ok well

as title, hvae been trying to dump her for a few months but i don't want the word coming from my mouth

i acted like i wanted out but she still treats me so gd...gosh...

i don't even buy her anything for christmas or not planning to get her anything for V-day....and she still doesn't care...

what can i do?

the bottom line is to make her dump me instead of me dumping her

 

cheat on her. lol jk. tell her lets be friends and thats it.

 

stop being such a god damn fucking pussy about it and tell her you aren't happy with your relationship anymore.

ugh, there's nothing worse than someone hanging on because they don't have any balls to end it.

 

Honesty/communication prevent 99% of relationship problems.

 

i don't really have a legit excuse


i don't want to hurt her

 

well in fact i have a couple girls in hong kong are waiting for me, so i don't want a gf in canada

i know i will be back in a few years, but i don't want to on hold with too many girls

 

Show her this thread

Seriously, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. There are chicks out there who will put up with ANYTHING in order to keep their man, she sounds like one of those.

 

samkws = sopping wet pussy

 

Be a man...just tell her...

 

but i know that it can be hard sometimes...

 

 

just do it, its not fair to her, better sooner than later

 

did you not read what i said?

not having feelings for someone is a pretty legitimate excuse for not continuing the relationship if you ask me...

you're hurting her more if you stay with her.

 

just tell her you dont like her. Avoiding the subject is useless unless they take the hint, which she isnt.

 

Just do it. It's never easy to dump someone, but it is necessary for the sake of both of you.

 

You don't want to say break up to her coz u don't want to hurt her? That's worng and so worng. You are hurting her more now than later let her know u want to end it. You are just wasting her time and ur time. Isn't fair to her either. Also feeling too. u don't need any excuse just go tell her what u want and what u feel.

 

haha i was gonna say the same thing. Seriously though, stop being a puss and just tell her the deal.

 

so howd it go. Give me her number, ill do it!

 

The Truth shall set you free.

 

Man i was in the same boat as you not too long ago. Im not an expert but maybe some of the these things can help you...

* Dont tell her you dont like her
* dont tell her "its me not you"
*dont dis her or treat her like crap because she doesnt deserve that.

i know it can be hard to do but just tell her that you dont feel like you are ready for a relationship at this time and that you need out. Trust me man once those words come out of your mouth and youre done, it feels like you dropped some weight off your shoulders. Shell get over it and so will you but if you really care about her and not hurting her than dont keep her hanging.

 

Get it over with. You'll look like an even bigger dick when she finds out that you've been holding this over her head. Imagine how you'd feel in her shoes. If she finds out how you've been holding out on this, she'll be pissed.

And trying to get her pissed at you to dump you isn't helping. She'll likely never speak to you again. If that's how you want it to go, that's your perogative. Imagine what her/your friends will think of you. You've got less than 24 hours to do this, or we're all going to hate you.

 

^ yup

 

My above statement was done with the insight of the wifey too.

 

By stringing her along, you are co-opting her from finding someone who does want a ltr with her................. aside from the artificiality of your current relationship. THe longer you drag this out, the worse it gets, and trying to get her to dump you just so you don't have to feel guilty is a little passive aggressive and just a touch sadistic.

If you really do like this girl, cut it clean and let her get on with her life and you with yours. I think you're reluctant to break up with her because she does treat you like a prince, and you've grown accustomed to it. Get over it, cut it clean, you both move on. Just do it.

 

Don't be vague or beat around the bush about not wanting to be in the relationship with her any more. Actually, being blunt and giving her a reason for closure ( I really am just not attracted to you any more) something that will allow her to move on and forget about you when she gets to the next guy. Hell, you could even tell her you cheated lol, but its not fair to her to let it drag on.

 

1. cheat on her
2. call her a stupid bitch
3. tell her that she's fat
4. back hand her

If she stays with you after that, then that's one crazy woman.

 

Just tell her straight up that you don't see a future with her and that you don't want to waster her time.

If you don't feel it, you don't feel it. No need to sugar coat.

Also tell her not to call you and that you will be doing the same. cut it off completely clean. its best for the both.

Although she will probably go through shock, denial, anger, sadness, and acceptance. if you cut if off clean it'll make it easier.

 

In the end, most women prefer closure and a clean break.

 

If y ou don't want some psycho bitch after you do it now and do it clean. Just sit down with her and talk to her. Tell her you have fell out of love and that you don't want to string her along. She will respect you more and won't talk as much shit about you behind ur back. And she might let you still hit it occasionally. =)

 

Hey Sam,

Did you tell her yet? Wait a sec ... was it the same girl you brought to Times Square when I was there with giovanni, Street Spirit and ndawood???

 

she found out i have contact with another girl so she wanted to break up last week, but this week she's back to my home....

and yes....that was her~

 

i was working at Salad King on v-day last week so i had an excuse not to celebrate with her, i didn't even get anything for her too

she got me a card and we went for a late nite dinner after work but i was kinda bad in mood that night coz i got ripped off by the cheap valentines at work(no tips on v-day...WTF???)....

and on the next day she found out i was talking to another girl so she said she will not see me again blah blah blah and return my home keys

i thought it was working but then this week she forgive me and came back again.....sigh...

 

What do you mean "contact" with another girl? She found out you were talking to her romantically or something? You need to just cut her loose instead of waiting for her to dump you. It doesn't sound like she is going to leave you anytime soon and will try to justify anything you do just so you can stay together.

 

i figured that out

but it's not the right time yet

it's her b-day next tues, gotta leave for a couple more weeks at least

 

I don't know, IMO its not right to drag something like that out just because its someone's bday. I mean don't dump her ON her bday, but maybe this way she can have a fresh start. Just my though

 

I knew it! I wondered why you would go off and talk to us and leave her there alone for so long! If I did that to my GF, she would KILL me.

One thing I've noticed in life ... if you treat a girl crappy from time to time ... she sticks around. Guess something called 'challenge factor' -- they need some sort of challenge to make them WANT to stay in a relationship. Some women (even men) need that sort of attention-seeking / clingy like behaviour. Sad, but true.

As for her upcoming birthday ... I was in the same situation. One EX I had ... her dad was suddenly sick before I was going to break up with her ... I stuck around for a bit but my conscience couldn't keep up with the charade. Dude -- you gotta do it. When she goes back and thinks about things ... she's gonna hate that b'day she had with you ... (ie "he stuck around just 'cause it was my b'day...")