Anyone here use tinder?
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When i say real life, I mean real life outside of a computer/phone.
on your daily commute, there are cute girls everywhere.
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From what I saw most women that were 28 did have kids were divorced from their first marriage from when they were in their early 20's with their HS/college sweetheart. I think when they say "real man", it's because the father wasn't stepping up on his fatherly duties. Yeah you'll be a stepdad so if you're not cut for that, don't waste your time.
In today's society most of the women in their late 20's are going to have kids. Usually only the ones that haven't gotten married yet because of school/career are still kidless. They're either taken or too busy to date. Low supply.
In today's society most of the women in their late 20's are going to have kids. Usually only the ones that haven't gotten married yet because of school/career are still kidless. They're either taken or too busy to date. Low supply.
Again like you said, it all boils down to personal taste. Not trying to play like a disappointed/condescending father, or whatever.
I'd probably pick the one with 3 kids because DTF and moms are usually cool AF and have tons of character. Also, kids are expensive and they drain most of any resourceful time you might need to advance your place in life. #protip
I know several women who had kids in HS. Life isn't easy for most 20 somethings, especially with a kid in tow, but it usually gets easier the older and more experienced you get. Those kids are in college now, and those sexy ladies have good jobs that don't require somebody to take care of them, although all of them have found real men to share their life with.
Now if you're talking about a woman who is just looking for a sugar daddy, that's different. I'm sure you wouldn't be a good match anyways.
Also.. a real man knows what it takes to raise a child, and can respect a mother's journey. Whether that's commentary about their ex or not, it's more likely to let those know who are just looking to get their dicks wet to need not apply.
So I know they exist.. btw wanting a woman who has kids because you know she's DTF? dafuq?
thanks for stretching the page, too.
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Honestly I think I'm going in circles with this. My main point from the beginning was that a lot of women who use online dating tend to have expectations that aren't exactly at ground level. Not just women with kids, but women who look like Honey Boo-Boo's mom rejecting guys for being too fat, ugly, etc.
Happens especially on Tinder. It doesn't mirror real life, IMO.
Happens especially on Tinder. It doesn't mirror real life, IMO.
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I'm not sure how it is where you live but in south FL it's very difficult given the average income for a single parent to live alone especially after a fresh divorce/separation. And yes even college educated persons cannot get by on $50k a year which is well over the average. I get what you mean on the bad types of women, but if you go in paranoid and avoid these potential "liabilities", you might miss out on a great chick that is in the process of getting her shit together and would make an ideal partner for anyone. Buy low my man 
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A lot of sound advice in Doom's and Majofo's posts. Personally, I would almost have to pick the woman with kids because I would need someone capable of caring for children to help with mine. (I also can't make a woman a mother anymore.) Being a good parent requires you to be present, and being present for a child requires you to be unselfish. Couple the needs of a child with the needs of a partner, and I can easily see what they mean by "real" man.
Also, I know plenty of guys who can fill those shoes and aren't good looking, so the expectation of a "real man" to help raise children isn't unrealistic in it's own right. I get the part about unrealistic expectations of looks, but being a single mother doesn't have to drag you into a lower league.
Also, I know plenty of guys who can fill those shoes and aren't good looking, so the expectation of a "real man" to help raise children isn't unrealistic in it's own right. I get the part about unrealistic expectations of looks, but being a single mother doesn't have to drag you into a lower league.
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It's all about context. If you have a woman who had a kid, subsequently breaks up with her baby daddy, moves back in with her parents, puts up a PoF account and says "I'm looking for a real man to complete my family." I think it's easy to assume she's looking for some sort of assistance. Maybe I'm biased because I have a couple uncles who are currently married to women who blatantly have no feelings for them and are only married for the "help" they provide, and you don't have to be a "sugar daddy" to do that. So I know they exist..
btw wanting a woman who has kids because you know she's DTF? dafuq? thanks for stretching the page, too.
So I know they exist.. btw wanting a woman who has kids because you know she's DTF? dafuq?
thanks for stretching the page, too.Looking for a sugar daddy.. well.. just say you broke.
Bruh.. sarcasm.. DTF.. milfese if you will.
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My buddy actually kept it in his pants until he was 30. Seriously.. devout Catholic.. wait til marriage deal. He was actually committed to some girl when he was in college, engaged and all.. then she admitted to going down on a bunch of dudes and getting pounded in the club when she went out with her girls.
