Here's a short list of things not to do with a girl you're not established with yet.

1) Don't call her too often. While a girl always likes a bit of attention, it's also important to give her some breathing room. If you're not a couple just yet, once a day is plenty.

2) Don't jump her bones right away. Guys often feel the need to make a move by at most the 2nd date, but there is no real time limit as to when to make your move. If the girl hasn't given you some sort of sign or opening, just be cool; girls love a man who have a lot of self control. Pick a time limit for yourself, say 5 dates or 3 weeks, you decide and if the girl hasn't given you any openings by then, she might just consider you a friend so stop hanging with her on what you think is a romantic date because you're just wasting your time and money.

3) Never let the girl pay. There's nothing worse than a cheapskate and if you tell the girl you'd like to go dutch, you might as well tell her she's nothing more than a friend. Even if the girl offers, don't accept the money. Show her you can afford a nice meal and you're showing her you're not a jerk. Once you 2 are officially together, you can let her ease into paying for some meals.

4) Never, ever ask a girl if she has romantic feelings for you. This is probably the number one rookie mistake that's made to this very day. The reason this mistake is so common is because it always seems to work in favor of getting the girl in the movies and on TV, but the truth is in real life, it just doesn't work. Asking a girl if she has feelings for you, not only shows a lack of confidence on your part, but it puts the girl in an awkward position where she'd rather answer no instead of yes, even if the no is not the true answer. Girls appreciate a guy who's smoothe and confident so charm her, make her laugh, but never ask her if she likes you because a true love doctor would already know the answer.

 

Be careful with this one. If a guy starts paying for everything a girl does right away, she might start thinking he's a wussy or needs to spend money on girls to get them to like him. I like to do it the other way. If we're just hooking up or whatever just let it be known that it's on your own (i've had girls ive hooked up with buy me drinks once or twice), then once I consider her my girlfriend, ill pay if we go out or something. Plus around here at college, most girls have someone paying for everything she does and wants anyway, and his name is "daddy." One daddy is enough, they don't need or want another one.

Flawless tips otherwise.

 

I said in the beginning only. You can't go on paying for dinners forever, but you can't look cheap, not to say you have to buy her love. That would be doing dumb shit like buying jewelry and stuff. Dinner has to be on the guy, but if she starts making reservations at some outrageous restaurants, you have to put your foot down and say no way to a pricey place.

 

can you make one for girls?

i mean, seriously... we don't want to fuck it up either.

 

Ladies, if you do the opposite of rules 1-4, I can guarantee you success. Call the guy often, jump his bones immediately, offer to pay at every meal, and tell him you like him.

 

1. Yep. You have to give her the gift of missing you. If you constantly call her, you're not give her the chance to just think about you and miss you.

2. Yep. In fact, don't even touch her first. First contact, whether holding hands, hugging, etc., should be made by her.

3. Yep. I always pay. Being cheap is a huge turn off.

4. Mixed on that one. But talking about feeling shouldn't come up until at least after two or three months and multiple dates

 

No way. I'd be WAY suspicious if a girl called me all the time, slept with me right away, paid and told me she liked me right off the bat.

The best way to make sure you get a good guy is:

1. Make the guy make an effort.
2. Don't be a tease or too easy.
3. Don't play stupid games.

 

I'm talking about beginning stages only. When I was a young buck, I made this mistake. I asked the girl how she felt about us and where we were going and she gives me the old, "we're friends" bullshit. The funny thing is, I knew she liked me, but when I asked her about "us", she was never going to admit it. Since that time, I've changed my approach drastically and I don't ever feel the need to ask how a girl feels about me because I already know if she does or not. Now I just act on my instincts and although some guys would find it risky to make the first move without verbal confirmation, it's the verbal confirmation the guys seek that lead to their downfall.