Are you still friends with your ex(s) ?
05-22-2009, 12:36 PM
#1
Senior Moderator
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2003
Location: Better Neighborhood, Arizona
Posts: 45,641
Received 2,329 Likes
on
1,309 Posts
Are you still friends with your ex(s) ?
I am with mine. We've both moved on, she's married and has a kid. I'm engaged. We were friends before our relationship and still are friends and talk about all kinds of stuff. She's even invited to the wedding.
I don't think its weird but some people have mentioned it is
What about the rest of you? Still keep in touch? Hang out? Threesomes? (for some of you sketchy people
)
I don't think its weird but some people have mentioned it is
What about the rest of you? Still keep in touch? Hang out? Threesomes? (for some of you sketchy people
)
05-22-2009, 12:48 PM
#3
Drifting
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Madison, Nj || Woodbridge, CT
Age: 34
Posts: 3,185
Likes: 0
Received 1 Like
on
1 Post
yes, I am for the most part. except for my most recent ex, who decided to cheat on me, then after I broke up with her.. she blocked me on aim, my phone number and facebook... makes sense right?
05-22-2009, 01:06 PM
#4
yeah i'm bored.
Join Date: Aug 2002
Location: clifton, nj
Age: 44
Posts: 3,128
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
Some yes, some no. Too many factors to really spell it out, each situation is different. It does cause issues though. Even if there's no issues between me and the ex, the new girl will almost always have some insecurity about it, if she admits it or not.
05-22-2009, 02:27 PM
#5
Can someone tell me what the point is of having an ex around?
In a big city like Los Angeles there's something like 500,000,000,000 people around, and you have to hang out with a girl that either dumped you for another guy, or was so incompatible as a girlfriend that you had to ditch her?
In a big city like Los Angeles there's something like 500,000,000,000 people around, and you have to hang out with a girl that either dumped you for another guy, or was so incompatible as a girlfriend that you had to ditch her?
05-22-2009, 02:32 PM
#6
Senior Moderator
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2003
Location: Better Neighborhood, Arizona
Posts: 45,641
Received 2,329 Likes
on
1,309 Posts
What if she's been a friend for years?
So it didnt work out but you both remain on great terms. Its not awkward for me or her.
So it didnt work out but you both remain on great terms. Its not awkward for me or her.
05-22-2009, 03:01 PM
#7
Drifting
i think its a case to case basis, but for the most part, they are called ex's for a reason. i wouldnt be friends with one, but civil (i.e. i run into her at the mall, etc) and that's it.
if you guys were friends for a long time before you two became an item, then its a gray area.
if you guys were friends for a long time before you two became an item, then its a gray area.
Trending Topics
05-22-2009, 03:58 PM
#9
Suzuka Master
QFT. This is the single most important reason I don't keep in touch with ex's.
05-22-2009, 04:40 PM
#10
Suzuka Master
I used to keep in touch with my exes. But as I got older, I realized that there's no point anymore because I'm not going to meet up with them again in person especially now that I'm married. Besides, it might be uncomfortable for my husband and/or to an ex's current significant other.
05-22-2009, 04:49 PM
#11
Yes, except for the one I was closest to. Some still send me Christmas and birthday gifts and most remain friends. None of the women I have been involved with have felt intimidated by the friendships that exist with my ex(s), and I honestly would not dismiss a friendship with any of them if given an ultimatum.
Terry
Terry
05-23-2009, 04:30 AM
#17
I shoot people
some, and for awhile there... one was just a booty call, then she moved far away 
05-23-2009, 06:35 AM
#18
as its been said.... there's no point. I say hi and do the typical small talk to most of them when I see them, while on the other hand I avoid some places just because of a girl I used to talk to.
05-23-2009, 06:54 AM
#19
אני עומד עם ישראל
Nope, ex's from HS sure we are "friends" on FB or MS. Other then that, nope. There is no point to.
05-23-2009, 06:58 AM
#20
Earth-bound misfit
I'm in contact with my ex-husband, but wouldn't call us friends at this point. Maybe someday we'll be able to get back to that point, maybe not. My SO is fine with whatever amount of contact I decide on. I appreciate his security and trust. I think they're two very important factors in a relationship.
05-23-2009, 07:46 AM
#21
Go Giants
They are on my Facebook....Thats about it.
05-23-2009, 12:13 PM
#23
Stage 1 Audi S5
There is one I talk to every few months or something randomly but for the most part no. I can kind of see why you would want to talk to them since you spent so much time with them and all but it didn't work, why keep that around?
Oh, you need a good year or so before you can even think about talking to them IMO
Oh, you need a good year or so before you can even think about talking to them IMO
05-23-2009, 01:49 PM
#24
I imagine I'm still friends with mine as we tend to start out friends to begin with. When, or if, it proceeds to another level and they start finding me intolerable we go back to being friends.
Terry
Terry
05-23-2009, 10:17 PM
#27
Senior Moderator
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2003
Location: Better Neighborhood, Arizona
Posts: 45,641
Received 2,329 Likes
on
1,309 Posts
I really get along with her well, we just have virtually nothing in common except movie tastes
05-23-2009, 10:23 PM
#28
One on the right for me
^ - Exactly. I was really good friends with a girl for about 4 years before we started to date. After about 6 months we realized dating wasn't going to work. Remained good friends. She is someone who is worth keeping in touch with
05-23-2009, 10:39 PM
#29
It seems to be a lot more common for people to remain in contact (of some sort) if the base of their relationship was truly founded in a strong friendship. The relationships that happen from nothing, straight to "relationship" seem typically easier to make a clean break.
05-25-2009, 10:29 AM
#32
I talk to my exs from time to time. Didn't hear from this girl in about 6 months and a couple of days ago, she e-mailed me saying she is getting married, and is 4 months pregnant. She is only 21 and her husband to be is 31. I dont know if I can go to that weadding, it would be a little too weird I think
05-25-2009, 10:32 AM
#33
Team Owner
nah, it's over for a reason.
05-25-2009, 12:55 PM
#35
Can someone tell me what the point is of having an ex around?
In a big city like Los Angeles there's something like 500,000,000,000 people around, and you have to hang out with a girl that either dumped you for another guy, or was so incompatible as a girlfriend that you had to ditch her?
In a big city like Los Angeles there's something like 500,000,000,000 people around, and you have to hang out with a girl that either dumped you for another guy, or was so incompatible as a girlfriend that you had to ditch her?
05-25-2009, 07:56 PM
#38
Drifting
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Ottawa, Ontario
Age: 40
Posts: 2,132
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
friends with one, she asks me for help with her Russian classes sometimes. I help her sometimes, but thats about it.
Was friends with another one for a while, went out for drinks when travelling to her current city in Kiev, soon after coming back realized I'd rather not continue keeping contact.
others no.
Was friends with another one for a while, went out for drinks when travelling to her current city in Kiev, soon after coming back realized I'd rather not continue keeping contact.
others no.
05-27-2009, 02:13 PM
#40
wishing for a GT-R
i dont keep friends with my ex's cause it just gets messy. there is def always some sort of a jealously there no matter what people say and i just dont believe in goin backwards so why keep them around lol