Especially since she wasn't a girlfriend or anyone that was SUPPOSED to be monogamous with you.

 

:rolf::folf:rflr:

 

How exactly is that supposed to work?

 

there is a chance that it's not mine and she wont get the prebirth test. As for why she wouldn't be a good person for me. She is just not my type lets say. She was the first girl I slept with , and she was a bartender. Lets just say that I don't remember much of those nights.

But yes I do intened to get the test (she is do around christmas), but if it is mine i will be in it's life. It may sound very poor but I now we would never make it very far.As for an Actually the cruelest and most ignorant is that someone would be against haveing a relationship with someone that has a kid from another person. I would never look so poorly at the fact they made a mistake and wish to see it through.

She says that I don't have to sign on as the father, and so on so forth. But I could never live with myself to just not sign on and be a father. And granted I could probably find away to "get rid of it", but thats just not in my beliefs. As for "doing the right thing" . I just don't see living in hell and being unhappy for 15-20 years and then leaving her because I did it for the kid.

Anyway my biggest concern is if anyone has advice on relationships that revolve around having a kid from someone else involved.

 

Just because she is the mother of your child does not mean you have to live with her for the rest of your life. You can still be a good father to your child even if you don't want to be with her. Get the results from the test and then move forward. The main thing right now is to be supportive!!


*Pay child support if it's required by the courts (No use in getting mad now, the deed is done!)

*Visit your child on a regular basis, not just once every blue moon.

*Do your best to maintain a good relationship with the mother.


Dude you're 25 and this is the kind of stuff that 18 and 19 year-olds stress about. You'll be fine! As for your dating life, all you can do is be honest with future dates. You're gonna run into some women that do not want to date a guy who already has a child or two. But there are some out there that don't mind this. Personally I would take myself out of the dating scene for the time being because I've got something more important to do and that's helping to my raise my child! Hope everything works out!

 

Originally Posted by amisconception
OK, I'm not going to take a popular opinion here.

Do you know what the Hail Mary is? Well, it's courtesy of Tom Leykis. Basically, you use it to manipulate this girl into getting an abortion, thus freeing you from the burden of raising a child. OK, so this is how it works: You take her out to a VERY expensive restaurant, maybe buy her something to wear, you have a couple glasses of wine, and then take her out somewhere exciting, and fun (optional) like some nice club. You show her an awesome time. You charm her, and push all her feel-good buttons. After the night's over, you tell her "Look sweety, I've had this on my mind ever since you told me you were pregnant, I want to be with you for the rest of my life, do things with you like we did tonight, and I want to have children with you, but right now isn't a good time, it would be unfair for the child, and for you. If you abort it, we can save money, move in together, and prepare for the future." Or something like that, you get the gist of what I'm saying though.

Now, she might fall for it. So, you setup an appointment to have an abortion. And if/when she follows through with it, you DUMP HER as quickly as possible (after taking her to McDonalds for a suasage and egg McMuffin



best advice so far

tell her that you have a disease, make it up. say you are anemic or have some fatal blood disease and that you wouldnt want to raise a kid knowing that he would be subject to that

i dont know....i would be shitting myself if i ever had a kid before 30

 

You are insane. Raising a child isn't only something 18 and 19 year-olds stress about. Raising a child isn't a casual affair. He obviously has things he wants to do in his future that he DEEP-DOWN knows either won't be possible, or will be MUCH MUCH harder to do as a parent. The financial stresses of parenthood are obvious. And, because most people aren't all that horrible, they have this natural inclination to spend a lot of time with the child. So, that's two things that children take away from you: Resources and time. Those are very crucial variables in a young man's life, and you're saying let's just rip those away from him, and he'll be fine. No, that's not fine.

First of all, any child you DO raise will be subject to the environment in which you will raise him or her. What happens when you're young, unmarried, and financially inept? You don't have a home to raise a child in... some of us still live with our parents! And what about college? We should just give that up?

I know, there are a lot of VERY good reasons for having children. It's a new life, it's really not the END of your life as you know it, it's just a heavy responsibility, but you shouldn't ALWAYS blindly accept the fact that you're having a child without weighing the pros and the cons. Who knows, it may not even be your kid.

 

you are a GOD to me! that is freakin' brilliant! Is it too late to try that with my wife now that my daughter is already born?

 

I agree with Warren here...this is what I would do.

 

So you HAD to get married...

 

HAIL MARY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Let me sum it up for you so you understand.

NO ABORT= YOU LOSE

Say good buy to your income. No disrespect to you, but if I were a woman i would consider you damaged goods. In the long run, you are financially F'ed.

Get that test and pray it's not yours.

 

*accidently of coarse* kick her down the stairs...LMAO....Im totally kidding. I have a kid of my own.