This girl we used to date, we were so close for three years it was stupid. Like saw each other everyday and talked on the phone forever.
But she always played games, she liked to flirt with other guys. Did a bunch of shit that used to piss me off and we'd stop talking a few weeks at a time. This summer she topped it off, I fell back in love with her again, and she told me she loves me and I thought we were going to be together and shit. Well two weeks after she tells me she is with some other guy. Mind you this is the second or third time she has done something like this.
At any rate this was beginning of July, and I told her never to call me again, I will never have anything to say to you.

Now that fight has occurred before and usually results in one of us saying sorry two weeks later. But it's been 4 months now and I haven't said one word to her, she has tried to make amends when she was drunk once but nothing besides that.

Last Night though, this was her away message:
"some nights i need you more than ever... and you have no idea. And almost every time, i'm one digit away..."

Should I continue being a dick and not calling or iming her?
and what should I do when she does IM or call me?
Just be like go fuck yourself, or be nice about it.
Tony

 

Don't call her. If you're ever gonna talk to her, let it be when she calls you.

No chance I'd ever call this girl.

 

Ok yeah I won't call her, but I know she will call me
especially when she knows I see her away messages and that was it last night.
So what do i do when she calls me, my buddys that know both of us have tell her to fuck off, but they been saying that for couple years now.

 

Sounds like they know what they're talkin bout.

This is the same type I used to date...stay away...it's not worth the wasted effort.

Give it a few years & maybe you can give her a fresh start(if you're both young, etc.).

 

Bro, don't fucking call her. Same situation I had with my ex. I was with her for a while, things got fucked up and we broke up. And after we broke up she started seeing someone else but still kind of kept stringing me along saying that she misses me and all that shit. DON'T FALL FOR IT! She just wants to know that she still has you whipped. After my ex and I broke up for the 2nd time I don't call her or go out of way to talk to her, even though she tries to make amends every now and then, but I'm not having it, and I'm MUCH happier

 

dude, it's a friggin trap...don't fall for it, mang

can't you tell if she calls you via caller ID??? don't pick up, simple as that...if she leaves a message or not, doesn't matter...erase the focker

she's insecure bout what she wants/who she wants...that or she's a flat out liar, in either case yer getting played...think of her more as a nuisance than a potential gf

 

dont call her, if she calls you thats a tough decision. Ask her what the hell she wants and hang up.

 

you're definitely not being a dick here... she's played games like this before & she's just pissed that u finally realized it. if u start talking to her again, she'll know her magic girl-powers still work on u... and believe me, u don't want that to happen

it sounds like you've been pretty smart about this situation for a while now... don't screw it up!!

~sara~

 

shes trying to play you

but by not calling her your pretty much doing what you can

it'll change if she actually does call you

 

Guys I appreicate the advice and it has just strenghtened my confideence in my decision not to talk to her.
Only problem is this girl is hot and rich, that is what would normally get me back.
As far as Caller ID goes, her Cell is private and so are a lot of numbers of people I know so I can't just not pick up.

Mesmerize: It's good to hear it from a girls perspective, What you said about the "magic-girl powers" never saw till now but it's damn true.

I know this Phone call or IM is coming, and when it does I'm just going to say what I said back in August when she wanted to talk, I have nothing to say to you and either sign off or hang up.
Tony.

 

Here's my question for you: does she drop cash on you when you guys were together? If not, mang, fugetabout it. That "gurl power magic stick bullshit" is a bitch. :angry:

 

you need to focus more energy on girls within your area code.

 

u seem very concerned about money, who cares...this broad seems like quite the headcase, who cares if she's got dough. girls that dont have $$ are usually more chill and less stuck-up anyway

 

broaden yer horizon's Tony

4Pumped is right...chics closer to you help a lot...besides, PLENTY of rich bishes in yer neck of the woods

i have no doubt you'll find someone

 

damn... you are usually all hardcore and womenizer!!!! what happened here?!!?!?!?!?

seriously stop reading into shit!!!
You have to decide what is good for you... Call her if you want to!!! It may befor real this time or it may be the same as it was.. but at least you dont live with "WHAT IF"... I cant live with asking myself that!!!!

besides it was an away message from an IM.. it could have been a tupid general IM away message sent to everyone.. Maybe she thought it was funny and cute.. MAYBE IT WAS NOT DIRECTED TO YOU AT ALL...

You obviously WANT to call her so seriously... JUST DO IT or do whatever you feel might advance you for WHAT YOU REALLY WANT WITH HER!

