Three years with my girlfriend, the one I loved the most, the one I want to marry. Pooof, it is all about to dissappear. Due to family issues, she had to move to the otherside of the earth. Man friendship is the only thing you can have when two are separated by millions miles of ocean. I just can't describe the feelings inside of me. I thought I might be able to convince her to stay by popping the question, acutally I have been looking for a beautiful diamond for quite some time... but I just I would've made things worse if had done that.
Something I have learned -- Love is just not fucking enough.

Time to get that M3

 

That sucks man. If this relationship is meant to last, you will survive this move. You will have options as you move down the road. She may be able to return or you may be able to move to her. It all depends if it's meant to be. If not, the feeling you are feeling will fade in due time.

 

why would popping the question make it worse?

and may i ask, how old are you guys?

 

I honestly think that she would have stayed with you if you guys are already engaged, granting of course that you are both done with school and ready to settle.

 

Me 29, her 28.

She had to go back because of family issues, familty is the most important to all of us. For one, I do not want to add complication to the mess by adding another burden to her and me by popping the question... Second, even if we do decide to be together, her family issue still exist, I certainly do not want to go through the same mess after marriage, which will be even worse. For me, marriage is a promise, husband and wife are not supposed to be apart.

Therefore, it is just better for us be friends for now, and wait and see what happens later in the future. Just like Stejus said, if it meant to last, then it will, otherwise, it is facts of life.

Oh well, hate growing up, got so much to deal with... I wish I were 5 years old, and playing my toy matchbox cars all the time...

 

some times there is more important things than come up in life where a boyfriend or girlfriend takes a back seat. 3 years is a long time but its not that long in the long run. i def know how you are feeling. but like it was said befor time will heal your wounds and also said befor if its ment to be it will happen just let nature take its course. keep your head up brother

 

that sucks dude =\

 

well.. what if you moved closer to her while she's with her family? would that be possible?

other than that, i really don't have any suggestions that really sucks. but depending on how long she is going to be away, you may not really have anything to worry about. are you guys able to keep a long distance relationship rather than breaking it off altogether?

have you guys talked about marriage at all? because if you haven't, maybe you should mention it, so she has it in the back of her mind that you truly love her and want to be with her forever. that might be a helpful reassurance in a troubling time for her, but you still don't have the stress of an actual engagement.

 

m3 time

 

yup.

 

you must have read a page out of my book recently....I know how you feel exactly...love really isn't enough...and love doesn't always equal forgiveness.. hope things work out for you.

 

See...There comes a time when "Family" has to take a back seat. Christ, you are both almost Thirty...when do you get to have "YOUR" lives???

I think it is unfair of her and her family to essentially destroy your relationship...either that or she doesn't REALLY love you.

 

I have to disagree with that. Its hard but many people make a long distance relationship work. My bf and I are on two totally different sides of the country now (HI,FL) and its going pretty well so far. If you two really love each other you could make the effort despite whatever family problems she may have. There is always time for a loved one if both parties are willing to make time. I may be missing something but I don't see a real reason you can't continue some kind of relationship, even if its long distance.

 

Like ^^^ if you really love each other , you can make it work. I have been on a long distance relationship for a year (we have been together for 3 years also) . I visit her twice a year. So is not impossible. someday you will be together forever.

 

seeing someone twice a year doesnt constitute a relationship in my book. You guys must be really open.

 

UU-sorry to hear man, i also lost a special one about 7 months back. we were dating for 3 yrs. turns out, her pharm school is 5 minutes from my work. go figure right? it wouldve all worked out, but she wanted to focus on school.

hang in there man, only time will tell and heal.