+1, come to think of it. they always get in the way. gotta find a better place to hide the bodies.

 

I feel like it also gets easier with age and if you have a new gf/wife at the time when the friendship starts.

 

fuck ex's, they are a waste of time and effort.

 

No for me. Honestly if you could yourself this question, why be friends with an ex-gf that neglected you for 9 months?

- RemieGino14 -

 

I guess it depends on the main reason for breaking up.

I avoid it at all costs. Its a little awkward when you are talking to your ex's new bf and you both have seen her naked and both know she has nothing to offer.

:thumbsdow

 

^^

 

Ok, I'm noticing a slight pattern here gentlemen..

Were you actually FRIENDS with these ex's?

Doesn't sound like it to me

 

Like everyone else said, they're "ex's" for a reason

 

Some yes, some not so much.

 

my gf well ex now, made it clear that she never ever wants to see me again. meh i played the good guy, its all about how you go out

 

Yes, I'm sortof' friends with almost all of mine. That is to say that when/if I see them, we can hug and converse easily. Some of them I remain dear friends with and would not give up. These relationships have been in tact for many years. They are dear to my heart even though we don't share a bed. I don't interfere in their relationships and they don't in mine. When need be, we can bounce things off each other. They know me well enough and care for me enough to tell me when I'm wrong...not just when I'm right. We chat a couple of times a year.

I just can't carry hate. It's draining. Plus LIKE KEN SAID (hi Ken) we were friends first.
I'm too old to be in any relationship with someone who is insecure enough in themselves to think that I cant have conversation with anyone other than them. True said that the "in love, sexual relationship" is over for a reason. We can still talk once in a while.

Ken, my ex-husband was invited to my next wedding. He and his girlfriend came. We have kids. It was fine.

 

It depends on your definition of "friend." To me a friend is someone you can call up, meet somewhere with and kick it for a while. So there is no need to do that with an ex. If you randomly run into each other in a grocery store and have a 5-min convo, i wouldn't consider that a "friend."

 

I am not friends with any ex's, I don't hate them or wish them any ill will either. I just have enough regular friends that even if I was "friends" with an ex, I would have any time or the desire to make any time for them. So for me, there just is no point.

 

I guess that all depends on peoples definition. I never really considered girlfriends to be "friends". They are their own special category!

 

Anyone that would find you intolerable is a moron.

 

I'm not allowed to be friends with my ex's, even though most ended on good terms

My current girlfriend flips out when she finds pictures of my ex-s online... like literally, I'll come home and she'll give me the "Oh you're in trouble, guess what picture from four years ago I found on facebook today..."

 

Sounds like she has some serious self esteem issues.

Hell, maybe subscriptions to issues.

 

^ Werd. Its a personality flaw.

Actually... I think it might an asian girl thing. Prior to her, I always dated caucasian girls who never had a problem with me staying friends with my ex-s. Maybe it's an asian woman complex...

My GF also has this weird belief that an asian guy who's dated "white girls" expects too much from asian girls... apparantly I'm a man whore.

 

I just know for a fact I don't wanna deal with mine. Broke up cause she ignored? She turned the tables on me making me look like the bad guy when I'm here missing her everyday and she never even attempted to call or let me know anything as she studied...then few weeks later found out ALOT OF THINGS AFTER WE BROKE UP. Nice way to end a relationship, eh?

She was my first unfortunately. So we'll see next relationship how things work. Hopefully I don't get screwed over in the ass. Learn from mistakes and whatnot.

- RemieGino14 -

 

Im friends with my last 2 ex's . However I wasn't for about a year or more after we broke up.

 

All but 2 of them. The ex-wife and the girl I was seeing before I met my wife.

Otherwise i still communicate with about 4 of them. Kind of cool really, I still know and talk to my first girlfriend from High School.

 

Nope. Not really.

There is one of them I may speak with a couple times a year. Other than that, no. It's not really that I don't ever want to talk to any of them. It's more that I don't have anything to say to any of them.

 

wow that sounds like my ex...she tripped out when she saw a picture of me and my friend that i went to prom with. then she got pissed that i didnt know her when i went to my prom and got jealous that she didnt go with me to mine but i went with her to hers..

 

And you put up with this why?

 

Werd.

 

x 3. I too find asian girls more jealous than white girls. I never had jealousy issues with any white girls i dated but it's happened more than once now that i have yellow fever.

 

No

 

I tried. We seemed to enjoy our interaction, it was an innocent relationship. Her on-again, off-again bf is a jealous case, always slams the door shut. I basically told her after that .. give me a call when YOU are in control of YOUR life.

 

only if it wasn't a serious relationship.

 

Clean cut except for one who is my sis-in-law's best friend. I'm really good friends with lots of girls, but if we've dated, its over. So in the case of my s-i-l, I'm nice to the ex when they're around, but I don't make any point to hang out with them. Honestly, it sounds slightly bitter, however, I just don't see a reason. We got together, it didn't work out for whatever the reason and as a guy, continuing to see you adds nothing positive to my life. I want new and different things.

My wife on the other hand occasionally talks to a few of her old flames. Used to bother me early on because, as I've clearly stated, I believe in clean breaks. So it took some time to get used to it, not like she talks to them often, but I somewhat get it. In the end, if you truly can cut relationship ties and just be friends, so as not to complicate your and their future relationships, fine. I have a hard time believing that a future girlfriend or their future boyfriend won't mind though. Clean cut == simplicity for me.

 

But it also started for a reason, didn't it?

 

i think its very hard for some people, but also easy for others. im not friends with any of my ex's, but i have a lot of friends who seem to have no problem staying friends with numerous ex's

 

if it was a SERIOUS relationship, no because it is too weird. short flings, yes. my most serious girlfriend removed me from fb, blocked me on aim, and doesn't even acknowledge me there even when shes standing 1 feet away from me....

 

married when I was 28 and she was 21. We were married for 16.5 yrs and yes, at the tail end of the relationship, we were friends and not lovers. Divorced now for 7 and we are good friends. You know how you know they are exes? When you look at them and cannot in the mind's eye do them.... LOL!

my current g/f has alot of jealousy that we are friends but will not admit it. Now, when I met my g/f, was told they had a good relationship. Huh! When they see each other (they have 2 kids), they do not even talk to each other.

my current g/f has actually sat on the same table with my ex for dinner. She'd rather not but will if needed.


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I just want to be in good terms with my ex... I'm still young but we really can't tell the future. So, were just good friends for now I guess.

 

No. They're an ex for a reason, fuck them all.

 

i use to be with SOME, but the boyfeen gets pretty jealous easily; so to prevent any dumbass arguments i just let it go. so no, not n e more really

 

 

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RUN!!!

 

as stated before i think it depends on the people and how serious the relationship was. i'm still friends with all but one. it was a guy i was dating and then he just completely ignored me out of no where and a week later he has a g/f! haha it ended up being for the best.