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Old Sep 9, 2015 | 10:34 PM
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Anyone here use tinder?

Just asking out of curiosity! Did you guys/gals pay for it or the free app?
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 03:14 AM
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Haven't used it myself, but I know plenty of people that do. It's really a crap shoot; sometimes you get success, sometimes you get some hog of a woman telling you you're ugly or too short.

Basically it's just another dating app/program where the woman really has too many options (therefore has all the choosing power). She'll get a bunch of pathetic, desperate guys who try to match with every single woman they come across, so it's really a game of chance. If you're lucky, she'll see you as a genuine person and want the D.

Another thing is that since the app has been around so long, you get some spambots and whatnot... But overall the impression I've gotten from others who have used it, is that it's mostly full of bottom-of-the-barrel women with inflated egos. Also have heard a few times that a good amount of women on there flake. No big deal, just flake back at them Again, you can get success, but it's really a crap shoot. Just be prepared to get a lot less matches than you rightfully should.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 06:13 AM
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I dont think my wife would approve.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 06:21 AM
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real life works better.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 09:09 AM
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I know alot of people using tinder, but never to "find the one". I don't think it's a dating app, more of a "lets meet up and fuck" kind of app. Well at least that's what everyone i know who's using it keeps telling me.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 01:19 PM
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My friend was on it for a while, he met up with a few girls, but definitely no wifey material on there.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 01:27 PM
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<p>it's mostly bots.</p><p>and if you're paying for a dating service, like tinder or ashley madison, you deserve to get your money taken from you</p>
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 01:38 PM
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Personally, I prefer Ashley Madison, myself.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 01:39 PM
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I have a good looking friend who uses tinder for hook ups. I don't think she's ever had issues with it, but, it must be different being a chick on there as opposed to a dude.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 01:52 PM
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<p>guy to women ratio is like 50000:1</p>
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 01:55 PM
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Yup, but that one girl has plenty of meat to choose from. Good for them. Bad for guys.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 01:58 PM
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<p>probably not good to be a woman on there either.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&quot;hey baby, i like your tits, lets smash&quot; times this by 50,0000 men that message her</p>
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 02:02 PM
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I dunno, my friend said she likes it. She doesn't frequent it on the daily though- only when looking for da business.

It's not like guys are messaging her from out of province, or even out of city.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 02:04 PM
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<p>good for her.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>inmo, real life works best.</p>
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 02:08 PM
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Agreed, but I can understand why people use stuff like tinder. Some folks just live too hectic of lives, don get out much, are too shy to approach someone, etc.

Plus, tinder lets you cut through all the bullshit. Everyone knows why they're there.

Back in my younger days, the chase was half the fun.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 02:09 PM
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<p>lol ive gotten the opposite.<br />the women that I DID meet on tinder, wanted a relationship.</p>
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 02:11 PM
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Hahaha for fuck sakes. Maybe it's just me, but that would be the last place I'd look for a relationship

Unless I'm relating ma dick to they mouf.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 02:16 PM
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<p>i mean, you wouldnt just meat up with anyone.</p><p>you still have to put in time and work to get these girls to come out of their skin and be comfortable.&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p>
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 05:13 PM
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Originally Posted by justnspace
<p>good for her.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>inmo, real life works best.</p>
This has been my experience as well.

Used Tinder for months. Took quite a few girls out .. some were nice, some were crazy, some were looking for dick, others didn't know what they were doing.

After taking a break from using the app, I met my girlfriend through a mutual friend .. been with her for just about 1 1/2 years now.
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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 05:57 PM
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Anyone here use tinder?

Grindr works better









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Old Sep 10, 2015 | 08:06 PM
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I'm curious how people older than college age who don't care for bar/party scenes go about meeting people with reasonable success rates outside of online options. It seems as though if you lead a "responsible" adult life, your chances of finding many good options are low going about daily business.