He broke up with her and stayed true blue.. eventually found another girl years later who he married. They've been happy for quite some time. I tried to give him the game day talk.. he seemed like he was preparing for the game his whole life. Gave me the.. I got it, no worries reply.
Gotta test drive the car man.. good for him, but seriously.
He broke up with her and stayed true blue.. eventually found another girl years later who he married. They've been happy for quite some time. I tried to give him the game day talk.. he seemed like he was preparing for the game his whole life. Gave me the.. I got it, no worries reply.
Gotta test drive the car man.. good for him, but seriously.
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Sooooo risky. Definitely negatively affects the relationship. I love how the girl in college went from clean cut to getting fucking pounded in a club and ate a bag of dicks. If I found the ONE, I don't want to know that shit
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She was too repressed me thinks. Just say no.. always horny.. suck and fuck every dude in the club.
Classic religious school girl complex.
I also have another buddy who didn't live with his gf until they were married. They had problems.. I think he also waited for marriage, whierdh. Anyways they sorted most of their issues out through counseling, but those issues are always there.. like a molten layer of lava waiting to erupt.. much like his balls in college.
Test drive the car.. and make sure the garage is a comfortable place to park your car.. in both senses.
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I like tinder. For me being gay it's hard to meet regular guys out in the world. The club is basically if you're looking for sex, but not really looking to date. It makes the situation a little more difficult. Gay guys also don't really use tinder to hook up at all, because we have another app for that (Grindr). So your matches on the app are somewhat serious about dating.
I'll admit if I was straight I am not sure I would use it as much? However, that's just speculation on my part.
The only thing I don't like is how it's like to my Facebook. I could do without that. It's the only app I've linked to my Facebook.
I'll admit if I was straight I am not sure I would use it as much? However, that's just speculation on my part.
The only thing I don't like is how it's like to my Facebook. I could do without that. It's the only app I've linked to my Facebook.
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I completely forgot I made this thread, and I'm glad I did. Reading it was informative, funny but at the same time made me realize that ramblings is pretty awesome. 
but at the same time made me realize that ramblings is pretty awesome.
I like tinder. For me being gay it's hard to meet regular guys out in the world. The club is basically if you're looking for sex, but not really looking to date. It makes the situation a little more difficult. Gay guys also don't really use tinder to hook up at all, because we have another app for that (Grindr). So your matches on the app are somewhat serious about dating.
I'll admit if I was straight I am not sure I would use it as much? However, that's just speculation on my part.
The only thing I don't like is how it's like to my Facebook. I could do without that. It's the only app I've linked to my Facebook.
I'll admit if I was straight I am not sure I would use it as much? However, that's just speculation on my part.
The only thing I don't like is how it's like to my Facebook. I could do without that. It's the only app I've linked to my Facebook.
he'd be like there goes mr. gary.
I'm like who?
I dont want to know what they did in the stairway hall..
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Yes someone I used to know was the same way. Grew up very shy and reserved. Married the 2nd guy she banged in her early 20's. By mid 30's was cheating on him via Facebook with dudes from the other side of the country and eventually divorced. She now lives in a small apartment with her psycho ex-con boyfriend while her business owner hubby married a nurse practitioner living in a big house.
Yes someone I used to know was the same way. Grew up very shy and reserved. Married the 2nd guy she banged in her early 20's. By mid 30's was cheating on him via Facebook with dudes from the other side of the country and eventually divorced. She now lives in a small apartment with her psycho ex-con boyfriend while her business owner hubby married a nurse practitioner living in a big house.
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Yes someone I used to know was the same way. Grew up very shy and reserved. Married the 2nd guy she banged in her early 20's. By mid 30's was cheating on him via Facebook with dudes from the other side of the country and eventually divorced. She now lives in a small apartment with her psycho ex-con boyfriend while her business owner hubby married a nurse practitioner living in a big house.
Yes someone I used to know was the same way. Grew up very shy and reserved. Married the 2nd guy she banged in her early 20's. By mid 30's was cheating on him via Facebook with dudes from the other side of the country and eventually divorced. She now lives in a small apartment with her psycho ex-con boyfriend while her business owner hubby married a nurse practitioner living in a big house.
You also get a lot of "straight" dudes, and it's just like...........