 

HORRIBLE advice :shakehd:

did you not just read his original post???

#1, you can tell Tony's miserable by the shit that she does, and he'll never forget it, and knowing Tony, i'll bet it'll be circulating in the back of his mind IF the 2 of them got together legitimately...if he couldn't trust her then, how can he trust her wholeheartedly now??

#2, if he calls her, all that's gonna prove is that she's got him wrapped around her lil finger...giving her more ammo to fuk with his head

#3, the damage has already been done...there's too much of a strain for it to work out...i believe in no regrets and all, but calling her is inviting more trouble, and there's no light at the end of that tunnel...i don't care what she says to Tony, she can't change that drastically

all this is is a classic case of one person treating the other like shit...it's just this time, it's the female treating the male like shit...and all yer suggesting is for the person getting shit on to go back for some more!!! who needs it???

 

and you think living with it al;raedy fawkin him up is good?!
Better to call and say whatever he needs to say!!! NO ONE BUT HIM can decide what he wants... If hew ants the punishment than he should call... IT COULD GO EITHER WAY!!! I know I wouldnt want to sit here and say what if i called, what if I didnt...
My advice to him was this: THE IM RESPONSE WAS PROBABLY NOT DIRECTED TO HIM!!!! but if he feels inside that he needs her or to say something to her, THEN CALL!!!

I think that is damn good advice!!!

 

ummmm no

he already knows the outcome...why are you setting him up for more of a setback???

 

Casper is clouded by this:

Seriously, from what I gleen from pga, he's not hard up for pussy, so why put up with the BS if he's not desperate.

 

wait a fawkin minute... I am not clouded by shit!!!
second off this isnt about getting laid...
Chris... I am not setting him up for shit.. ULTIMATELY ITS HIS DECISION... he can't get this girl out of his head apparently so he needs to find a away to get closure... ITS THAT EASY!!!!

I can't see how me telling him to follow his heart IS WRONG!!! How are you guys telling him to say ignore your inner feelings and fawk her right!? Beacuse of her past issues and what she has done you cannot say that it may not work, and no one can say that it will... It up to him to siply decide forhimself if:
A. he thinks it will work
B. If it wont work
C. if he wants to try
D. if its not worth it to him
E. if he can get passed it wondering what if

So honestly regardless of what you guys think and/or what i think, Tony will have to decide that w/out us...

PERIOD!

 

Plain and simple, if the bish done it once, she gonna do it again.

 

why the fuck are you reading her away messages? put her on BLOCK

 

Soprano,

he'll never get closure, don't you get it??? he already tried getting closure, and now he's back to square one again where he's thinking about her all the time...calling her isn't going to change that...all it's going to do is prolong getting her out of his head...the fact that Tony has to go to her proves she's not remorseful or is willing to change for him...she's just going to mess with him some more, and that's it...it'll drive Tony crazy, and there goes another 6 months of his life stressin over a dumb game-playin bitch b/c he thought with his heart instead of thinking with his head...granted he SHOULD act with his heart, but when something like this comes around that involves pain and suffering mentally, you gotta close the doors to your heart and use common sense logic...SHE IS BAD NEWS, PERIOD!!!!

as i've said before, the damage has already been done, and the scars will never heal completely...all you're suggesting is pouring salt on old wounds

if Tony was smart, he'd realize it's not meant to be and just move on...after personally witnessing some of what she's capable of, that should be closure enough for him...besides, would you want to go out with a girl who does this kind of shit??? i know Tony...behind his front, he's just as passionate as we are, and i KNOW he wouldn't want his gf to be like that

Tony claims this is the 2nd or 3rd time this has happened with the same girl...when is it enough??

 

But Chris I am not disagreeing that she is BAD NEWS!!!! But what I am saying and what you said with "if Tony were smart" is that he needs to make this choice ALONE!!! What may be good for you and me may not be good for him... Its an inner decision that needs to be made. Tony needs to realize what HE thinks he can handle. He may be a really strong emotional person or a weak one... maybe he is just reall y that much into her above and beyond what we have ever known and/or can imagine!!! Maybe its just the challenge!!! I dont know, YOU dont know and He apparently doesnt know... All of our back and foreth advice will only confuse him more because he confused himslef by over analyzing... what I am saying is that he needs to step back from himself and consider advice that he would give US in this situation.. BUT NO MATTER WHAT - ITS STILL HIS CHOOICE REGARDLESS!!!! we cannot force feed him an opinion... If he wants to call to VENT, say I love you or get closure than so be it!!! He can get closure if he wants... Being that he is in this cycle means he never has!!! He needs to BURN THE BRIDGE - NO CALLS, NO IMS, NO LETTERS, NO NOTHING!!! tahts closure.. If he can do that then he will be fine.. If he cant he needs to do something, even if something is calling with her!!!

