Does it look like i'm whipped or a gimp already because she wants me to get their early like at noon and her party doesn't start until 4pm. She wants me to be their early to help her and her folks with her graduation party at her folks house. This is a graduation party for her masters.

Last week, my friends told me that I was a good sport and a good guy to wake up at 6 am on sunday morning to go to her graduation ceremony at 8am. Her 2 older brothers didn't show up, but I was there with her parents in the audience.

My own folks told me that I'm already whipped or am I just being a supportive bf?

I'm putting my foot down telling her that I don't do everything she asks me to do and luckily I don't pay all the time or even pick her up.

 

WTF you're 29...you cant come and help the parents with setting up a party for an achievement she is probably very proud of because you think that means you are pussy whipped? Hmm

 

Well helping with parties and graduations doesnt mean your whipped bro.. Now doing w.e the fuck she wants and going out of your way always and not thinking about yourself to just please her is being whipped..

Not helping with your gf's party or being late to it isnt cool its called being a douche bag..

 

if your being bitched around with no respect or gratitude, your whipped, if she appreciates what your doing, then your just a good guy.

 

Amen. The things you're describing are things a supportive SO, or even a good friend for that matter, would do.

 

Yeah!! Way to be a man!!



If you're doing it because you genuinely care and want to be there for her, you're doing a great thing. If you're doing it simply because someone asked you to or because you feel you need to (but have no desire to), then I don't see the point.

In all honesty, when you find someone you truly care about and love, these types of things aren't even questioned --- you do them because you want to, not because someone tells you to.

I find it strange that you'd worry about doing these (fairly minor) types of things for your S.O. Wouldn't you want to find someone who would be just as supportive of you and your endeavors? It's not like she's asking the world...she just wants your help, company, support, and love by being there for such an important event.

 

If you have to ask if you are whipped...chances are that you're fucking whipped!

Would you ask us if you are gay? No! Hahahaha! Jus fucking with you playboy...

In answer to your question for her graudation, NO! But you would be an asshole if you DIDN'T do it. It's a proud day for your lady. Help her out and show your support. What, you want a broke and stupid lady? Believe me, that choice is right around the corner, and always available! Besides, don't you know that her man will always have to do shit that her brothers won't? Shit, if my sister called me to do something that I knew her man could do, I would be like where is his ass at? Now if he was being a jerk, like you considered doing, then I would be there for her.

As for you being a sucker or whipped, if the circumstances are identical to this one, no. But if it's shit that she wants you to do, and you are doing something else (this could include just scratching your balls) and you don't want to, and you do it anyway????...Fuck yeah you are! Whenever you are not your own man, and can't stand up to the PUSSY - you are whipped, and probably a bitch!

Don't be a bitch! Be there for your lady, but don't be no pushover, and don't let her disrespect you. Don't disrespect her either, but don't enable her disrespect!

Now stick your fucking chest out, man up...and stack those fucking chairs wimp! Hahahahahahaha....just fucking witcha, just fucking witcha...

 

Even before we got married, my hubby and I always help each other out no matter how hard or trivial it may be. It doesn't really matter to us if other people think he's pussy whipped or I am dick whipped. We think of ourselves as a team so helping each other out is a priority. You shouldn't see helping your love one as a sign of being controlled.

In your case, your gf asked you to help her prepare for the grad party and attend her graduation which happens to start at 8am.... and so, what's the problem with that? She didn't schedule the ceremony, the school did! And why are you bothered that her brothers were not there but you were?! That should have told that you (yes, YOU!) and her parents are the most important people in her life and she wants to share a momentous occasion with you! Would you rather she didn't ask you attend her graduation ceremony?

 

There's nothing wrong with helping your s.o. in the way you described above. You're a good guy for participating in one of the most important events of her life. No need to put your foot down about this....

I went to my wife's graduate school graduation even though we were only dating at the time...felt it was important enough to her to be seen there.