Then again, maybe since I don't try to pick up girls, my perception is skewed.
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Old Sep 11, 2015 | 12:44 PM
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Originally Posted by oo7spy
I'm curious how people older than college age who don't care for bar/party scenes go about meeting people with reasonable success rates outside of online options. It seems as though if you lead a "responsible" adult life, your chances of finding many good options are low going about daily business.
I agree 100%. Online dating makes it much easier to find women. Plus you don't have to worry about whether or not they are in a relationship already (well usually).
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Old Sep 11, 2015 | 02:13 PM
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Originally Posted by thoiboi
Grindr works better









Not for this guy:
http://www.buzzfeed.com/patrickstrud...e-w#.peV52eEoZ

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zzzzing! *snaps in z formation*

cliffs:
-Guy in Grindr has HIV, waits until after a match to tell the other guy
-Other guy *GASP* doesn't want to catch the disease
-Guy who is HIV positive gets upset that his disease is something of a death sentence, has overly ghey comeback
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Old Sep 11, 2015 | 02:22 PM
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Originally Posted by oo7spy
I'm curious how people older than college age who don't care for bar/party scenes go about meeting people with reasonable success rates outside of online options. It seems as though if you lead a "responsible" adult life, your chances of finding many good options are low going about daily business.

Then again, maybe since I don't try to pick up girls, my perception is skewed.
You need to step outside your comfort zone and make an effort to meet people. You'll likely fail with 4 out of every 5 girls, but persistence is key. Just because you were shut down 3 times, doesn't mean the next girl won't be a success.

Friends are a good source of meeting good people.

One should NEVER go looking for love at a night club or bar (i'm assuming that's what you meant with regards to "responsible adult life".

Again, one has to step outside their comfort zone. Join clubs, do activities, do whatever. No one is going to come knocking at your front door asking for a date. Grocery stores are a good place, surpringly. Gyms, not so much. Get a dog- Dog parks are also good. Join an art class, wall climbing class, whatever.

While it may become more difficult, the only return on investment someone gets is dependent on the investment one puts in.
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Old Sep 11, 2015 | 02:40 PM
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Originally Posted by TacoBello
You need to step outside your comfort zone and make an effort to meet people. You'll likely fail with 4 out of every 5 girls, but persistence is key. Just because you were shut down 3 times, doesn't mean the next girl won't be a success.

Friends are a good source of meeting good people.

One should NEVER go looking for love at a night club or bar (i'm assuming that's what you meant with regards to "responsible adult life".

Again, one has to step outside their comfort zone. Join clubs, do activities, do whatever. No one is going to come knocking at your front door asking for a date. Grocery stores are a good place, surpringly. Gyms, not so much. Get a dog- Dog parks are also good. Join an art class, wall climbing class, whatever.

While it may become more difficult, the only return on investment someone gets is dependent on the investment one puts in.
FTR, I don't need the advice; I was just posing a question out of curiosity. Similar to the OP's "claims".
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Old Sep 11, 2015 | 02:46 PM
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Originally Posted by oo7spy
FTR, I don't need the advice; I was just posing a question out of curiosity. Similar to the OP's "claims".
I wasn't giving advice, lol. You said you're tied down, but you were wondering.
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Old Sep 11, 2015 | 04:37 PM
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Just making sure because of the second person writing. Also FTR, I'm tied up more often.
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Old Sep 12, 2015 | 07:10 AM
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<p>I'm not a drinker, &nbsp;haven't been out to the bars in like a year... I still think real life is better. &nbsp;</p><p>I do have great &nbsp;success with Google plus, &nbsp;tho. Because you can create rapport with any body through mutual interest, &nbsp;instead of just looks.&nbsp;</p><p>But takestime and work, &nbsp;like any real relationships do&nbsp;</p>
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Old Sep 13, 2015 | 12:31 PM
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Worked great until....the wife found out.

