well my first post in d&R

here's the short version
my ex and I have gone out for three years and she broke it off with me late May, couple days after our anniversary. I was pretty much heart broken and depressed for months. I even hung out with her in hopes that she regain feelings for me. But lately she's been telling me about the guys hitting on her or how "it was a mistake giving this guy my number" types shit. Everytime I heard this, my heart takes a beating and i slump back into where I was months before.
Should I just stop all communications with her and move on? Btw, I really thought this was the girl I was going to marry.

 

yup, move on.

Only way to move forward.

 

sorry for some misspelling..typed in a hurry

 

Life's a bitch sometimes, sorry man. Quoting one of my less eloquent friends "sucks being a guy, sometimes you get your dick slammed in a door, fuck bitches"

No matter how much you want it to work, you'll never be able to change the way she feels, and if you do it will only be temporary and she'll make you hate your life later on.

 

I've been in that boat before (girl I thought I would marry 3+ years of dating, she broke my heart, etc.). Cut off all contact with her, and if she complains about "why can't we still be friends?" bullshit, just ignore it and move on. At this point, she already has, and you my friend, need to look out for number 1

 

Yep...it's obvious she's moved on and sees you as an interested friend now - therefore, feeling comfortable telling you about her life now as it is and not needing to hide anything. If it's not working for you as things are now, then stop hanging out with her.

 

https://acurazine.com/forums/dating-relationships-14/god-i-hate-feeling-325040/

Go ahead read the whole thread.

Then we should start hanging out.

 

Actually, a girlfrend that is trying to be "just friends" would not be so rude as to discuss her current sex life with you, at least for a decent time of mourning................. I think her behavior is a bit rude, and the best way to deal with it is to avoid her. Tell her you don't relish the details of her unhappy relationships, and that if she can't sustain a friendship discussing other things, it ain't worth it to you. Then stick to your guns.

 

It's been six months. It depends on how long she's taken to deal with their break-up. She's either quite over it, or is just putting on a mask to make him feel as though she's moved on. Regardless of intent, if it's making him feel uncomfortable or unhappy, then he shouldn't put himself through it.

 

thanks guys for the responses....


the thing that is very hard is that we have the same friends. If I hang out with a certain friend, it is certain that she will be there as well...

It is very hard to acutally look at her now. every since we broke up, she has been wearing some provocative clothing that enhances her already big boobs (think flat stomach with c-cups).

About the telling me about other guys, i asked our best friend about it. He has no clue why the hell she is telling me. She has done a complete 180 and i want her back soo badly..

To tell you the truth, I acutally got a rebound girl a month after the break up. i think that made the situation worse. what do you think?

 

While it may be tough to have the same set of friends, it doesn't mean you have to directly talk to her or look at her. If she brings up stuff you rather not what to hear about. Cut her short and tell her straight up, you don't want to hear this. If she continues to talk about it, she's probably being a bitch and just trying to rub shit in your face, I should know I've done this before. And if it even bothers you to see her, I suggest you take some down time and chill at home to reflect for a bit until you are confident enough to face the world again.

 

I don't know why but some ex's do stuff like that to see if they still have you hooked. It may just be a way for her to feel better about herself (at your expense). Don't do that to yourself. I agree with ric and Psycho above.

 

I just may take this advice...Thanks

Hopefully I can be good friends with her later on in life

 

My friends tell me that by doing so, she feels like she has her fingers around me, tagging me along. I will put an end to this...I can't allow myself to feel shitty all the time. ever since we broke up I have been very anti-social

 

Nothing wrong with being anti-social. If anything, find something positive to do in the meantime to keep your mind off things. Take a class at your local JC, volunteer, or go to the gym more and take your aggression out there. The main thing is to get your mind off her and thinking about other positive things.

 

Post her pics
Stop the bleeding! stop hanging round the bish - Get rid of all reminders of her.
Dont stay home Go out with friends. Move the fxck on !

 

easier said then done... i would post her pic but i have too much respect for her

 

>> she has been wearing some provocative clothing that enhances her already big boobs (think flat stomach with c-cups).

MUST

POST

PICS!

 

If you aren't over her, hanging with her can only ruin your life from here. As said, she probably wants to keep a certain control over you.

As for getting rid of reminders, have fun with that shit. Go buy some fireworks and attach some pictures to it. WD-40 torch, anything. When I break me and my ex's pictures out to do this stuff, shit I'm gonna have a blast.

 

Move on man, she's been playing you before the break up. The more you see her the more her ego gets bigger, she's stepping all over your man. Move on and find someone else, that should deflate her head. You may think that she has sympathy for you being down, but that's not the case. It's for her own pleasure to see the how far she can take it to her enjoyment. When she talks about other guys with you, she looking to see the pain in your eyes and every reaction you make. Kick the bitch to the curb and show her your better...IMO

 

fxcking

she wanna see ya miserable yet you "have too much respect for her"

 

don't be an amoeba.

(search for amoeba if you don't know)

 

1st of move on and stop hanging on to hope when most likely there is none...2nd Find yourself a fuck buddy 3rd post pics and we will rate her for u.... trust me you will feel better.

 

Too bad she doesn't feel the same way about you.....

 

Fucking AMEN to that!!! I agree 100%

 

 

I will take everyones advice and move on...
As for pics...I took some naughty ones and she deletes it before i have a chance to save it to the comp... Otherwise i have no pic of her. Currently my friend holds all the pic since it hurts too much to look at.

Guys, once you have a girl with some melons, flat ones just don't cut it anymore....need to find another "blessed" asian girl. God knows thats easy to find

 

You never said anything about her being asian with a flat stomach and C cups.

nevermind, be strong, move on. Realize that she's just playing with your feelings and emotions. How can someone who cares for you do that?

 

I must have left that info out.... he he