She goes to me, You would be the greatest person in the world for me, I want to be with you and I know my life would be perfect. But I don't want to hurt you.

Does she not realize by saying that it is hurtful

What the fuck is wrong with bitches.

I should just stick with the fuck em and leave em, but this one girl. DAMN, known her my whole life.

 

she said that to you at 10am? WTF?

Just act as if you dont care what she says.

 

Have you asked her why she thinks shes going to hurt you?


Or does she know about your fuck em and leave em thing you do, and maybe shes afraid youll hurt her?

 

she knows about a few one nighters, but she knows it's not like that with her. She's been in my whole life, and she's still there. As much as everyone else changes or we change as indivduals, together we are always the same kids. It's like things with us are always the same.

I think cause of what happen this summer, she started really getting into me again and of course as was I, and she fucked me over again becuase she met someone at a bar one night. ANd I know she feels horrible, she apologized 5 times last night for it, she goes I can't believe you still talk to me. I told her if it was anyone else I would have cut you off 3 years ago, but it's you.

THe only thing that keeps me from not being a total pussy, is why would I want a relationship with someone my age. That means when i'm 45 she's still 45. Shit guys only get better looking (if that's possible )when i'm 35 I need to be dating a 21-24 year old.

But then again she is amazing, I mean we know more about each other than anyone else, shes hot, shes rich, and I get an amazing feeling just being around her. It's like we can fight all we want but once we see each other it's like nothing happen at all, and believe me we have had some fights that would shock anyone. I have no idea, i'm such a fag.

 

Seriously, dont worry about the age.

If shes rich she can fix all that with plastic surgery, if after all those years, her looks still matter.

I think if youre with her all those years later, looks shouldnt be the only thing that matters.

I dont know about you, but a lot of people say that they want to date young girls when they get older, but I think when you get older, youre going to be tired of putting up with all those young high maintenance girls.

i reread your post. youre not a fag to have feelings for someone :P

 

yeah but it's a sign of a weakness, to have feelings like this. I'm letting my guard down and allowing someone to have something over me.

And I can always take care of the high maintenance girls I grew up in Rye and live in Scottsdale, hahah I mean that's the best practice in the world

But what it boils down to looks, money aside, Is I still love the girl and shes the only person I would want to be with.

And I dtold her that last night, I was fucking honest to no end.

I said listen Iout of all the girls I have dated or been with or hung out with, I know you are the only one I could ever imagine myself being with for a long time and you are probably theo nly one I would ever be faithful too, I just love you what else do you want me to say.

 

well, If you told her this, what are her hang ups besides she doesnt want to hurt you?

I would think with the kind of history you two share, she would jump all over that opportunity.

Showing a bit of weakness still does not make you a fag. Sometimes you have to go out on a limb for something you love, and sometimes it bites you right back in the ass (most often case for me)
But you know, at least you told her now and put the ball in her court.
If you never said anything, you would probably kick yourself in the ass 20 years from now, wishing you said something to her.

Or i could be wrong, im assuming. I dont know you that well

 

haha, I guess it's tough to explain, but she knows this

WE both know how each other feel all the time, we have been through this cycle for the past 4 years and we honestly know each other so well it's sicken.

ANd yeah she says, I know how well you can treat me, I know how amazing with woudl be to be with you, but i'm afraid I will screw up again and hurt you and I Don't want to lose anything with you this early


And of course she knows I got the magic stick

Do you think she just is doing this cause she does eventually want to be with me, which it seems. But doesn't want to screw up and hurt me again and lose me when she knows she isn't ready to fully be with me. ya know what i'm saying

 

she is the FEMALE VERSION of you player!!! she hold you on a leash while she is "fawkin and leavin'em"... then 3 yrs from now when she is ready she will have you!! FAWK THAT!!!!

Stand strong.. you are such a hard ass and not when it counts!!! Make yourself MAD at her... really fawkin angry and you will start to hate herr.. It works for me!!!

 

okay exclamation man..calm down!

just go w/ the flow...you may get hurt, but if it's meant to be it will be.....take the advice that someone gave me today "follow your heart" I know it's a lot easier for people to give you solutions when they arent IN the situation....you are the only one who knows all the info and in the end you have to make the decision....if you ever wanna talk about it hit me up on AIM...you know my name

 

Me = 43
My wife = 32

You are correct sir.