 

sure we can...we do it every day on here

sorry, just had to


nah i see yer point

now Tony, don't be stupid

 

at night is when people are the loneliest. if you've tried working things out numerous times, it's just time to move on. it's all rooted from self-esteem. you know what you want in a gurl and how you wanna be treated. NEVER make any exceptions for no one bc thats when you lower your standards. you deserve better than that. everyone deserves the best, no exceptions. when i say its about self-esteem, you get weak at night when you are chillin by yourself. the image of the ex starts to sound more appealing. you're trying to substitute and make excuses. the best thing to do is be strong and do your own thing. dont answer her calls, talk to her, etc.

 

Oh my GOSH, I'm stuck in a Dawson's Creek episode.

I will sift through all this and come up with my responses shortyl, I know all are despertly waiting. So give me a little time to formulate some good responses.

 

GOOD!! Make sure you do what you feel is best for you!

 

First off, Aaron --> I have no problem getting girls in this area code, I been through more walls then asbestos, just that no girls I meet here are as good as the girls back home.

It's mad easy to fuck chicks at ASU, I got a Cell phone filled with booty call numbers. But those girls aren't girls you would want to date. If I can fuck you the first night, that's great but I ain't ever going to date you. How many other nigs have you been fucking, ya know what i'm saying.

I know the message was to me 101%. There have been a lot of signs lately of her trying to either get me to call or IM, or her hinting she will do one of the same.

I think Chris is 100% correct here, he knows some shit about this girl from the past two summers. My dad even hates her cause what she done to me, I mean I know if I weretot alk to her again, we might become real close again, hook up, talk on the phone forever, and just go through the same bullshit cycle.

So staying away is def better, I mean like I said it's not hard to get laid.

But this isn't even about getting laid, I have been closer to her than anybody else like on Earth. She knows everything about me, so that shit makes it tough sometimes. She can't be trusted though IMO, and as much as I think it might have changed I doubt it has.

Shit, please what Front
Nah there have been two girls my whole life that have broken down this asshole, prick, fuck em and leave em attitude. Sucks, soon as I let my defenses down I get stepped on, that's why you gotta be a prick 24/7 no exceptions.

Anyhow what Casper said about being into this girl more than you can imagine or know is kinda true. From 11thgrade till this previous summer (4 years) I was just in love with this girl. I mean I prob screwed a good 30 girls in between, but none of them really ever meant what she means, and I have thought of her when having sex sometimes.

He needs to BURN THE BRIDGE - NO CALLS, NO IMS, NO LETTERS, NO NOTHING!!! tahts closure.. If he can do that then he will be fine..

and I have done that for four months, and at times it has been diffucult because you're so used to having that, and I know it's been diffucult for her cause firends of hers are friends of mine.
But I'm not getting weak here or anything this wasn't about me calling her cause I would never intiatie anything, it was just what to do when she calls.

And I think I know my answer, Just be polite about it "I have nothing to say to you, sorry." Then hang up.
But just to get back at her for what she did this summer i.e. bringing her new boyfriend to parties and introducing him to me on purpose right after we were supposed to be back together
I'm going to make her feel like shit once or twice this winter break because she will be at the same parties as me (I.E. bring this girl a year older who is so hot to a party and introduce the two and be like oh i didn't know you had a friend named allie, and be like I don't )

The funniest thing about this whole situation, is this girl Sarah.
She was allie's good friend in high school, and I was set up with sarah like in 10th grade, and allie hated that shit and fucking did everything possible behind the scenes to end that shit. and I always had a thing for sarah cause she is the nicest and sweetest girl you can ever imagine, and she is always in the background and shit.
damn Rye, NY girls are too much work.


Better off just getting laid with the morons in Scottsdale,.


I should add, I have broken cell phones, holes in doors, holes in one of the exes face all becuase of this girl. My problem is I dont' like cry or get sad I fucking get that hot quick temper.. It's just not a good situation, however rich, or hot, or into sex this girl might be it's not worth all the other shit. I can find all that shit somewhere else. And she's a party girl by 25 she'll look like crap I bet.

 

I agree with most. Move on and kepping hitting those walls!

 

shit got room for me... I hate NY women!!!