hey im too attached and i think i care too much about what she does

what can i do to, i guess, care less, and not be so attached

i feel like that would be better for the relationship cause i think im more into her then she is into me

anyone know what im talking about?

 

It's normal to get too attatched. Just try and ease up a bit and things will work out over all. She might think you're some creepy, obsessed, "has-a-fuckin-shrine-in-your-closet" stalker guy.

 

no its more like she did some stuff this weekend i didn't really approve of, and i wasn't really cool with her hanging around w/ guys that were dropping acid and shit

im not her dad i dont have to worry about her like i am

 

Well, try and talk to her about it. It's a guy's nature to be the guardian/protector. It's instinct. Just express your disapproval, and if she doesn't like it........


Dunno what to tell you from there.

 

yea i tried which is why i realized im too worried cause she got really pissed

she doesn't wanna change which i can almost understand, but some of the stuff she did was stupid

basically im just being too protective and kinda drama-queeny so i all i have to do is just care less

 

Dude, you are plenty normal if you care about your girl. But, ask yourself...Why would she WANT to be around these types of people...?

From your posts about her...I don't really think you have the problem. Sounds like she's just an attention whore...I'd get my shit straight & roll. I've been there & done it before, unfortunately.

You sound like a good kid, you really don't need a head case for an ol lady.

 

I think this chick lives for the "disapproval" part. Maybe she has some sort of "bad girl" complex...

Python, don't feel bad about being concerned...it doesn't mean you're jealous/over-protective. I mean...we aren't talking about having a beer...we're talking acid freaks...I think anyone in their right mind would be upset.

 

I agree with Chris. Any concerned partner would be upset about their loved one dropping acid and getting mixed up with the wrong crowd. In my last relationship my X hated my friends because he felt that they were a bad influence. Not that they did drugs or anything, he just thought they were spoiled bastards and was trying to turn back the hands of time for me...but yeah the concept is the same...the concern. It is great that you care enough to try and intervene and stop bad things from happening. I hope that things turn out for you

 

Yes, listen to Chris on this one, I was JUST about to say some of the same things. Do you WANT to hang with a girl who does those "stupid" things you speak of? Your being concerned just shows you think about others and their well-being. I dont think that is anything to be ashamed of.
Again, like Chris said, it sounds like she might be the one with the problem, not you. It doesn't sound like you're too attatched, just looking out for her.

 

alright ill see how it goes but trust me, i hear what everyones saying

 

Good. I think you'll be alright.

Learning young is the best way. It took me 7 years to figure out my X-bitch on my own...she was the EXACT BIOTCH you are describing in your posts. Girl was a preachers daughter...

Ha...she wasn't even all that when I think back on it...what a fuckin waste of my time. I run into her from time to time...she still tries to play me...uses the same ol ploys she did, same moves, etc...Funny part is...I'm 30 now...we dated(off/on) up until I was 22...I see every move she makes now that I'm a wise ol man.

 

Oh...you ladies & your flattery...

 

I would dump her and move on.

You're obviously not happy with her, and "caring less" isn't really an easy thing to do (understatement of the century). She's doing things you don't agree with, stop trying to change her and get out of it.

 

Well put...my fellow broken-hearted brethren...lol