 

No one else has said it, so let me say it-- your folks are wrong. Yes, you're being supportive!

Guys usually don't get whipped until after we get married....

 

thanks all for making me see the other viewpoints of this! oh gosh don't remind me that when i get married in the future i'm going to be whipped.

 

well, waking up that early sunday stunk, but i did it for her and gave her roses after the graduation ceremony ended.

 

I hope you gave her roses AND the dick in the box!!

 

Best way to put it.

 

yep...

 

well thanks, i'm going to her party today. i talked to my own folks and they think that my gf's dad will make me mow the lawn or start grilling. i'm like no way!

 

You parents are crazy. So what if you start grilling, what is better than a grill a some brews on a nice summer day? How long have you been dating? Anything more than a month and you would be a dick not to go to her graduation.

 

if you have to ask....

 

well, i'll find out what happens then. actually been dating her since January 2008.

 

I don't see how you're being a "good sport" by waking up early to go to her graduation. She just finished grad school - you'd be a dick not to go.

 

Your parents sound very resentful of your relationship. Why are they so grumpy about you going to help set up for your GF's party?...Or going to her graduation?.....Do they not like her? You sound more like you're trying to be all macho and save-face among your friends and family more than you seem upset by her actual requests for help and support. Do you feel caught in the middle of something?

 

Hells ya! You're parents should be stoked they raised a decent, considerate son who treats his woman well. WTF? Seriously, getting up early a couple mornings is not the end of the world and I'd personally volunteer to man the bbq grill. IMO that's not work but fun, throwing down a couple brews and firing up some ribeyes.

 

Maybe you should have titled the thread "Am I already a douchebag who doesn't deserve my girlfriend?"

Your questions about the situation sound awfully self-centered.

 

Your parents seem awfully jealous of you spending so much time with her and her parents, rather not with your own parents.

 

RMATIC09 nailed it. It's only "being whipped" if you're answering to her every wish with no gratitude or appreciation.

Also - you're 29 - MAKE YOUR OWN DECISIONS. You're parents aren't dating you gf, YOU are. Man up and tell your parents to pound sand, and go do right by your girl. The biggest mistake people can make in relationships is to live under the shadow of their parents.

Don't buy into this that being there for your gf is being whipped, or doing something nice when it's not in your own best interest is being weak. This is how a good relationship is formed. Don't let your friends or parents tell you different.

 

if you have to ask ....


"Here's your sign."

 

I think you are being a selfish asshole. But what do I know, I have only been HAPPILY married for 11 years.

 

 

If it really bothers you then I would say you are whipped. Just because you seem to be complaining about it.

You've been dating for 6 months. I don't really see an issue with you doing things with her. When you're 20 there are a lot of other things going on. At 29, most of your friends are dating someone, or married and you find yourself with a lot more free time. So spending it with your girl is normal.

 

Imo, you arent whipped until 2 or more friends say you are.

 

 

did you buy the ring yet?

 

She didn't tell him to yet.

 

LOL!

 

mokos23,

Find out if you can provide an update to this thread so we can find out how you handled the weekend activities.

 

1. met her neighbors, ended up moving a small light fixture, a small table with her dad, and a plastic table.
2. drank 8 beers
3. met her friends, coworkers, neighbors, childhood friends, and she has one cocky girlfriend.
4. it rained outside
5. she didn't make me do anything and just mingle with anyone there.
6. she was happy and grateful i came and supported her.
7. my folks thought i did the grilling, but i didn't. her neighbors did.

 

So basically...she didn't really want you to do anything. She just wanted to make your ass come out there to show you and your family who STILL run shit?

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Darksom1 really wants to ask more about the girlfriend with the cock.

You're not whipped, just being a good (boy)friend. Keep it up.

 

Hahaha...just fucking with you OP. I already told you it was the right thing to do! And you got off easy!

 

She didnt want you do anything but be there for her. And exactly what you did! Good job, you will be rewarded.