 

and who was that?! the exclamation man!!??!!??

 

yes...although you absoultely HATE the guy...and you think i am making a mistake...oh well....i agree....sometimes you can't let go of things so easily

 

no.. I agree you cant let go taht easily sometimes, but you should have enough self respect and self esteem to break through it and see that no matter what in life you have to see that you are #1 for you!!! If you dont you will get walked all over (ie TONY and KATIE)... You guys need to make sure that you are not being compromised i nlife and you cannot let another individual run your lives!!

 

She has issues to resolve and obviously, she feels that she needs to figure them out for herself, without you in the picture. Are you kidding me? When anyone gives you the "I don't want to hurt you" line, you should say, "Can you please fucking elaborate for me and be more specific and not use fucking made-for-Hollywood lines?" A relationship always boils down to open, honest communication. What she said to you may sound honest and open, but only at surface level -- in essence, she has told you nothing. Healthy relationships aren't Disney fairy tales where everything's honky-dorky in the very end -- the best relationships must search for, deal with, and overcome pain, stress, issues, and pressure. So basically, tell her to get out of her ambiguous, idealized-fantasy state and give it to you straight!

If she keeps up her smoke-and-mirror games, really assess what kind of future you will have with her. Perform due diligence on her, if you know what I mean. I mean think of the worst-case scenario ... you two married but she's asking for divorce and half your shit because, "I just don't want to hurt you."

 

Yes! you dont know how many people I used to know that would think the world was over because of one little argument.
If you get along 100% of the time, somethings not right.

 

but i think that the content of these arguments and small issues play a huge role in a healthy or unhealthy relationship as well.. fighting too much over stupid shit is not good either... The major thing is how they are resolved...

 

yes thats true as well.

me and my guy bicker over stupid shit all the time, but at the end of the night were happy and in the same bed.

 

you know what girls' problems are???

they cannot think outside the box...for ex, women don't wanna date younger men = total horseshit...i act more mature than about 75% of chicks 5 years older than me i'm not kiddin...but guess i'm just totally out of the running right away...another example, women think it's too good to be true = wake up and smell el cafe...what will it take for you guys to get it??? want us to club you over the head and drag you back home by yer hair?? cuz i'll try that if it'll increase my chances...and then you guys have the ballz to stand there, balling yer eyes out, whining nobody gives you attention

the absolute ultimate in dumb things women do...she's going out with a total a$$hole who represents everything she doesn't want in a bf, meets you and realize yer the best thing going for her and would make the PERFECT mate, you guys start to fall for each other, then she ups and goes back to her boytoy b/c she "still loves" him

 

bitter party of one?


but seriously. girls suck, but guys do their fair share of being confusing and making us say WTF.

 

hardly, venting fustrations on behalf of the countless "nice guys" in the Long Island vicinity who regularly get dicked over by stupid bitches...and i never believed the "girls are 2 years more mature than their age" bs either

 

wrong

guys are simple...we're easy to read, and we react to things women say and do...women by far read too much into crap

 

lol yes because you personally know every man on the earth.

My fiance can be just as complicated sometimes.

im not saying girls arent stupid and complicated. they fucking are and i hate them.

but you guys dont make everyones lives extremely easy either.

but for the most part, if you have food, sex, toys, and some time alone somtimes, I find you guys are pretty easy to maintain.

 

i hate women. I really do.

 

OH trust me our fights in the past have not been little ones.

One of them involved me walking out on her in Vegas (we drove from PHX) and telling her to find her own way back to NY.

One involved me walking in on her and her old BF.

Those are just surface fights, this has been quite the fun ride.



ANd Amis: I would not mind the marriage and split up cause she has more money then me and i'd love to take 1/2


BTW, if you are reading this. I love you for your smile

 

yer fiance is high maintenance

 

actually hes not at all. but when we get in arguments, i swear he pulls every woman trick in the book.

makes me wonder if he does it deliberately to avenge the male race or something.

 

or perhaps he's living..........................2 lives