital conflicts as are men." (Ibid., p. 505)
In another index of spouse abuse, researcher M. McLeod, "Women Against Men," Justice Quarterly, Fall, '84, found that it is often men who sustain the severest attacks, aggravated assaults. Whereas we have found that women are inclined at least as much to initiate violence in the family, women often lack the bodily wherewithal to execute their intentions. Technology overcomes biology in this case; women compensate by using weapons.
"The National Crime Survey data confirm the increased use of deadly weapons against male victims. Of all incidences perpetrated against female victims, 14% involved the presence of guns or knives (McLeod, 1982). Of all incidences perpetrated against male victims, 35% involved the presence of guns or knives. Wolfgang (1958), in his study of homicides in Philadelphia, observed that knives and cutting objects were used four times as often by women as by men." She adds, "Offenses against men are significantly more serious in nature than are offenses against women," (pp. 185,186). She finds that 84% of male victims of domestic violence required medical care (p. 191).
It may be true there are more battered women because of a physical pummeling by men, but indications are there may be more scarred men because of women's weapon of choice in domestic disputes, the knife.
Some excerpts from a rather lengthy article:
http://www.dadsnow.org/essay/ROSSLER.HTM
The serious examination of violence in the family began in the mid 70's with studies by Straus, Gelles and Steinmetz that challenged many of our preconceived notions of violent men. Also challenged was the stereotype, the anathema of feminists, of the "little women," docile and passive compared to her husband. Whereas these original researchers suspected violence was a major problem in American families, consistent with our violent society, surprising was its high incidence: at least one act of violence occurred in 16% of families in the last year and 28% since the beginning of the marriages ("Societal Change and Change in Family Violence from 1975 to 1985 As Revealed by Two National Studies," Straus and Gelles, Journal of Marriage and Family, 8/86.)
More surprising was the virtual equality of offenses by wives to husbands. They committed 48.5% of all violent occurrences, and 54.8% of all violence termed "severe."
In her 1977-78 Victimology article, "The Battered Husband Syndrome," (p. 501) Steinmetz (U. of Delaware) reveals "The data from the nationally representative sample (Straus et al., 1977) ... found wives slightly higher in almost all categories (of violence) except pushing and shoving."
As to the frequency, the "little women" held additional surprises, "The data suggest that not only the percentage of wives having used physical violence exceeds that of husbands, but that wives also exceed husbands in the frequency with which these acts occur." Of the five studies she cites, only one shows a lower frequency rate for wife to husband abuse. Another feminist myth debunked was the alleged greater aggressive nature of men causing them to resort to violence to dominate women!
"Gathered data plus insights gained from in-depth interviews, suggest that women are as likely to select physical violence to resolve marital conflicts as are men." (Ibid., p. 505)
In another index of spouse abuse, researcher M. McLeod, "Women Against Men," Justice Quarterly, Fall, '84, found that it is often men who sustain the severest attacks, aggravated assaults. Whereas we have found that women are inclined at least as much to initiate violence in the family, women often lack the bodily wherewithal to execute their intentions. Technology overcomes biology in this case; women compensate by using weapons.
"The National Crime Survey data confirm the increased use of deadly weapons against male victims. Of all incidences perpetrated against female victims, 14% involved the presence of guns or knives (McLeod, 1982). Of all incidences perpetrated against male victims, 35% involved the presence of guns or knives. Wolfgang (1958), in his study of homicides in Philadelphia, observed that knives and cutting objects were used four times as often by women as by men." She adds, "Offenses against men are significantly more serious in nature than are offenses against women," (pp. 185,186). She finds that 84% of male victims of domestic violence required medical care (p. 191).
It may be true there are more battered women because of a physical pummeling by men, but indications are there may be more scarred men because of women's weapon of choice in domestic disputes, the knife.
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funny post... but @ the same time thats someone elses personal problems.. and bad ones @ that.. why dont you tell him to come on the forum and post it himself.. so we can bitch slap him and tell him to be a man
call the police, get some money or settlement out of this shit
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