Ok here is the situation. Girl is living at home going to college full time working part time. Her pops wants her to move out to learn how to be more independant. I know she can't afford her own place. Soooo I have this feeling that she will have no where to go and I don't want her movin in with people she doesn't know. I think I am gonna offer to let her stay with me until she gets settled and on her own feet which should be by the end of summer. Do you think that this is a bad thing for me to do? We been seeing each other since Nov. And she is good to me but do u think she will move out later or try to find a way to stay?

 

people on the board don't even know you dude....wtf

 

I think you need to fill in a few important blanks like how long you have been dating, do you own this house, how many roommates you have, outstanding immunities, your social security number, 3 peices of mail, and a passport

 

^^ before sound advice from the seasoned therapists of Acurazine can be offered, we need the full story with cliffs and nudes.

 

hm... This is a tough call. If you are serious about her, then do it. But there has to be rules and I am willing to wager that you will most likely be footing most of the cost/bills... If you can afford it, you like the girl then go for it. At least you will get sex for the $$$$$ ...




PS. Make sure you research a little on Common Law marriage rules.

 

just like people on the board dont even know you either

 

Its just 6 months into the relationship. I would say no way because if she's comfortable there, she won't make an effort to move out. Not a big difference from moving out of her parent's house IMO.

 

Who are you?

 

tell her that sje can stay for a few months but you already have a new girl in your life thats more important to you, and dosent talk back (your new R1)

 

i was thinking the same thing

 

post her pics then I can give ya my words of wisdom

 

I'm just gonna assume this isn't the same skank that was sleeping with one of your friends a while back? That being the case, how exactly do you propose kicking her out after a few months? "Honey, you're cool and all, but get the hell out - now."? If she moves in, she ain't moving out til your relationship goes south.

 

She's gonna make your pad her perm stomping grounds. If you want to give up your freedom go for it.

On the other had, if you blow a whistle and she starts drooling and feending for cock, you're good to go. Nothing is better than getting your dick sucked on demand. If she moves in you should make it clear taht she wil be your concubine, other than that, there is no reason to help her out.

Oh and you're 27 dude, you've been seeing her since November. We're not in high school anymore, 7 months is not a long time, you don't even know this chick.

You know that expression, "don't shit where you eat?" You're on the verge of eating your own shit.

 

and then shitting your own eat!@?

 

very true, very true!

 

Where is Barnacle Bill!?

 

I'm lost...Did she ASK you to let her move in, or you going to ASK her.... and how old is she ?

 

Does she drive one of those denali's you got so cheap?

 

Isnt the point for her to be more independent?

I vote Unless you want to further the relationship.

 

actually she has the 05 durango and i didnt get the denali look at the gas prices bro. I got the bike instead.

 

is she gonna ask u to buy her tampons next

 

you're an idiot.





oh ya, i can understand the not-wanting-her-with-strangers deal, but i say
you've only been dating since Nov, that seems a little early

 

Definately not..too soon and she will never leave until you guys break up.

 

Dont Do It!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!

 

I thought the whole idea of her moving out was learning independence....well, she aint gonna learn it living with you.

 

Thats why I opened this thread.

 

My girl moved in with me, and can't afford the rent, or her half the bills. Her car has been dead and not moving since october so she needs a ride to and from work. Plus all this debt I didn't know about magically appeared after she moved in with me, and I'm pretty much trapped. Don't do it, she won't learn to fend for herself living with you, cuz she'll feel fine letting rent and such slide, since you're "in love" and things like that, believe me, I'm there, and I'm trapped

 

Me too.....

 

And you are?

 

 

 

haha...ok dontlet her move in got it...will try hard to say no.

 

Don't try...

 

If it was a short-term thing to help someone out in a time of need, I can see that being a very generous gesture. However, this is a bf-gf relationship that's already in the works. Unless you have a very creative way of ensuring that this will be a temporary move, I don't see her leaving your place at the end of the summer, like you predict.

Also, have you checked that her father is agreeable? I know she's an adult and able to make her own decisions, but since his goal is to have her gain some independence, he might not be too keen of you taking her right in. I mean, if she's not able to sustain herself til the end of summer, why not just let her stay at home for the extra few months so she CAN move right out on her own?

Personally, I wouldn't move in with a S.O. unless I see a bright, long future ahead. If you're unsure of where this relationship will lead, I'd steer clear of sharing a residence. It'll make things so difficult if things don't work out between you two.

 

Very good points........

 

I'm still wondering how old she is. That makes a big difference.

Anyways, I guess everything has already been said. If she needs to be more independent then she needs to move out on her own.

 

So have you moved in yet?

 

It is very generous of you to offer for her to stay with you. But as you pointed out, she might actually end up wanting to live with you for good. So in the end, what matters is the kind of relationship with her. How serious are you with each other?

If the future still seems uncertain, just help her with the transition of moving out of college and finding a place for herself. At her age, I think it's best for her to live on her own.

 

Pfffff....as IF I would actually move in with him!

















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