Buddies have great success on there but more so a few years ago.
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Old Sep 15, 2015 | 10:24 AM
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When I was single I had always preferred PoF. Easy to figure them out when there was an actual profile rather than just pics.
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Old Sep 18, 2015 | 12:52 PM
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I know a few friends that met their GF or wife with Tinder


Me? I'm to chicken to met girls. And if I do they're always taken


.... or a stripper/hooker kidding....
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Old Sep 23, 2015 | 11:18 AM
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John Smith is on Grindr
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Old Sep 23, 2015 | 11:30 AM
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Originally Posted by justnspace
<p>it's mostly bots.</p><p>and if you're paying for a dating service, like tinder or ashley madison, you deserve to get your money taken from you</p>
SWEET! I can meet more robots on this?!?!?


Downloading the app NAO.
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Old Sep 23, 2015 | 11:31 AM
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Old Sep 27, 2015 | 06:38 PM
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fwiw I did a search on Plenty of Fish just to see what the climate is. I'm 28, did a search of women in my age range. I'd say 90% of them are single moms "looking for a real man!"

Gets pregnant once or twice by terrible men, needs a real man to pick up the pieces for her. Mmkay.

Point is since women have all the power in online dating sites/apps, their expectations and standards are unrealistically high.
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Old Sep 27, 2015 | 07:34 PM
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Tinder works great and many decent woman on it, at least here in NY.

BTW, Tinder is real life, just like smart phones, match.com, etc.
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Old Sep 27, 2015 | 10:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Rapture
fwiw I did a search on Plenty of Fish just to see what the climate is. I'm 28, did a search of women in my age range. I'd say 90% of them are single moms "looking for a real man!"

Gets pregnant once or twice by terrible men, needs a real man to pick up the pieces for her. Mmkay.

Point is since women have all the power in online dating sites/apps, their expectations and standards are unrealistically high.
Says the guy who is oblivious to the fact that most women his age have kids..
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Old Sep 27, 2015 | 11:00 PM
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But is anyone less of a man for not wanting to deal with all the potential drama and bullshit of having a relationship with a woman who has a kid? and if you had a choice between two identical women except one had 3 kids and the other had 0, which would you honestly pick?

Again, point is these women don't have any realistic expectations as far as their own situation and how it impacts their prospects "looking for a REAL man to help me take care of my kids!"

btw I've actually met plenty of women younger than me (20-22) that already have a kid, barely scraping by.... srsly wtf is going on with that?
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Old Sep 28, 2015 | 08:16 AM
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From what I saw most women that were 28 did have kids were divorced from their first marriage from when they were in their early 20's with their HS/college sweetheart. I think when they say "real man", it's because the father wasn't stepping up on his fatherly duties. Yeah you'll be a stepdad so if you're not cut for that, don't waste your time.

In today's society most of the women in their late 20's are going to have kids. Usually only the ones that haven't gotten married yet because of school/career are still kidless. They're either taken or too busy to date. Low supply.
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Old Sep 28, 2015 | 02:10 PM
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But is anyone less of a man for not wanting to deal with all the potential drama and bullshit of having a relationship with a woman who has a kid? and if you had a choice between two identical women except one had 3 kids and the other had 0, which would you honestly pick?

Again, point is these women don't have any realistic expectations as far as their own situation and how it impacts their prospects "looking for a REAL man to help me take care of my kids!"

btw I've actually met plenty of women younger than me (20-22) that already have a kid, barely scraping by.... srsly wtf is going on with that?


I'd probably pick the one with 3 kids because DTF and moms are usually cool AF and have tons of character. Also, kids are expensive and they drain most of any resourceful time you might need to advance your place in life. #protip

I know several women who had kids in HS. Life isn't easy for most 20 somethings, especially with a kid in tow, but it usually gets easier the older and more experienced you get. Those kids are in college now, and those sexy ladies have good jobs that don't require somebody to take care of them, although all of them have found real men to share their life with.

Now if you're talking about a woman who is just looking for a sugar daddy, that's different. I'm sure you wouldn't be a good match anyways.

Also.. a real man knows what it takes to raise a child, and can respect a mother's journey. Whether that's commentary about their ex or not, it's more likely to let those know who are just looking to get their dicks wet to need not apply.
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